Who can give me some wise advice ?
By youetme
@youetme (351)
China
April 22, 2009 8:25am CST
How stupid I am ! I am a adult I am not a little girl who makes romantic dreams any more . But everytime I meet a boy who told me he had fallen love with me I daren't believe him any longer and hesitate if he really loved me . Because I always noitce the nature of man and catch some reasonable bad aspects of man . So I can't get my true love and am still a single girl who longers for true and perfect love . Who can tell me ?
6 responses
@krissy32 (205)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Wise advice you seek? Ok, I will give it a try. You are trying too hard to see the bad aspects of a person's character, instead of looking for the good in them. Try this exercise, make a list of the qualities of a person that would be acceptable to you to marry, and the separate list of those qualities that you absolutely could not live with. People are basically good and decent people if given the chance, but some people do have bad habits, but for the sake of love they can be overlooked as everyone has a bad habit or two, it is what makes us human. You are looking for perfection and is not there. Everyone is trying their best to be the best person that they can be.
@krissy32 (205)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Same here, I don't tolerate it at all. That is one quality that I could never live with. Expecting someone to cheat and then when it is actually true becomes a self fulfilling prophesy of sorts. Lay down your ground rules once a relationship looks like it is going to get serious and let them know what the consequences are if they do cheat. Not on the first or even second date. Give it time, and you will find your prince, but must deal with a lot of frogs before you find true love that is meant just for you as a gift from God.
@denny1991 (2)
• China
22 Apr 09
Every girl dreams of her prince is perfect, but that's not reslistic. I fact,I haven't fallen in love with anyone before ,but I don't feel embarresed with it. Each boy is a treasure to the girl who treasures him,so does the girl.Don't think too much now,the true love is still waitting for you,and you can't eascape it even you want to.which is also the point sets it apart.I will wait with you hopefully and happily.
@mimimeow (295)
• Hong Kong
22 Apr 09
Pardon me to ask a few questions. If it is only about friend, what do you expect from a good friend? Will you stop being friend with him or her by spotting some bad habits of his or her?
You wont' know whether someone is worthy as a friend or partner from the very beginning, right? You have to get to know the person for some times before you can decide. Time & chance, you have to give your friends time & change. Also when you notice the bad aspects of someone, think about you own aspect. Are you that perfect that you have none? Why can't you tolerant others? What I want to point out if everything need a trial. It's not to cheat someone but you have to give yourself and the other a chance. Do not just look at the bad aspect. Although this time, this guy may not be your true love, you have give both of you a chance. Most of all, from the process, you will get to know what you want more clearly.
@sunshinegirl1 (436)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I am kinda the same way I wanta believe and trust a man but sometimes it's hard to do. I have been lied to a lot but right now I'm doing ok because I try to put things that happened in the past to me aside.
@mikedotcom (260)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I think you are wise to trust your instincts. When you meet that certain special someone, you will know it on the inside, and your hesitation and fears will be gone. Still, hang on to your romantic dreams...there is someone out there who shares those beliefs!
