how long are you willing to wait.

well the situation goes like this...we are going steady for 4years now and then we've planned the house,family and the much waited wedding.we have finally agreed on the year that is after his elder sisters wedding. the twist came when i got pregnant, my family is very conservative though they have accepted my fiance' they wont accept our decision to wait after the wedding of his elder sister that is 1year to date of the wedding. and then after a few months his mom got diagnosed cervical cancer stage3 which makes matters worse. my parents insists on the first wedding since im pregnant...we have come up with the aggreement of a civil wedding to make my family settle..and then his family wont settle for the civil wedding which we both agreed upon.(they wanted a church wedding) but that is after her elder sister wedding. to make it much shorter we got into lot of pressure since we want a both family support on our union and not the other way around. we fought and broken up...and then he came back but he asked me to wait for him now the waiting part is no more promises just pure wait on him...no fixed things like before.

The first I would say, is don't let your families pressure you into anything. My family was like that and they pressured me into getting married and the result of that is now I am getting a divorce. Your families don't have to live with either of you or raise your child. You do what is best for you. It also seems to me he has abandoned you, so I wouldn't wait for him. If he was a responsible man he wouldn't have left you like that. But on the other hand, if you two want to get married, go get married. Get the civil wedding now, and have the big wedding later. That would make everyone happy, no one says you can't say your vows twice. But if you aren't happy with him and don't want to marry him then don't. Good Luck and I hope everything turns out well for you.

i do want to marry him and love him so much, im just disappointed or confused maybe at the moment.

i dont know anymore if he loves me still, though he came back after he backed out on our problem. im just so dissappointed in him. he left me when i needed him most.