Why are Christians so uptight??
By jellymonty
@jellymonty (2352)
April 21, 2009 9:12pm CST
believe it or not it is true..I have discovered that it is easier to befriend a non christian, a muslim, hindu, budhist than it is to befriend a christian. What is wrong with us Christians? You meet a so called christian and either he was to jam your throat with the fact that he is holier than you and starts to talk like a pastor to you or he simply ignores you. Take for example here in my lot. If you notice that in other groups discussions are active and people are constantly participating in them and yet in here if one posts a discussion only 2 people respond and for those 2 people to respond it would be weeks after a person has posted the discussion.
And even when you go to church these days people are segregated.. everybody has his own little group and nobody wants to bond with a new comer. I have been living in London the last two years and Christians here are the most unfriendly people i've ever met. You go to a church and they only greet you when the pastor says greet your neighbour. After that nobody is interested in knowing about the new person that has come into church. And yet when I go out in the city streets non christians and others greet you with a smile and some even invite for a drink.
My point is why become a christian if you are not willing to share yourself with your brethen? Jesus was the most generous, friendly, outgoing and wonderful person and yes he was funny too. Shouldn't the fact that you have become christian mean you are friendlier than a non believer, you live, act, breath, walk, talk like Christ but sadly christians today do not seem to reflect his light.
I am writing this from my experience. Maybe some of you have different experiences to me but to me I have discovered that christians today are very conservative. I dont have a single christian friend. All my friends are non christians and they are absloutely lovely people. I dont understand why it is hard to befriend a christian. I would really love to meet a genuine christian who actually leads an example of what Christ told us to live by.
So once again people be active in here!! i think its a total shame that non christians are doing the job that christians are supposed to do.. COME ON PEOPLE!! LET YOUR LIGHT SHINE BEFORE MEN SO THEY MAY SEE YOUR GOOD DEEDS..
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@meandmy3 (2227)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Hon you need to move to the Southern United States, once the moving truck leaves your drive way you will have five people knocking on your door inviting you to their church and bringing you food, good food at that. When you walk into one of our churchs you will be greeted by everyone, the elders of the church will knock someone over just to shake your hand, the moms will be there to help you with your kids and get them to their class rooms, and make sure you find one you will enjoy as well. The music director will be there to help invite you to join the choir. You will be overwhelmed with the welcome you will receive.
In fact a lot of people here complain sometimes because we do behave in this manner.
I am willing to share my life, my believes and m Christianity with others, I will however never force it on anyone..
@jellymonty (2352)
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22 Apr 09
Alright then, I'm taking the next flight there!! Ofcourse I wouldnt want anyone to force another person to become a christian. That would be silly as God gave us all a free will. But cheers for the response really appreciate it... God bless you for that!
@abigailsavan1976 (79)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Your so right!! I live in Louisiana and most of the good christians I know are very loving, giving, caring, patient, and more. I am a christian and I have made many mistakes in my life even after I was saved. I know in my heart that Jesus is always there for me no matter what mistakes I make. He is always there to pick up the peices when no one else is. I have met my share of judgmental christians also, but they seem to forget that God does not want us to judge others; that is his job. He just wants us to love everyone, be patient with them, and show them the way. The kind of christians you are talking about are actually pushing so called non-christians away from God. Alot of the people Jesus hung out with were not exactly perfect like him, but he loved them and he was patient with them. God is love and peace. We need to remember that.
@cangel818 (4)
• United States
22 Apr 09
You are getting a response from a Christian who is not uptight. Neither are my Christian friends. We do not preach religion, we live it. We do not exclude others because of different beliefs. We welcome new ideas. Our community is made up of people who care about each other and love to get together, whether it is over a pot luck dinner or pulling weeds from the garder. I agree with part of your last line: Let you light shine before all. We should be doing good because we believe in what we profess to believe. We should not be doing things because we are Christians not because we are trying to sell Christianity.
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@amaine (2027)
• Philippines
22 Apr 09
Honestly, I am kinda surprised that that's how you see Christians, I am a Christian myself and I am sorry to hear that from you. Will you ever get to change your impression about us? You know, under this religion, we also have different personalities. That doesn't mean that Christians are all the same.
