Do you mind if other women ask favors of your Husband?
By AcousticSoul
@AcousticSoul (1309)
United States
April 23, 2009 12:24pm CST
My husband is a nice guy to nice. He more than likly would say yes to a favor before no. We have a neighbor who is also a friend of the family 20 plus years. she is fairly young 42. She constantly ask my husband to move her trash or furniture, or bags or get something out of the closet. If she is on her way home and has something to carry up stairs she would call ahead of time to see if MY husband is home and can carry her things up stairs... Ok I'm starting to think she is asking to much of him...
My husband and I are moving down the hall to a bigger apartment and she is aware of this, yet she sent me an email this morning asking if he could help her move her file cabient and some trash out of her apartment and stock some items for her... I think that is a little selfish dont you... and my husband says yes everytime...it burns me up inside... am I over reacting and if it was your husband or boyfriend what would you do?
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5 responses
@34momma (13882)
• United States
23 Apr 09
I think asking every once in a while is fine. but all the time, oh Hell No! calling ahead to see if he is around to do stuff! that is just to much. I would tell her very nicely that although you don't mind her asking for a favor every once in a while, but all the time is just to much and she is going to have to stop. it makes you uncomfortable. if she can't respect that then she really isn't a friend
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
Yeah, also tell her that your husband is always tired and need rest everyday. Tell her that he doesnt have enough time to relax after work. He still needs time for himself to do his stuffs. I guess its not bad to make up some story sometimes to avoid things.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Yeah she is doing the most. and I don't know how to tell her nicely because I feel she is going to take it the wrong why no matter what. and the bad part is I see her all the time she is the president of my auxzilary club, and we work together in the kitchen at my church... but I told my husband to not make his self so available all the time
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@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
23 Apr 09
Yes she is single and she is one of those women who had a bad marriage and feels she can't trust another man she has also made comments about me and My husband getting married to fast. but those things stick in my head when she ask my husband for a hand. its like get your own stop using mine LOL
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
23 Apr 09
I think she is really asking too much. Its like she's asking him everyday. Your husband is not her worker, why would she ask so much like that. Do you go with your husband when he do those things for her? If that happens to my husband i wont allow him to say yes again to that woman. He has no responsibility to her. I'll tell that woman that my husband is busy or tired and i'll say sorry that my husband cant come to help her anymore. I think maybe, well just maybe, she just wanted to see your husband. Try to observe first what she really up to.
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
23 Apr 09
You know the more I think about it in her own little way I think she may have a little crush on him because she is always saying how handsome he is, and he is very catering to me... but she needs to stop I am going to tell my husband when she calls to ask him a favor he is automatically busy... or tired... she has to depend on herself or get someone else to help her
@magrylouyu (1627)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Yes, that would bother me quite a bit. I would talk to my husband about it and tell him how I honestly felt about the whole thing. I would also tell the lady when she called next that I think she is asking too much of my husband and that he has his own family and responsiblities to worry about day in and day out. I wouldnt be rude about it, just honest. My husband gets favors asked by a few female friends of ours but it's not often at all so it doesnt bother me. If it were a daily thing or weekly I'd start to get irritated as well.
@srganesh (6340)
• India
30 Apr 09
As she is already a family friend,your husband should have been helping her for a long time even before your marriage.So,I think you are jealous on your husband.Don't feel like that.See things positively.As your husband is a nice man always ready to do favors for any one,you need not see this odd.Just ignore this.Cheers!
@AcousticSoul (1309)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Oh no jealousy here I think she is too needy some times you call wear out your welcome. she is always needing him for something. and My husband is not the only man living in the building that she knows.. she knows my husband works 8 hours a day and recently we moved into a bigger apartment atleast she could have waited until we moved before she started asking for his assistance I think that is kind of rude of her and selfish
