Memories
By dreamertink
@dfollin (25387)
United States
April 25, 2009 11:49pm CST
It is after midnight,that means it April 26th.And if my husband were still alive he would be 54.I think about what we would be doing if he were alive.Probably we would go to church and after church go across the street and eat lunch at Bob Evans restaurant.Then we would go to my mom's house and have cake and he would open his birthday presents.That evening we would do something like go to the movies,bowling or rent a CD.
I am thinking about what we did for past birthdays.If it was a weekday,he would work and I'd make him a nice dinner or order out.Plus we would have birthday cake and he would open his presents.Our daughter always made him something special.Then we would watch a movie on tv or rent a CD.
Do you have memories or thoughts about a loved one that has passed on,on their birthday or other special holiday?
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7 responses
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Apr 09
come on d, u know this kind of thinking will get you down. i wondered where u had been.it's hard not to think like that when u have lost someone so close to you. just try not to dwell on it for long. it can really stress u out. i'm sorry again for your loss. jo
@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Apr 09
good, i'm glad it doesn't get you down. u must have alot of faith & that's great. keep in touch.
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@ANTIQUELADY (36440)
• United States
26 Apr 09
i always notice when u aren't on for awhile. sorry about your son losing his job. that's bad. glad u could help him out, that's what mom's are for, huh? i think staying busy is real good for you. i have to be doing something. take care.
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@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
26 Apr 09
I remember when my maternal grandmother was still alive. We would go see her on Sundays, and when we were children, we would stay overnight. She would put two chairs together and put a blanket on them because she did not have that much room. And we would have elevenishes, that is before noon, tea and sponge cake and sometimes she would make trifle.
On some Saturdays, my mother, and dad sometimes (because he worked) and grandmother would go to the Park and send the Saturday there.
And we lived close enough to Grandmother's place that when she could no longer care for herself and needed a little help, I would go and help her.
@dfollin (25387)
• United States
27 Apr 09
If you notice that sometimes life makes a full circle.Therefore looking back may give you some ideas for the future.
@suspenseful (40192)
• Canada
27 Apr 09
I never thought of a journal of what went on in my past. I guess I am not a reminsing type and I got rather upset when someone talk about the good old days. It was as if they were looking back rather then forward, while I always figured that life was not over until it was over. Besides my penmanshp is not that good. Anyway thanks for the best response.
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@slickcut (8141)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Yes i do ...It hits me on mothers Day & Fathers Day, because i lost both my parents...I think about what we used to do when they were alive...I am so sorry for your loss....It is so sad when this happens, it leaves our lives in such shambles, but only time can heal, however our memories stay with us always,and for that i am grateful.....
@dfollin (25387)
• United States
26 Apr 09
Thank you nd I am sorry for your loss as well.I am very grateful for having him in my life for the time that I did.And we have a daughter from that time.He touched my sons lives a lot and I also got a step daughter and 2 step grandchildren from that.
@sukumar794 (5040)
• Thiruvananthapuram, India
26 Apr 09
I would sincerely advice you to have lingering memories in your mind about those dear ones who have reached their heavenly abode. But it would be unwise to think about them all the time. It would a great disturbance to their peaceful rest.Let them rest in peace.
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@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
26 Apr 09
yea,father's day is pretty much ruined for me.i try to stay in that day,
because i guess i feel jealous of all the people out with their dads..something i can no longer do.
i do like the fact the DAV leaves a flag for him every year though,that's kind of a happy
@scarlet_woman (23463)
• United States
28 Apr 09
no,he was offered a space but mom wanted him here.
i can kind of understand that,but in a way,i believed he belonged at arlington,if you know what i mean.a place of heroes.
@eichs1 (1934)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
I always remember my mother, not just on special occasions but from time to time. Just like you, it's more of the happy ones that comes to mind and I don't feel sad remembering them too. Sometimes, those memories even encourage me to keep being human even with all the inhumanities around. . I particularly remember those times when my mother cooks pan cakes for us. We would love sitting around the dining table waiting eagerly for her delicious cakes. I really thought those were the most delicious pan cakes I ever tasted.
. I particularly remember those times when my mother cooks pan cakes for us. We would love sitting around the dining table waiting eagerly for her delicious cakes. I really thought those were the most delicious pan cakes I ever tasted. 1 person likes this
@dfollin (25387)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Good thought. It is kind of funny that the best memories are usually small ones that don't really mean much to other people.
It is kind of funny that the best memories are usually small ones that don't really mean much to other people.
@3SnuggleBunnies (16374)
• United States
27 Apr 09
I drop by my grandma's grave once a year. I miss her alot and regret beeing a foolsh 20 something caught up in my own lil world to spend alot of time with her when I was "older" and now she's gone. I can't share the things from her I'd like to share with my kids because some of those things passed with her.
