would you tell to your friends the bad part of your partner?

I guess your friend has nothing else to talk about except her husband. This is not a good idea to be talking about their private issues. I also had a cousin who spoke always about the negative issues of her marriage. I embraced her ones and asked her if she did not have the courage to discuss this matter with her husband. Her tears just poured out. She admitted that she could not discuss this together with her husband. I suggested that they see together a family therapist for help. Now they are talking both positive & negative issues in their relationship. Sometimes you just have to break the ice to find out the real core of the problem. If you are close friends ask her if this is the case. Good-luck!

she is just stupid. she should not een be married. its now kool that she talks about him like that. she must have issues about herself and she takes it out on her husband, it is stupid girls like that, that cause a bad time for a real woman like us to find goodmen. But i am lucky i found a good man and we ar engaged to be married next yr n April.

hi it depends if she is my closest frnd then theres nothing wrong if she can help me out in solving that aur changing that one to good. but it depends on the things and the person with whom u want to share have a nice day.

In most of my posts here i talked a lot about my husband. He is one man nobody will dare invent negative ideas upon. My husband is such a sweet and loving person and this traits reflect on his overall personality. I only have nice things to say about him and i would be lying now if i tell you otherwise. I have an officemate who is just like your friend and i feel sad for women like them. All i could do is to ask her about some little things that her husband contributes at home and which she seemed to have forgotten. Gestures that displayed some positive qualities but just went unnoticed because she is preoccupied in always finding some faults. My friend is one proud strong willed woman but i hope to penetrate her soft spot and help her see once again her husband's good side. Hi cass! ^_^

well, i have several points i'd like to discuss. first, if you are my confidante, i would probably tell you some negative things about my husband only so that i'll be able to vent my feelings out. but then, i strongly feel that whatever happens in the bedroom should just be between us. i have already participated in a discussion earlier where i openly admitted that my guy is a cheater, however, i can still proudly introduce him to anyone since that's not the only thing he's made of. but never ever compare one person with another as we are all unique individuals. if she compares too much, then she must really be very unsatisfied with her life in general. oh, but please dont get me wrong, it's not good to vent your feelings out on just about everybody who cres to listen, because sometimes, she might be telling everybosy about the negative things about her husband just so she can gaim sympathy from others.

Every now and then a critcism slips out, but I try to never tell anyone anything bad about my husband. I would absolutely hate it if he went around telling people all the bad things about me. We try to present a united front to the world, and even if we are arguing about something, it's not for the rest of the world to know about. If I were in a situation where a friend was constantly critical of her husband, I would have a hard time keeping myself from pointing it out to her. Especially if she was also constantly complimenting someone else's husband in the process. The two behaviors, combined, are extremely inappropriate.

Maybe she needs to take a look at herself and realize there are possibly things her husband doesn't like about her either. Would she want him to spout those things off to his friends? If he did, how would she feel? I try to remember to treat others as I want to be treated. This is such a simple lesson and so easy to follow. However most people choose not to live by that rule anymore. I wouldn't tell others about all of the negative things about my husband because I don't want them to have only that image of him in their minds.

Dear friend, I do had at times told to my close friends who could give a better guidence how to make it better. I also do had told it while we both had counselling and this was purely for the better ment of our relationship. But it did not work it was mere vain. I hate to say bad things of my partner to others. But I would tell only to those I am sure that I would get a positive remedy to solve these bad habits.

well t depends on u .if u thik u r close to that perso and that person is a trusted friendly u can otherwise u must not share such things with anyone at all.this would only worsen ur relationship .also listening to ur partner is a good thing .

I agree with you. We may not tell the bad side of anybody especially our relatives or family. Telling bad stories about them is just the same as showing our bad side. If i have that ind of friend, i would eather keep away from him or her.

I'm really careful not to speak ill of my husband. People are quick to form opinions on others based on something they heard and they wouldn't care that they didn't get the entire picture. Sometimes though I need to vent and I do tell a close somebody about something that happened, but I try to give things a funny twist so my husband doesn't end up looking like a villain (even if he had been totally insensitive or something).

Having a relationship or being a married person means that you are already accepted all kinds of characteristic of your partner in life it means that you are already matured to your self and you are now in the next chapter of your life. Actually for me it is not the right habit of a person that share's the negative habits or characteristics of the partner in life.They must talk each other what are the like's and the dislikes between them instead of telling the others. It's a Family personal matter or problem that must be solve just between them without any personal assistance from the others.

No, i wont tell to anyone about my husband. I really dont understand why other people like that. All i know is when you enter in marriage life you have to accept everything about your partner even it is bad or good. Dont you think the bad point of your partner is not your bad point too. If you think there are bad things in your partner, tell him and help him to improve the bad into good things. Do not compare person to other because God created us with different identity. Just remember nobody is perfect!!!

You should let your friend know that even though the grasses look greener on the other side, it is not really greener her friends might be going through worst that what she is going through.

It is possible that this is how your friend handles a bad marriage. She needs someone to talk to about her problems and her husband seems to be her biggest problem, at least for her. She should however limit what she says to only her closest friend with the knowledge that what she says goes no further. Regardless of how bad her husband is he does not deserve this kind of back talk. It may be that she is needing a way out but does not know how to go about it. She may very well need someone to help point the way. To tell anyone and everyone about his bad traits however shows a very real lack of love and respect for him and perhaps a divorce is in order. What she doesn't know or doesn't care to know is that by doing this it puts him in a no win situation with her friends. This is not fair to him or to her friends. If you truly love and respect your partner you would never tell anyone about their bad points. It is disrespectful and actually mean. Perhaps it is time her friends told her to either get out or quit complaining. She needs to be told what she is doing because she may not even realize it.

As much as possible I would protect my partners reputation so I would not tell anyone not even my closest friends about my partner. This will not help in the relationship because I think it is more important if I would just talk it to my partner the things that I would like to discuss about. This way , it is more matured and direct to the point. If my partner will be affected, then I will too so it is important to protect each other.

I do not like telling to anybody the bad side of my husband. I am so lucky because he has very minimal only about three bad traits that are not generally bad. I keep them to myself and when I talk to him I brought out the topic. We always practice honesty so that we will have a long and lasting and healthy relationship. I do not compare because I have loved my husband for who he is. My friends may tell me stories about their lives or their boyfriends or partners but them I just listen and give minimal advices. We all have separate and different lives. We all have different ways of solving problems and other issues we are facing. And I believe that whatever problem a couple is facing should be solved by them. If there is an extreme danger involve then that is the only time that we could ask for friends help. Let's say you are already being beaten by your partner then you should solve it first but if it still happens then ask friends and relatives help so that you or them can report it to the proper authority.

I won't share such things with any of my friend. But in the future I may share some bad parts about my female partner with some female friend and ask for help if required. But I can't afford to do such thing with some of my male friends. We male don't have that feminine habit of sharing each minor thing but only some important issues. Sorry girls but no hard feelings

No I would not always tell about the shortcomings of my partner. But sometimes if I am with a very good friend and something is causing a problem between me and my partner I will probably discuss the problem with my friend and seek his advice and if after that it becomes clear that the problem was because of me then yes I am very open to it and will readily accept it. I am not the kind who will always grudge .... be it anything in life. Sometimes I get upset and vent my anger but who doesn't .... but majority of the time I adapt to the situation very quickly.

Personally, i don't like to hear other women who always complaint about their partners. I mean, if you complant once in a while, it's acceptable. I like to be with friends who always have positive attitude of life and people. i am sorry for your friend, she should know that she choose this man by herself, good or bad, she have to go through all the thin and thick together with her husband, complaints won't bring you any good.