Become a cyber friend

Hello zandi,Life is paralyzed and souls are contaminated. Nothing pleasant comes out from the putrid Time. The real friends with flesh and blood just in front of you are not like ones on the NET. They are all good and cultured lots. Something in the hand to munch while the chat is on. Seems like a big ship sailing through the furrowed ice and life has stopped for a moment and when there is a knock on the door you collect yourself and come down to the real world putting the virtual one on hold. Months follow months and years does years and we are still there. Did I sleep last night? well as long as i don't feel drowsy let that part remain untold. But there is a satisfaction and that is what we had been looking for the centuries.

And you don't even have to dress up or comb your hair,but just connect and help preserve your sanity Don't forget to disconnect your webcam before chatting LOL! Well, I don't have many cyber friends but no matter what the number is, I am happy with them. I mean friends are earned, you earn it by your behavior and your good works towards him/her. The trust isn't that cheap either, isn't it? So, my friends are my treasure. I have many friends in real life too but I can only talk with them via phone as many of them live in different city and the one who is living in this city, is busy with his job and family!

I agree with you I have many friends I found here on mylot that I feel very connected too. and alot I get to talk to on the phone too. and even not really meeting in person we do have a deep connection.

I do agree with you that it is possible to have meaningful friendships online. I have many friends here that I do feel as if I know. Still, I really think it is important to make time regardless of how busy we are to have at least one or two close friendships in our real world. Just this morning an old friend from highschool knocked on my door. Back in the day, we were best of friends and I ended up marrying his cousin at age 18....a marriage that only lasted 5 yrs. Since the divorce nearly 30 years ago, I have run into this guy only a handful of times. A few weeks ago, I ran into him in the parking lot of my apt. complex. his granddaughter lives here. We talked a few mins. and hugged and parted, promising to get together for coffee. Of course, I never expected that to happen. He knocked on my door about 11am and wanted me to go up to the playground and have our coffees and chat while he watched his granddaughter. I had to go to work in a few hours and had a ton of stuff to do and really did not feel like socializing. Still, I couldn't say no. I'm glad I didn't. We had a great time remembering old times and just hanging out. I have another friend whom I've been friends with for over 40 years. We make time each week to hook up and share a coffee with. If we are too busy, we make sure we take a moment to e-mail. Before computers, we wrote letters. Real friends are important too.

mylot has been a godsend to me. my health is not real good & i don't get out a whole lot so i can come to mylot & i feel as if i have come home. my friends that i have made on here are so enjoyable & so easy to talk to ithelps me alot. i never thought about findind a site like this. when i bought my first computer is was for buisness & i used it alot because i sold on ebay from my antique store. i have to stay busy do something & since i had to quit work mylot fills in alot of empty time that i have. i enjoy it thourougly. glad to have u for a friend, lady. enjoy all the friends i have made on here.

Therefore I say I love u and ur thoughts,, Here's I Biiiiiiiiiiiiiiiig Hug and a lonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnng kiss for u,, I do wish to have a few good friends online ,just like u,,I do chat with a verry few as yet,,it's true that in real life there are a few verrry good friends ( for all of us,no doubt ,, and also a fact that more than half are busy somewhere),it's so nice to meet people like u ,,to spend time with,, online till we (if ever) meet face to face,, U say life is hectic,, it's true,, say thank God,,because some have absolutely NOTHING NICE TO DO OR TALK ABOUT,,enjoy ur day dear Zandi

I have met good people around and I really value it. Despite the trolls around, there are still and actually many good folks here at mylot. Well, I'm sad I could not be as frequent here as I used to due to hectic schedule however, I am happy that my good friends are still here and I do make it a point to get in touch with them through responding to their posts. It is through the posts that we chat and share ideas. I hope we could find time to chat too like you do with your friends.