About being conservative, what do you mean by that. Does that mean they don't go out and have some fun? I am a Christian, I occasionally drink, I love hanging out with my friends, both Christians and non-christians. Yes, I have them both. I don't choose friends depending on their religion or their beliefs. We have our different beliefs and I totally respect each and every one for that. :)
I don't know how to explain my side actually, maybe we can be friends and I can prove to you that we are not what you think. :)
Cheers!
~amaine~
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@jellymonty (2352)
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22 Apr 09
yes conservative christians are usually people who have put boundaries on who can communicate with them. I am glad that you are a bubbly christian as that is what the world needs. From my side I am a very friendly, bubbly person but everytime I go to church or meet christians they dont seem very friendly towards me. But when I meet a non christian they are absolutely lovely and most of the time we have a bonding, long lasting frienship. I'm a christian myself so I find it odd.. That would be nice to have a my lotter for a christian friend! cheers for your response.
@renemouche (843)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I understand what you mean. But I think for various reasons now a days when someone says the word christian people automatically think conversative, but we all not all conversative.
Im a christian and I dont base who I interact with on what demonation they belong to. Its all about the person. If you are kind and respectfull then I'll talk to you.
Every group of people has a mix in it. You have people to the left, right and in the middle. All christians are not the same and I totally understand where you are coming from.
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@magnetist (15)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Amen, to your statement. you are right not all christian are the same, that is not the way that God made us. But God did make us in the image and the likeness of himself. He said all those who belive in his son jesus christ as lord and saviour shall not perish but have everlasting life. We are apeculiar people through faith which is the unseen world. We are the light in the dark place of life through consciousness in God's goodness through our salvation in him. Jesus did not come into the world to condem it, but to fulfill our souls with love for one another. We are the embodiment of love. And we shall extend this love to all mankind. We are to uplift and encourage each other not to tear each other down.
God Bless.
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
22 Apr 09
I completely agree with you jellymonty,
The very fact that the christian section here on mylot is not so responsive as compared to other sections....Christians here are so hesitant to give their views....But yes some genuine people certainly do......
I agree with you when you say Christians are not so friendly with everyone around them.....god knows why they don't feel like gelling with people.....as Christians we are supposed to meet new people and tell the others who have still not heard about Jesus the good news of salvation......but who does it, only a handfull.....its a wake up call i guess, please do your bit to evangalise the word of god....Praise god !!!
And thanks for this discussion jellymonty!!!!
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@John4Christ (1597)
• India
22 Apr 09
Yes your right...its time that we as christians make a difference into someones life.....not just by name but by virtue !!!!
@MasonL (97)
• Trinidad And Tobago
22 Apr 09
I think that you should excuse some of them, because some of them proberly had bad experiences especially with some of their own christian brothers and sisters, some of them could even be hurting. You should be a little slow to speak becase only a real test will prove if non christians or people of other religion are reallly easier to befriend.
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@jellymonty (2352)
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22 Apr 09
yes you are right.. which is what I just mentioned to strawberry that we do as God as commanded.. forgive one another..
@Pose123 (21635)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
Hi jellymonty, I was born and raised a Christian but taught to respect all faiths. I have many friends who are Christians but also some who belong to other religions. It has been my experience that Christians are less conservative today than they were twenty or thirty years ago. I feel certain however, that it isn't the same everywhere. Religion is a very personal thing but that should not stop any of us from practicing what Christ taught. If your life doesn't make converts, don't expect your words to do it. Blessings.
@keithmharris2005 (268)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I don't feel like all Christians are uptight. Now Pentacostals and Apostolics are very uptight indeed. I have been in churches in the North that are cold and boring. Everyone is there going through the motions, (like clapping to a hymn is your ticket to heaven).Then the next day they are drunker than a skunk down on Main Street. Then I've been to church in Oklahoma where the worship is off the wall intense. It's great, except for one thing. if you aren't screaming tounges for hours as the service blares on, then you must not be a believer. What is the deal with that? I don't have to hoot and hollar to be a Christian do I? There is only one way to heaven and that is not it. The second scenario is the turnoff for me.
@magnetist (15)
• United States
22 Apr 09
No, not all christians are uptight, but the majority are destroyed for the correct knowledge. So many christians have been led astray into false doctrine to the christian belief. But you are right that you do not need to speak in tongues to confirm that you are a believer all you need to do is confess from thy mouth that jesus is lord and saviour, then you are saved. Some people like to complicate things without realizing that life is just a simple matter.
God Bless.
