How do you crush a crush?

wow... what brought this scenario to mind?! well a marriage is a binding thing despite what has come after or before... it is based on trust at least from the perspective of the other person. If the relationship is that much of a scam then just get out of it and don't hurt the other person. but to have a sort of affair and trying to further a simple crush into something more is just plain heartless.

Kiss them both and have fun with both of them! O' come on it isn't a real situation so, let me have fun in my imagination, can't I?

You use the biggest crush crusher of them all..... A REALITY CHECK! A crush is nothing short of a fleeting infatuation, but it can certainly grow into something more very quickly if we don't give ourselves a damn good reality check and deeply consider what we're feeling and why. Once we work this out, we then need to give ourselves a good butt kicking and then go fix what's broken.

you.. stop talking to the person and move on with your life unless your willing to give up the relationship you are already in.. but that's just jumping from one sinking boat to another isn't it ?!

Hi dawnald. I would never let it happen to be honest. I love my other half too much. Without her I would be lost in this big bad crazy world. A crush would be just that and I would never let it mess up the best relationship I have with my partner

been in that situation twice.. lol.. i just told my hubby that i have a crush on someone.. and he's totally cool with it..:) He told me that he's comfortable with me, having a crush on someone because he knows that he's the only one that i love..:) i think its normal to have a crush on someone even if you're in a relationship or even married.. You just have to be honest and tell your partner that you're having a crush on someone..:) And besides, its only "crush".. nothing really serious about that right? Except when you choose to nurse the feeling and develop it..:)

It is natural to be attracted to someone even after you are married or are in a relationship. But to make that crush into an affair or not depends on your will power and integrity. I love my wife so much that the little crushes dont match up. I can frankly tell my wife about my attractions and laugh it off.

I think you have admit what your real feelings are about that person. But that does not mean that you are giving in to your feelings. Feelings are flimsy they come and go. Love is another thing. Love is a decision so you have to stick to your commitment. The only way to crush a crush to continue loving your partner.

Well I'm pretty sure that getting a crush on someone else while you are married or in a relationship is normal. I think that if it goes farther than that then obviously something is wrong in your relationship. I think the best thing to do is try to distance yourself from that person till the crush goes away.

I've had a few crushes since I've been married. For some people it's totally natural. I pretty much always have a crush on someone, but 99% of the time it's a celebrity I'd never have a chance with anyways, so it's rather harmless. My husband knows about it as well, and knows that even if I had a chance, I wouldn't take it, I just enjoy looking at the person. It has happened once or twice that I got a crush on a co-worker or a friend. I would just try to avoid them as much as possible until the crush had subsided, which it always did in a matter of weeks.

Life is just too short. If you are in a real situtation with someone AND COMMITTED to this person then the crush must be handled as just that. BUT, if you feel the crush has more promise than the committed relationship does then I would give it some serious thought. The crush has to be evaluated from a very minute level. Does this constitute moving out of the other relationship. And it so you need to that tactfully and with dignity for yourself and the other person. Life is short. Evaluate it as such.

I just hung on by my teeth and fingernails until it went away. I don't know if anyone can escape this kind of thing no matter how much you love your SO and family.

I think the most important thing is to keep good relationship with your wife or your husband.And you cannot show your true feeling toward your friend,if they did this for you,it's up to you to choose

I would definitely make sure that I have a very clear talk with this friend as soon as possible and let him know how I feel. I would also let him know that it is impossible for me to act on those feelings because I am already in a committed relationship and cannot risk destroying it. Sometimes emotions can be really strong; thus, I would still talk to my friend but try to keep it to a minimum for a while, at least until I am absolutely sure that my feelings are under complete control. In the meanwhile, I would spend as much time as possible with my partner and remind myself that this is the relationship that I am happy with and that I do not need anything else.

It has happened to me before. I mean, the relationship i was in was not too serious, but nevertheless, it was a relationship. Well, i think i just stopped talking to the 2nd guy because it just seemed like the right thing to do. now, i do not alllow myself to start "friendships" with peole who are really attractive.. lol. Not to mention with my boyfriend i just dont have eyes for anyone else. :]