I smile as I read this from you.It wasn't so very long ago that you were ASKING the question that your statement here now answers. Can you find true, real people here on the net? Can you find them right here in MyLot? The answer of course is as you have stated here so perfectly... nothing less than I have become so accustomed to seeing from you. They ARE real people and they DO touch your heart in a very real way. I will use YOU as a perfect example. I have been writing here for some time and not really looking for anyone in particular to spend quality time with and have intelligient conversation with.Then I began following some of your writing. I could see by the way you wrote that you were not the average writer. You wrote with both conviction and sincerity. You put thought into your writing and your heart right a long with it. you addressed issues that were smart thinking and provoked me to think also. Your writes stimulated my brain which is what they should do. there was an attraction to your writing that caused me to reach out and try to know you better. I followed that feeling and it was well worth the time taken to get to know you better. In doing so, it has brought to me one of the sweetest, most caring hearts I have ever been blessed to share my life with. it has given to me a chance to not only share in wonderfully intelligent conversation, it has also given to me someone dear to my heart and someone that privately I can share my lifes thoughts with without fear of judgement and have your life shared with me. You have inspired many of my writings here as well as in my own blogsite. yes, there are very special people here and sometimes we are super-blessed to find someone that becomes life-long and truly mixes wonderfully with our own lives. That would be you... I hope everyone finds someone just like you here. They will then understand my words. HUGSSSSSSS to you. great discussion. Mwah dear sweet lady. thanks for sharing with me. Always, Darrel

Well I have quite a few friends on the net, but I never really chat with any of them. And I also have friends which I meet in person, this weekend a very good friend of mine came to visit and spent the whole weekend whith me, we had a lovely time talking and mostly remembering how it was like when we had our young kids playing and arguing over some minor thing, and how we manage to stay friends over 20 years, this is what I call real friendship!I do not have a lot of friends but the ones I have are there to stay they enrich my life in every way and I Am thankful for them.

hye..i think friendship can be build in many ways and this would be one of the way to get friends and learn something new from them.

It’s been proven that online friendships are very beneficial to a person much like regular friendships are. There are some things that can’t be replaced by the internet though, there’s just something that remains mysterious and unknown about online friendships. It’s very separated from the rest of their life. Too much is lost when you lose nonverbal. Nonverbal communication makes up 85% of all communication that takes place.

hai zandi, you are right, mylot provides us the chances to create friendship. yah, i have find real friend in mylot just like you. i want to share all the problems of us with each other. be a friend forever for sharing all problems and feelings not only for chating.take care.

Friendship is a word of great worth. What do you think about it regarding cyber relations? It has almost lost its spirit?

May be we've made our live hectic by getting envloved in many thing were uncessary basically like electronic gadgets all around us letting us no time for leisure and enjoyment, like meeting old folk in neibhours, relatives, friends etc.

Good exchange of ideas , mutual discussions over problems, well wishing ----if all these go well into the making of cyber friendship, it would really be a welcome change in the modern way of life.

hi zandi, how are you doing my friend? your discussion always interest me, I'm sorry i haven't been responding much this days..i had been so caught up with work lately.. your right, many people find friends over the net so easy this days..chatting with people from other country or even in the same country and suddenly your friends with them..you realize you share the same interest like they have..enjoy the same things that they enjoy.. they always say that we cant trust people over the net because we wouldn't know if the person we are talking to is saying the truth but i say not all the time..i had met many wonderful people over the net that i became super close and had treated me as one of their family... specially here in mylot..found so many friendly and wonderful people..and I'm responding to one of them right now

I agree with you. This is also one way of releasing life's stress. There are things happening in this world that we cannot explain ourselves as humans and expressing is one way of releasing the tensions and nerve wrecking feelings that we have deep inside. Mylot just addresses that idea of keeping people in this world sane by connecting us people with different cultures, ideas, traditions and opinions.

I agree with you. people here in mylot really tries their best to share what they have in terms of experiences and stories. That's the step in making friends.

I have yet to find a one....

helllo. I think that having friends online are good to an extent. yes, its nice not to have to fix yourself up or anything. you never have to face them if something embarassing happens. there are alot less fights for sure. preserving sanity, yes. but there are also alot of downsides. hackers, liars, creeeepers. I have had quite a few bad experience with mainly liars. sometimes creepers. never hackers though, Ive been really careful about that. but just remember when youre making friends, don't get too close to them just incase there are lies tied in. because really, you never know. even if it seems like theyre so amazing or theyre just great REAL people, sometimes they arent at all. some people are opposites .. its pretty much crazy what can happpen on the internet. so make sure you don't do anything you may regret :) peace !