Long distance relationship, can you handle it?

Hello longgee , as a matter of fact my very first b/f and I had to go into a long distance relationship because he transferred to another college. We didn't attent the same college ever but we lived in the same town about 2 miles apart. My college was 39 miles awat and I commuted evey day for class. We met during his first semester but the following fall term he moved 250 miles away to attend another college. We tried the long distance thing, I was ok with it but he was away and on his own and he decided he wanted to explore dating someone who lived closer to where he was. I couldn't do anything about it but I told him I wanted to remain friends with him because we became very good friends. We had alot of commom intrests. So a long distance relationship didn't work out for me. At the moment my b/f and I are living in different cities. I had to relocate but my b/f has asked for a transfer for his work.So far there isn't any problems but it is always in the back of my mind what happened with another long distance relationship, my first.

This is the third time my husband's been away. The first was when we were still bf-gf and he was away for more than a year. The next was 5 or 6 years after. He was gone for ten months or so. And now, he's been away for more than eight months and would still be away for a couple more months. All because of work and wanting a better life for us. I agree wit you. The secret to making things work is a good foundation. If you know where your relationship is built from then it is possible to make it last. And I agree that there are things that will try to get in the way. It will not always be easy. Some test would be more difficult that the others. But know in your heart what you desire to come off in the end and it will be your guiding light...

I really don't think it it will work if you ask me. But if you all really love each other and trust one another, Do you trust the person?

i've been through relationships like that and it didn't work for me after some time. i really tried to make it work, but i guess long distance relationship is not for me. it requires huge effort on both parties and added to pressures of work... it really can be very difficult to make it work. one of the reasons why i went into freelancing was so that i can manage my own time, be where i wanna be and have more time for family and the boyfriend. not to miss out on celebrations or special occasions, be able to travel to wherever my boyfriend is, in case he gets some time off. i'm willing to meet him halfway, whatever is needed to make it work. still, i know it won't be enough. so right now, i don't think i can handle a long distance relationship anymore. i need to be constantly in touch with the person... i need to be with the person... and i want to be there for him. the distance will just play havoc in the relationship.

i guess you need to have a solid trust, as you're not able to see what your other half is doing. And you need to have lots of faith, enough to not make you give up on your relationship. but i believe, in the end, love is what that holds you together. if two people really love each other, no matter how far they apart they are, they'll be able to go thru the relationship. love knows no boundaries

I used to think that I can handle such a relationship very well if we really love each other.But the fact is not so.My ex went to another city which is quite a long distance from my city because of his education.He only could come back once or twice per term.We were in a stable relationship at that time.But after he finished his education and came back,I had to go.I had accepted by a university in another city.Then we departed again.When I was in my university,he had his own job in our hometown.He was very busy.And I was busy with my classes too!We only had about twice telephone talking per week.Most of the time we just sent sms.Such situation had lasted for about one year.Then both of us found that the circumstances we lived are so different.Because we have departed for so long,we had our own friends and our own lifestyle.We could not reach to a common agreement most of the time.Then,we broke up.I think the real problem is not the distance,but the circumstance.Two people living in different circumstances cannot get along very well as they have their own lifestyles,habits and friends.

I have had a long distance relationship. We met on a walk along the White Cliffs of Dover. We lived six hours drive apart though. We saw each other every two weeks and that was great because we got on so well. We sent text messages and emails to each other every day. The summer was pleasant but the winter was miserable and we ended up slitting up. We stayed friends for about a year after that but now we are no longer in contact with each other. I am divorced now but I did meet my ex-husband whilst traveling around the world. We came from sub tropical Australia and compared to that I came from freezing cold Europe. We had a wonderful time together in Queensland and carrying on my trip after meeting him was challenging. He came over to my home country and then we got engaged. Three weeks later we got married. Our marriage lasted six years and he never got used to the cold climate.