will you resent your parents for they restrict your special talent?
By noquite0325
@noquite0325 (473)
China
April 23, 2009 9:27am CST
until now,i can`t forgive my parents` decision.i undersrand their words,like"you are not a boy,can`t afford the responsibility of the life".NO!absolutely no!
even i`m a girl,i have my rights to pursuit my dream,not for them,but for myself!
they totally know i have some special talent in painting,cos i`m borned with that.i inherit my father`s ability.and i`ve proved that to them.
but they still don`t allow me to do the things i love,even told me strictly about this.anything of painting,color,or other sth like that are all being stopped.
i`ve tried many times to persuade them,but all failed.
fortunely,i still keep my special feeling on painting,that`s the only thing i feel better.
so ,do you have this feeling?or your friends?
2 responses
@photobug (157)
• United States
23 Apr 09
As long as you still live with your parents, they have a right to govern you. However, perhaps you are not explaining your passion to them correctly. Do you argue with them? Do you tell them you have the "right" to paint? Do you ask them to pay for your supplies? Do you want to paint and not do chores or study at school?
If you love painting, you'll find a way to do it, even if it's years from now. Right now, ou can either leave home (and work), or compromise with your parents. Maybe they'll allow you to paint if you do something they want you to do.
Go somewhere by yourself and write down the reasons your parents tell you that you can't paint. Do they think you can't make any money with painting and they're worried you won't be able to support yourself? When you're calm, ask to speak to your parents again and explain to them why you think painting is so important. Do not argue. That is not the way to deal with someone who has control over you.
If you can't change your parents' minds, be an adult and and know that you'll have to wait a while to pursue your dreams. This isn't going to be the first time you argue over something. You may go to college, work for someone else, or marry and have children. You'll be making decisions and making compromising all your life.
@noquite0325 (473)
• China
27 Apr 09
now i`m living outside my parents,i supposed i still live with them,i would be mad for they always talked to me sth boring everyday!the most important issue is that they sometimes lost their temper and with the times,this things happened more frequently.i really can`t bear this,i don`t like others interfere my own life,even my parents.
i hope to do sth i love to,but not i must to do.that feeling totally tie me a long time.apparently i don`t like this boring feeling,i need to have more fresh air,not to argue these things day by day.
i love my parents,but not the normal way.i`m very grateful that they give my birth.but i think that`s my life,not theirs.they never understand these,ever.
@photobug (157)
• United States
27 Apr 09
It's normal for teenagers and young adults to want to break away from their parents. That's part of growing up. Often, once you're on you own for a while, you'll have a better relationship with your parents. For now, start working on getting a job and saving money so you can move out and be independent. Then, you can paint in your free time, and perhaps make it into a career.
@noquite0325 (473)
• China
28 Apr 09
i find that,a special time during my life,hope i will handle it well.
fortunatly,the dream still in my mind,everything i do this time is for my little hope.my parents,i would never leave them even though we have some quarrel.
@krissy32 (205)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Last I checked, painting is not a hobby that is restricted to just one gender. There are are few famous painters that were women, like Mary Cassat for instance. Do you still live under their roof? If not, then paint all you like after finding a job to support yourself and always have a trade with marketable skills in the workplace to fall back on in case you don't become a female Vincent van Gogh. Hobbies are great ways to relax after a hard day's work and your parents do want to have some marketable skills to be a success, this is what they want for you to be successful in life. Never give up your dreams, though.
