How will you react if you found that your sister's bf was your former lover?

To be honest it wouldn't really bother me, as A) you said you are now married so you have your own life now, and B) you had split even tho you said there was no formal break-up the fact that you never saw each other would suggest that you had broke up. So the past would in my opinion be a closed chapter and everybody gets on with their lives. If you were still with him then yeah it would bother me but because you aint just get on with your life like your ex is also.

I will be very surprise. I use to be a lovey-dovey couple with him and already know him best, then he date my sister. I will see whether he still the same or change into a better person. If he already change, I wouldn't mind them to be together. It might be a bit awkward but sometimes, you need to sacrifice something for others. Especially if your sister really happy and in love with him. Plus, you're already married.

I would not mind to tell the truth only if does break their relationship, else I would not reveal things and expect the same from him too..

I dont have a sister so i am not sure.. but wouldnt the guy have known from the beginning.. surely he'd have seen pictures of you in your sisters room, or home or something.. and put the last names together and grabbed a clue.. hopefully he's not just living out some weird fantasy and using your sister!! Have you told her ? or will you tell her ? I think i would.. before she got too involved.. so she could decide for herself if he's serious about her, or just living out some fantasy.

You haven't done anything wrong having had a relationship with this guy long before Your sister met him and You got married to someone else,but it may be a little awkward at family gatherings if You're prepared to keep your sister in the dark about this for now,and then have to come up with an explanation later on how this Guy knows you (Not to mention having been Your Lover!) when your sister might think She'll be introducing You for the first time! Have You met him since their relationship began? If not,Are You the only one aware who this Guy is? Are You sure He hasn't figured out She's related to You?? If She's told him anything about Her Family, You've probably been mentioned and He could well have figured out the relationship in the time between..I don't think many guys would date a Girl with the same surname as a former Lover without thinking on the coincidence of Her having that same name,any possible family resemblance,and then discovering She had a Sister with Your Name too..that would ring a wakeup call for any Guy!(Are You and Your sister alike? Physically,Facially,Figure Wise,Eyes,Hair? Is She Younger than You? Sorry for assuming as You're Married and She's still dating that You're the older sibling..but perhaps it could be the case that She reminded him of You when they met and that could be part of the attraction?!) If You and Your sister are close,I think You should tell Her before She finds out and Wonders why neither of You thought to tell Her and draws the wrong conclusion from that! Good Luck with your decision!

i'd probably have a heart attack. lol. just kidding. i think i'll be fine with it as long as they really love each other, we had a really good closure and the guy isn't trying to get back at me. i'll probably tell my sister about it because it's really hard if i hide it from her. i think it'll be harder if she finds out later. i just hope that doesn't happen to me. well, i know you can handle that situation well.=D

its good for me then that i dont have a sister to worry about. but in case, then i guess i will just ahve to talk to my sisteer and if she insists.. then maybe it is up to her. you can tell your sister about the relationship and if she thinks it is of no bother to their current relationship, you should not bother too and should just move on as well./

Well you are married and I think that you and your ex should be honest with your sister. Wish them all the best. But my friend be open with it with any jealousy involved. Remember in all this she is your sister and you want her happiness.

That wouldn't bother me either, but I have one better...lol My x of 8 years, who because of our differences with how we felt about Adam and Eve..yeah stupid, but his excuse, not mine, he wouldn't marry me. We split up, six months later he decides to become a boyfriend of my Niece... He is 52, she is 27.. uh huh.. lol It is what it is.. oh by the way, my new nick name is "Reba" ever watch the show..lol

it would be a blunder for me though there is no chance of this happening to me because i am single child of my parents..but if i am in such situation i do not exactly how i would react..

With your situation maybe 10years after you had your relationship with your sister's lover, for me its ok. its been so long and you already moved on. you can't have a grudge against your sister since she doesn't know anything but when you see your ex in person its really awkward but that's life.

There's two way for me if i were you. The first way ,tell your sister you and the guy's past.I think is not so serious,is't the thing what happend many years ago.you were depart each other and you each have the right to faind anyother right one ,and if he knew the girl friend is your sister,I think you much more need to tell your sister the fact. Another way ,not to tell you sister,but you can meet the guy,and make he knew,and let him to choose.

i think there is no need to tell your sister your past,you had married and you have your new life,you should treat your ex as ordinary friends,but if you tell you sister your past,that would make trouble

Well, I am sorry for your embarrassing situation.This kind of situation can definitely bother anyone involved. I don't think your sister and her current boyfriend know about this history.Maybe you can just ignore this. After all, this relationship happened years ago and you are already married and have your own family. There is no need to mention it ,since this will lead to no good.

You should have told your sister about your past with her boyfriend. Just to inform her. I don't think it should be a big deal because you are now married.