If your partner cheats...

For me it would be very simple.... I wont ask her why she did it cause it would only giving her chance to lie I would only ask her if she she still loves me or not and if I still feel the same way about her after what she have done then I will still continue with the relationship but if it's hard for me to accept the fact that what she did actually hurt me then I guess both of us need some space provided that the kids will be under my care and not to her I dont want to let my kids grow up knowing that their mother cheated us. And if she return it would really depend on how I feel with the situation I can forgive her but I think being a fool to accept her and your mind is saying no will be a big lie to myself...... I only want to leave a simple life i can set someone free no matter how much I love them....

Hi friend! I'm happy I have a faithful husband. If that thing happens to me, I surely would not know what to do. I think one of the most painful things to happen to marriage is if one partner cheats. It is painful to know that the person you loved and married is having an affair with somebody else. Now for the sake of discussion, supposed that thing happen to me, then perhaps I'd jut release him to the other party. I have no patience with unfaithful people.

tsk...tsk... i WON'T let my husband go easily if he were to cheat on me, dear neildc. after all those sweet memories, words, promises and things that we had gone through together, how could I just let him go? thats very painful by just giving him up to someone else who just known him, that broke our marriage life, no way.

That is very tough situation but it is hard to live with someone if there is no trust and peace of mind so basically, I may choose to live away!

Cheating is cheating, whether you're living together or on separate continents. I know it can get lonely when you are separated from your loved one for long periods of time but, if the love is strong, there should be no thoughts of cheating... none at all. There are ways for men (women, too) to take care of any physical "urges" they may have, all by themselves so cheating is no excuse. I would definitely let the law work for me in a case like that, especially since she has proof. I am an extremely faithful person. Even when my ex and I were having serious difficulties and divorce was imminent, I didn't cheat. I firmly believe that, if a marriage or even a life-partnership is not working, you should end it first before even thinking of getting involved with anyone else, even if it is only a casual fling. Yes, I would let them have the "other person" in a heartbeat but I'd also make sure they pay for their indescretions... for a long time! I wouldn't want to stay married to someone who cheated on me. Once a cheater, always a cheater. The law is always on the side of the person being cheated on. I'd make sure he remembered what he did to me for the rest of his life.

If I have the money, I would want to file a case against my husband and I would demand for damages fee plus the monthly allowance of our kids.

if he cheats and chooses to be with other person, then i guess they can go and have a relationship together, i will just stop seeing him and besides, if it is clear that he likes me, then he does not deserve me.

Hi Neil, Well it all depends really how much this friend's partner means to her, if there is no more love then its time to say bye bye but if this friend can forgive and her partner and still wants to have a relationship, there is lot of rebuilding and for both of them but he will have to come home and find work bnear home so that he can be with his wife/partner, otherwise it should be over for both of them but you know there is a saying, once a cheater always a cheater so maybe she will be better off without him. Hugs. Tamara

Hi. It's been too long.I'll try to ask him first and try to listen to his reasons...due process...lol. I think if that's the way he wants it then I'll let him go. Why should I force him to stay with me when I know that isn't what he wants. But then again, everything has to follow certain procedures to make sure that we're really through.

it's a sad thing that things like these happen. i'm so sorry for your friend. in case that happens to me, i guess i would probably attack the girl. lol. but i'll try my best not to and just leave them. i'll instill in my mind that i am better of without my partner.

I am not married yet, but if i was married and my partner had cheated me i would have not left her at all. I think a partner is the one who you share each and everything with you and if her intention is not right then your relation can never be successful. I would have divorced her after knowing about the affair.

Personally, trust is a big factor for me in all of my relationships. If my partner cheated, I hope to God I may be able to give him another chance if he still loves me and wants to work things out with me. It's hard when you're married and you've got children. If I was still dating this partner, it will be so easy for me to turn my back and walk away but being married myself, I cannot say exactly if it will be easy for me to let go of him. Communication is important after the so-called affair. After hearing his side or after talking to him, Ill probably think hard if I still love him and if I can live with him after what he did. Really can't tell. Too many things to consider. It is painful and It will be hard for any couple to experience such trial.

If that would be the issue, i gotta talk to my partner and ask him if she/he still loves me. If he/she answered yes, i would let him decide and choose between us. If he/she answered no, then that would be the last time that he/she could see me. I have to say goodbye and wish him good luck for whatever relationship he/she engage into.

Hi everyone! I am a new user. Just registered today! I was reading your discussions and decided to write my own opinion. I am not married but being married or not, when someone cheats is one of the most unhappiest things that can happen to anyone. To forgive and forget is the best solution but personally by time I can forgive the person but I am not able to forget. And in my opinion even if I may decide to forgive him, I would never trust him because a simple thing that happen, doubts can up again. Trusting for me is a fundamental thing in a relationship and without it, I doubt how 2 persons can get along with each other. Regarding your question I will let him to the other party if he is happy but of course I fight only for my rights not for him since I would want to end up the marriage in the case of cheating.In case that children are present in the marriage, I would take things carefully so they arent harmed in anyway. An important thing is that for reasons such as cheating, a parent should never turn a child against her/his father/mother. Children have to grow up in a loved environment in order to have a good and healthy childhood. For the child it would be already a trauma to have separated parents, imagine if we would make the childs life more complicated by turning them against the other parent.

I would leave him. It would never be the same, and I couldn't measure that judgement to be love. I feel when you take vowels you should honor them always and he broke that vowel he should leave

I would kick his butt to the curb. I know it's rather harsh but I have had this happen to me with an ex boufriend an once the trust is broken it's hard to get it back, for myself I just couldn't do it.

Hi best. That situation is really hard to decide. Specially if you really love your partner and you promised to spend the rest of your life with him/her. But if I were to be in that situation, I would definitely let him suffer for what he has done just like what you said that if ever I have a proof. He broke my trust then he must suffer. But I will let him choose between me and the girl. If he chooses the girl, he will definitely not see me and our kids anymore. "Trust is like a vase, once broken it will be fixed but it will never be the same again..." HUGZ always best. Thanks for everything. Miss you!!!

maybe you can see your friend cheating ,but you do not know what to do .you may think it is better not to tell him that he is wrong.but you are afraid that he may feel sad if you tell him this thing .but i think you must tell him the truth .because he can also learn something from what you have said .

hi neil, a lot of situation happened like that nowadays, and it end up in breaking with each other.. and surely the kids will be abandoned, and it hurts.. poor kids, because of their parents who cheat.. for me i think i will let my partner explain it, why he made it and who is his priority, maybe things will be patch up after our sincere talking... that's all.. janebeth.