my BF preffers that i dress more conservatively.

dress - confuse if u got the style..or ur a fashion victim..is that really important in a relationship..how u dress..what love got to do with the fashion style of your love ones or partner.
Philippines
April 24, 2009 8:23am CST
he demands that i change every time my outfit doesnt meet his "standards." He says he loves me thats why he worries about my wardrobe, but his taste is so limitting! how can i help him to be open to my fashion sense?i just dont get how loving very much can be related to ones wardrobe.
3 responses
• United States
24 Apr 09
first of all you may get mad at me for saying this but no guy should tell you what you can and can't wear it is you body you can dress the way you please, he just don't want anyone looking at you because he wants you all to himself , but he has to understand it don't matter what you wear you are with him not anyone else , as for him loving you and is worried there is no reason for him to be worried . see my husband would rather have me wear short skirts and stuff like that he says he likes it but he don't demand me because he knows for one no one demands me to do anything and for to it is my body i will wear what i want and if he don't like it to bad , we may be married but it's still my body so i will put on it what i want , i just think your man needs some help he don't own you or your body.
• Philippines
24 Apr 09
thanks for responding..i think it just because..all person in this world have different views..not all guys are the same..so all i can say is LUCKY you coz you got a nice guy...xoxo :) happy mylotting
• United States
24 Apr 09
This is fairly common actually. A lot of guys act this way. It is a control issue along with him being insecure. He is afraid that if you dress normally, you will attract other guys and that will lead to you leaving him. My question is, why do you do what he says? I mean if every time you left the house you were dressed to look like you were on your way to work a street corner, that is one thing. But if you are dressing "normally" like the majority of females your age do, and he is "demanding" that you change clothes- that is not ok by any means. Why would you want to be with someone who obviously can not accept you for who you are? He is insecure on a level that can lead to serious, even dangerous, problems if you keep letting this progress. I once dated a guy like this for 2 years, it got worse and worse and when I finally stood up to him, he beat the crap out of me. I ended it and called the cops. A year after that, he happened to see me at the mall with the guy I was dating at the time an he physically attacked me, he threw me into a stone wall and then took me to the ground. It took 5 security guards to get him off of me. I know you are going to say, "he is not like that, he would ever go that far", so did I. Guys that are this controlling never get better, only worse and worse. Be careful and be yourself.
@GAUCI123 (1042)
• Malta
24 Apr 09
Well I think your boyfriend dosen't like that other look at you, so he hates when he see you wearing certain clothes. Well try to talk to him and tell him that you love to wear clothes just for fashion and not for others.