what should i do now?
@friendship4lyfe (520)
Saint Lucia
April 25, 2009 5:46pm CST
I had this cute ginger cat and we named him Jade.Only last year he came into this world and into my life.When he came home to me he was such a small kitten i thought he would not have survive my daughters torture,but he did and he became a fine looking cat.He was playful but in an agressive way yet i loved him.Jade like junks foods and he was always at attention hearing the sound of the wrapper.I got so use to having him next to me when i eat that i will miss him dearly.Today at around 2am my boyfriend came home to find Jade lying on the side of the road where we live,he was dead due to a blow to his head.He called and i felt so guilty for allowing him to stay out at nights.i cried because he was like our baby.My daughter constantly refered to him as her brother.Someone killed him simply because he was walking the road at this hour or because this person is sick and hate animals?It pains me so much.i miss him already because he never came and cry to get in nor was he at breakfast.I need a cat at my house because there are lots of rodents around and my jade kept them away.do you think two weeks is too soon to get another pet cat?how long is okay?
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@Loen210 (1540)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Condolences for the difficult loss in your family.
Gather and put together all memories (photos, collar, etc.) to keep in Jade's memory. Remember her. I will never forget my dearest, furry family members.
When you feel you are ready, after the house is clean and ready, you can start going to shelters to meet the ones looking for homes. Make sure you are ready to really love them (not just to chase rodents). ;o)
Good luck
@berrys (864)
• Singapore
26 Apr 09
i am so sorry for your loss. i use to have a pet cat called rainbow and i totally understand how you feel. usually i think its best to wait at least a month so that when you get your new cat the scent of your old cat wouldnt be as strong and will be better for the new one. but its really entirely up to you and how you feel.
learn to cope without a cat first, and don't just buy any cat. there are lots of cats out there who already need homes. go to a nearby animal shelter and adopt one, pick one that you will have nothing but unconditional love for. it doesn't have to be breeded to be love if you love an animal you should love it for what it represents which is a companion, a best friend and not whether its a Persian or whatever sort of breed. please think about what i said about going to the shelter. and hey it could be a good mother daughter time there and maybe your kids will learn to love the cat more if they knew the cat had gone through some rough times. but seriously the animal shelter please consider it. thank you. good luck. cheers love.
@mcat19 (1357)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I'm so sorry you lost Jade. Four cats live with me, and I would be desolate without any one of them. As was said, only you can decide how long to wait for another cat. I think it will ease your heart to be involved with another one. Please keep your new cat inside so you don't suffer this type of loss again. I wish you headbutts and purrs and peace for your heart.
@yuguoli (83)
• China
26 Apr 09
Like you said, yes, someome in the street is sick. Sorry for your lovely cat. I do like little animals, too. The pets treat their masters with feeling, so two weeks may be not enough for such connection. Never mind. Don't count on time and just take care of you BABY. Good luck.
@princesscheech (61)
• Canada
26 Apr 09
I am very sorry for your loss....I had a hound dog named Ellie Mae and she was the cutest dog with bog floppy ears. She was going for a truck ride to the park one day, we had her on a leash in the back of the pickup truck. She wiggled loose from her collar and leash and jumped out of the back of the truck and broke her neck on the road. We got a new puppy only a month after, she does not replace Ellie Mae but it is nice to have a pet around for company. If you have rodents and things around the house then I think that you should get another cat.
@priyankajudiya (294)
• India
26 Apr 09
sorry for your lose,,, i also have dog and she dath in only 1 year...
i can't forget my dog...
@thyst07 (2079)
• United States
26 Apr 09
I know how hard it is to lose a cat. Whether it's ok to get a new one yet or not is really up to you. Everyone goes through the grief cycle differently. If you think you want another cat though, go for it. Having a new kitty won't make you forget Jade, but it will give you something to put your mind and your attention on. Just make sure to keep your new kitty an "indoor only" cat. The average lifespan for a cat who goes outdoors is only 3 years, whereas the average lifespan for an indoor cat is somewhere around 12 years. My favorite cat was killed by dogs when I was about 12 years old, and ever since then I have never had an outdoor cat. Both of my kitties are indoor only and they are perfectly happy.
@ElicBxn (63643)
• United States
26 Apr 09
If you feel you, and your daughter, are ready for a new cat, then you could get one, but be sure to keep the cat inside from now on, and get it fixed. a neutered cat doesn't want to go out as much, and never letting it out will make it even less so.
I love my cats, and even those that want to go out, I keep inside to keep them safe - I have 1 thats 18 and another who is 15
@cicisnana (772)
• United States
25 Apr 09
OMG I am so sorry for your loss. I had a kitty too. His name was Ziggy, just the greatest little fellow in the world. He was absolutely a member of the family. And we miss him dearly too. He loved the neighbors gold fish pond, you know, the kind you put out in your yard and got daring and went after one one day and couldn't get out of the pond. Poor darling, I miss my Ziggy. :(
@globetrotter1 (94)
• Ireland
26 Apr 09
If you don't feel comfortable getting a new cat straight away, then don't.
But if you do, it doesn't mean you don't miss ' Jade', it is possible to give a new little kitten a lot of affection while grieving for the lost cat.
have been there a few times, and have gotten another pet straight away. Its not a ' replacement', as each pet is different and your relationship is special which each one.
