Who will you choose?The past or the present?

we may remember the past and think about the future... but we should always live in the present. just my thoughts... since i don't know your friend and the circumstance of why they broke up (your friend and her ex), i cannot pass judgement readily on what she should do. i can only speak for myself... if i'm in a relationship, i will try to make it work and not just readily give up when the road gets tougher. i will hang on for as long as i could. once the relationship is over, it meant, i gave it my all and it didn't work out, so why push it. let go. i've never gone back to an ex, because i believe that whatever the reason was for the break-up in the first place, was good enough to live your lives apart. once you realize that you don't need that person in your life (and you can live without him), there is no reason to hang on to that person. at most, you may remain as friends when the relationship is over. i've done that in the past. never enter a commitment that you won't commit to. once i commit, it's long-term. it's for keeps. unless uncontrollable forces is against us. as for your friend, feeling sad and affected is just a reaction. being confused is just a phase. she needs to re-evaluate her present relationship and decide if that is what she really wants and whether she entered a relationship for the right reasons.

That's not right.I think she should ask herself what really is her feeling for her ex.It's very normal for us to still feel something to our ex specially if they had been a part of our lives for quite sometime.She should talk to her bf and ask him to help her in solving this.maybe she is just hurt to see her ex so happy with someone new.It's really hard to accept sometimes that our ex love is happy without us.

I can see that her ex has moved on already and is with someone already. I really think it is just but appropriate that she break off with a person she does not really love but winning her BF back would be difficult because that may prove to be disastious especially that the ex has I think moved on and has a committed relationship too. For now let her think things over, it may just be like she just triggered some past emotions and want it back but then as time goes by it will fade down.

Dear friend, The past is past and present is where we have be careful and make the life more peaceful and enjoyable. I hope the action what bring peace at both sides would be much better.

If we'll be looking at the leagality and chance of possibility of them to be together again, these could still be possible since both of them are still single. However, there are a lot of things to be considered. One is the fact that they are now both in another relationships so of course it won't cause a lot of heartaches for all the involved parties. Another thing (and what is most important) is the question of feelings. Are they both still in love w/ each other? Are they both willing to give up each other's relationship and take all the risks that may take place soon? Have they learned to really forgave each other and be willing to start a new life? These are the things she needed to weigh in balance. It would be hard if she's the only one who feel that way toward her ex and if so, I guess she would just have to conceal her feelings and be focused on her present relationship. It's always normal to still feel a little attraction w/ your ex since you have good moments in the past and it'll be rekindled once you met but I guess these are just little challenges along the way. I hope she will be able to distinguished mere attraction from deep emotional attachments.

If they had already broken up, why would she burn her time, hurting this new guy that she's with. It's not fair to him. Her, as well as her ex, already had a chance, and she can't just dump him for emotions she's not sure of yet.

Her old bf may not want her back, regardless of whatever shy may want. Time has passed and he has someone else now. Does she really want him back or else is she just jealous of his new gf?

If I am your in your friend's case, I will not go back to my ex. I never winback a failed and past relationship. For me, when its over, its really over and no turning back. Your friend needs to focus on her present relationship and not her previous bf. Tell her that, Life goes on... so move on.

This is complex.For that situation,the answer is not your friend'll choose her bf & ex bf.The question is that if her ex bf still love her?Or he got confused too?In fact,men has much more sense than woman.Woman is an imbecile in lovelife.They always don't know what they really wanted.So now,at first make certain of her ex bf's ideas is the most important.

Hi there! Personally, I don't think it is right to win her former's love back again. Her ex is already committed to someone else. She would be destroying a relationship if she tries to get her ex back in her arms again. It would also be unfair for her exe's current lover. Besides, she doesn't even know whether her ex still loves her too. The best thing to do is for her to be faithful to her current boyfriend. Forget about her ex and control her emotions for her ex. If they are really meant for each other, only time will tell if they will be together again. Ciao!

yes if she really love her ex bf she should break her current bf. but the question is? is her ex still love her? well if that so tell her go on but if no maybe she still break her current bf because all that time she still thinking his ex bf.

I think, that the past is past. You can never go back to the past unless you have a time machine lol but kidding aside, surely you will still be affected if there is no closure that happened between you and the ex so, try to ignore the feeling and try to life to the present. You can always change the present but past is always the same.

Even she still love her ex, her ex has already have girlfriend, so.. the best thing she can do now is to forget her ex and take care of her BF now.

The best thing for her is to move on and stop hoping or imaginig her self being with her ex..better to let him go and focus on his present..its not ok to gve up her present and go wth her past..does dhe think her ex will leave his present for her..they are both committed so better move on and enjoy her life wth her love..the present..the bottom line here is MOVE ON.. :)

i will choose the present. becasue the past has psst you never return back to that day , and you will lost more if you want to past, so i just play my role of today. i don't want to play a role of yesterday, it is all past, i don't regret for last , and no more can cure the time. but do well for now. that you will more happy to future. i see i have a fine future. i must go to there. i have a happily mood to paas everythings i see, i know the future the handing to me.

i've never been to a situation where i was required to choose between someone from the past and someone from the present and i really wish that time won't come because i know it's gonna be really hard. well, if i really have to, i think i'm possibly gonna choose the one from the present because i believe that past is past and there's always a reason while people in your past didn't make it to the present.

It is important to consider why you broke up in the first place when you find yourself pining for an ex. Your friend is not being fair to her present boyfriend. It seems that her ex has moved on and in my opinion she should focus on her present relationship and consider very carefully whether she really wants to be with him regardless of her ex. I don't know how long ago she broke up with the ex; it doesn't sound like she may be ready to be involved with someone new. Focusing on the present is my advice; your friend is the only one who can look inside herself and decide how she feels about her current boyfriend and as far as the ex goes; better left alone, I think!

It is pretty normal to still be affected when you see someone whom you used to go out with. The truth is that when we end a relatinship, there is still a part of us that is left with them, especially if the relationship had brought us many wonderful times. Tell your friend that it is normal to get confused after seeing her ex for the first time in a long while. But it doesn't mean she shoudl abandon all cares and try to win him back again even if she is already committed and he has clearly moved on. It is one thing to be confused, it is another to be an insensitive person who would ruin relationships just so she could get what she thinks she wants FOR NOW. She doesn't even know if this feeling is just a fleeting sense of fondness for a former flame! I suggest she takes a long hard look at the situation and tell herself that whatever she may be feeling right now, she is still bound to do what is right- not just what she wants. Does she really want to ruin her relationship, wreck someone else's union and risk being branded a bad person just to get this man back?

Well it happens sometimes in our life that we might be frustrated about some of our decisions, same happened with your friends. But now both have new partners and it is not a film that she can just exchange and everything will be fine. Both the couple were happy before gathering together and should try to remain like that even in future also. This is the best thing for everyone.

i think shes not inlove with her new one. will its depend upon the situation, if that is the case, she always consider to think first not to feel anything with her ex. she can hurt her boyfriend, do you think that he is still love you?..hmmm...will only you can answer that. dont hurt the present because of past.