*Does your spouse make you feel ignorant?*

Not ignorant, but she is completely intollerant of opinions and ideas that are different from her own. She won't listen to advice that would keep her from experiencing pain b/c she has to do it on her own. makes no sense to me.

It sounds like your spouse has issues. Maybe insecurity, dominant, and mostly he is insensitive. No, my spouse is wonderful. He always encourages me and supports me. Sorry your mate is the way he is.

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My husband is a lot like that. He'll argue on a certain topic until the cows come home, and if someone says, "I disagree," he responds with, "No, you're not listening to me!" and insist upon stating his point in a different way. It's rather annoying, but the thing that makes it REALLY aggravating is that he's really smart, and as a result he's usually right. But I don't take that for granted, though...I'll argue every point with him until the break of dawn. The thing is, with him, he actually, truly believes that he is right, and he gets upset because nobody else can see it, so they must not be listening. Also, there's a thing with guys too...they really want to come up with a solution to a problem, implement it immediately, and watch the problem go away. They will sacrifice almost anything in order for this to happen, including making their wives feel good about themselves. They figure, "Hey, there's a problem. Everybody will be happier when it gets fixed, so I'm going to come up with one solution that might work and really put all my weight into it so that we can fix this." So it really might be coming more from just a guy thing. I assume you're talking about a guy, by the way. If not, then I'm not sure that last paragraph will be valid.