I Planned my Funeral Service last night

i know why u did it but can see why it upset your kids. i would like to plan my own & need to do that. think i'll just put it in my lock box at the bank & tell them to look in there before they plant me. lol.i have already told them i wanted elvis ' gospel music played. they better do that for sure ot i'll come back & haunt them. lol.

i dont think that is a horrible idea to be honest. my dad passed away in early february and my parents had NOTHING planned and quite honestly, you are in no condition to make any plans at that point. fortunately for us, we had a close friend, who is the minister of my parents church and he helped a great deal. but we didnt know what his favourite Bible verse or what is favourite hymn was, so we (rather i - being the only child) picked.

well, sorry to say but I too m finding it bit strange..u can never plan things like this before hand..I would never do it..

my mom has done the same thing and i think it is a selfless act of kindness so that your children do not have to make decisions under duress. good for you for taking the bull by the horns. if you feel the decision was right then why do you care what your friends think? or what anyone thinks for that matter. your son sees it this way because he loves you and cannot think of life without you so of course he is not going to be on board with it. you did the right thing. now it is done.

I say hooray for you, while others may be uncomfortable with the idea, but it sure saves a lot of subsequent sibling rivalry and arguments over who gets what. Believe me, when my grandma passed on years ago and had nothing planned, my momma and her sisters and one brother had a terrific row over just about everything. Momma didn't want much of anything at all, the other two sisters fought like hellcats on wheels over every little thing. So no, I don't think you are weird at all, nor courting danger as it prevents the problem of squabbling over who gets what and costs less to your estate if it isn't wrapped up in probate forever and a day to be heard in court and no worrying about any relative contesting parts of your will. I made my own wishes known to my husband if I should pass into the next world before he does and I know that he would honor those wishes. It is better to be prepared as life as we know it is just a blink of the eye in the eyes of eternity, and I know I would not want to spend my eternity wondering if my family is still on speaking terms, which of course my momma and her sisters are barely civil to each other. They tolerate each other, but that is about it.

I am only 21 and believe it or not I have already told my fiance the arrangements I want. First off I want to be cremated. There is other stuff I already have decided as well. The only thing I haven't decided is where i want my ashes but hopefully I have plenty of time to decide.