What do you consider a Feminist?
@anotherxidentity (1434)
United States
April 22, 2009 11:29am CST
I had started this discussion before and it never received any replies on it - but then when I thought about it maybe I was putting it in the wrong catergory - because feminists are very political nowadays - as well as conservative women who oppose them even if their beliefs are not to have government fix are problems - because its all needed.
Either way - I'm taking a Gender Politics class this semester and one of the things he always asks in the beginning of the semester is what we think a feminists is and why we think other women hate feminists.
So I'm posing the question to the myLotters out there.
If you had to describe to someone what a Feminist was and what their beliefs entailed what would you say?
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@arkasen (748)
• India
23 Apr 09
Feminist are those women who always take the side of women. According to me there should not be anything like feminist. Because men and women are equal and they have the same right. We all should be humanist. That is we should always try to protect other human from any kind of harm. I have seen lots of feminist who will say that men and women are equal and when it come to taking some advantage then they will say ladies first. This is disgusting man. You should not be double standard. LOL. I hope you have find your answer. Just say this in your class and you will rock... best of luck.
@AliaKane (97)
• United States
18 Oct 10
Feminists are fighters for women's equality with men, NOT DOMINANCE.
A promiscious female is just as bad as a promiscious male. Equality also means equal opportunity to be jerks.
Not all modern feminists are like this, but it appears to me that most modern feminists are achieving equality by stooping down to men's level. In fact, I think modern feminists are trying to oppress men.
Somehow it's okay for a woman to assault a man. I wish those double standards were gone.
Even as a Christian, I can set aside my Christian reasons for earthly philosophical reasons. Contraceptives, abortion, etc. This is a quite a shallow route to go.
I'm an individualistic feminist myself. I fight for equality, not for dominance.
And I would love to have a husband someday. Being a wife to a loving, respectful spouse is not equivalent to degradation. As long as I contribute and work for the family while having time for my interests. The real degradation would be to lust over and marry an abusive husband that you're passive to escape.
@spalladino (17891)
• United States
22 Apr 09
There are varying degrees of feminist thinking in this country. Many hold the more rational views like those expressed by lil, that women should be free to choose their own path in life without facing obstacles set by society or family.
But there are also some very radical thinking feminists who have actually done more harm to "the cause" than good. These women don't believe in equality and are biased against men. They view men...and any female who doesn't toe their particular line...as the enemy. Their views are divisive and encourage a victim mentality, suggesting that women really haven't achieved equality in any significant fashion so we must therefore join with them to continue to fight the good fight. Those of us who don't agree with them, who don't think as they do, who don't see the enemies of women lurking around every corner are discounted and attacked.
I've personally been a stay at home mom, a college student and a career woman and I stand by my gender and their God given rights to live life as they see fit. But, I hesitate to call myself a feminist because of the bad taste that very word leaves in my mouth.
@matersfish (6306)
• United States
22 Apr 09
I would think that a true feminist is simply a woman who fights for the empowerment of women's rights! Sadly, that's not even close to being the case with today's accepted definition of a feminist.
Femisists in the mainstream are overtly politicial, only siding with women who share their leftist ideology. For example, if Clinton fell under the same scrutiny as Palin, the feminists would be disbanned for allowing that to happen.
So, nothing against women out there who consider themselves true feminists, but I don't think highly of the mainstream fems at all. They're bitter, selfish, and unabashed elitist hypocrites who only side with the women sharing their EXACT political ideology, making both their stance and their name null and void.
To the real feminists of the world - the ones actually concerned with the way ALL women are treated - keeping doing what you're doing! Your passion is needed.
@saffrondreams (596)
• Canada
23 Apr 09
Interesting discussion! I'm actually studying for a Gender Studies final right now.
Let's see...there are many kinds of feminists I think the core definition of a feminist is someone who fights for the social, political, and economic equality of the sexes and believes that women should not be held back by traditional gender roles or the status quo. A lot of them fight oppression in other ways as well, including standing up for racial equality, glbtq rights, helping to fight poverty, and so on.
Feminism gets a pretty bad rap nowadays. A lot of people hold feminist views but are reluctant to call themselves feminists because of the way that feminists are stereotyped as extremely caricatured second-wavers...the hairy bra-burning, man-hating lesbians who want female supremacy. Feminism also gets blamed for the breakdown of the traditional family, the skyrocketing divorce rates, and the effeminization of men.
I think it's unfortunate that many people are so quick to jump to conclusions and assume that a few extremists represents the entire group. While there are extremists in every group it seems like people can sit down and have a calm, rational conversation about non-extremist Christians, animal rights activists, and even Muslims but when it comes to feminists, all bets are off. While many people have sensible views about gender equality, there always seems to be this sentiment that feminists have "gone too far".
There were many extremist, anti-family elements amongst the radical feminists of the second wave of the 60s and 70s, but it's important to understand that they came from a very different social and political climate where they had to fight hard for rights that many of us enjoy for granted. Now we're currently in the third wave, and many feminists nowadays believe that women should be treated as equals and to be able to embrace her femininity, to be able to have a career as well as a family.
@lilwonders456 (8214)
• United States
22 Apr 09
Oh you are going to get some really interesting answers to this one.
Lets see...a feminist is a women who stands up for womens rights and choices. A woman who furthers the cause of women having the same rights as men.
Now as to why some hate each other well. Let's face it the hate goes both ways. Some feminist feel stay at home moms are "a plague on society". While some stay at home moms feel career moms are "abandoning their responsibilities to their children". WHich is basically saying "do as I do or you are wrong" by both sides. Very counter productive in my opinion.
Personally I think "choice feminist" is best. Women should have the right to choose what kind of life they want in order to feel happy and fullfilled. FOr some that will mean a career and kids, others stay at home moms, for others they choose not to have kids at all and completely focus on their careers. I think all are fine choices and for each individual to make.
Feminist need to be more supportive of each other and each person choices and less combative with each other.
BUt that is just my two cents worth.