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Rajib- I thinking listening involves more than just "hearing", which is why it is difficult for some. And as you pointed out, it requires one to be patient, nonjudgemental, and without assumptions. We need to really listen, and not be formulating what we want to say in our head when we are listening to others. I think the best way to teach children this skill is to model it for them. When we are listening to them, we can model proper listening, as well as how we should be responding to the listener. The practice of metacommunication I think is key to this learning. Namaste-Anora

i believe everything happens for a reason. maybe it is part of man's evolution that present generation's character traits so much differs from the past generation's character traits. the test of one's ability to adapt is the one being called for and not judgment of one generation's difference. experience has taught us so much that the old generation is the one most of the time adapting to human's pattern of talking. in this case, listening. i do notice that people of the old generation really tend to talk more, go around in circles, beat around the bush. well, it is because they had so much time in their hands then. now, everything is fast paced. proof to that is the fact that there is no licensure examination for computer engineers. everything happens so fast in this department that they couldn't formulate updated questions to ask. if i'm wrong please correct me. i still remeber talk shows were i really grew weary of an old but respected person's way of talking. sorry, but is seems like that person never watches tv for you can really see the difference between an old person who had adopted and one who hasn't. peace

The impatience levels are on the increase, and people are so preoccupied with thier own thoughts, that they find it difficult to patiently listen to others. It's the concious attempt like in your case which will help us improve our listening capabilities.

Listening is a lost art. Without it, we cannot communicate, we cannot relate to others, and so we cannot live life as it should be lived. We parents should instill in children from young to develop this art of listening. To listen is to learn, to listen is to perceive the reality of things.

I have really had a problem with this very thing in my life. I get so hyper and thinking about what I want to add to the conversation when it comes my turn that I find myself not really listening and just going over what I want to say. Terrible! I did write a good article on just this art of listening. Let me give you the link: http://www.ehow.com/how_4697056_listen.html I think if people cared more about the other person they would listen better. As we grow older we tend to listen better too I am thinking.

Hi rajib. It is something I am very touchy about because my mother has a habit of not listening to anything. I talk and she either looks away or makes it obvious that her mind is not the conversation; she does it constantly and it used to hurt my feelings and still does! My husband is a poor listener as well so between the two of them I may as well be talking to the walls! A friend of mine gets a look on her face while I talk that suggests she's not listening but thinking about what she's going to say next! I think I am a good listener because it is a very sensitive issue for me as I have been made to feel less than valued when my mum would not grant me the courtesy of paying attention to me and I am teaching my seven year old about the art of listening and how important it is to look at someone in the eye and hear them out before contributing.

Thats true people nowadays are far more impatient to listen .They just want their ideas move and they believe in it they dont listen they act on their own.BUt when there is a problem they would ask the suggestion how funny and restless these people tend to become.

I've always been a good listener. In fact, I listen far more than I talk, especially if somebody's trying to tell me something they want advice on. I agree with you though, there are quite a number of people who like the sound of their own voices and can't listen for more than a few seconds. They don't have a good concentration level. Brightest Blessings.

Hi Rajib, This is something that I have often spoken about and I certainly agree with you. We must learn to be good listeners because it is the way we learn, but it is also very important in helping others. If someone has been through a traumatic experience, they often need a good listener so they can talk about their encounter, rather than someone to give them advice. Not everyone has the patience to be a good listener, especially the young. Blessings.

Hi krajibg! You are most definitely correct! We live in such a fast paced world and not enough people take the time to listen! We have to stop and take the time to listen to learn! If we don't listen we might not hear the things that are truly important to us! And yes, it is definitely true with the younger generation! They have no patience to listen and that is one of their main problems! It is so important to hear what others are saying! Take the time to listen and hear what others are saying to you! You just might hear something that might change your life!

Hello my friend krajibg Ji, Your conclusion is 100% right, Listeners are much lessers in numbers than . Everyone has tendency to reply, without one finishes sentence even. This is most desperate situation But, if one listens and smiles while listening, it will increase one;s hb%. One has to have lot of patience, for this one has to have deep knowledge in subject matter. lET'S teach to youngsters. For this our side, we have one day in a year, we do not talk, give rest to our tounge.

I totally agree with you that people have lost the will to listen. I think it's because of selfishness and greed. Everybody is just thinking of me me me and not considering anyone else hence the lack of sparing some time to listen to another person. I do believe that listening is great skil and can only be mastered with time.. Just goes to show you that the world is coming to an end..

I think I am a good listener. I like to listen to people talking about themselves, their family, their jobs. I like to be there when my friends want to talk to somebody. But I am not a talker. When people are talking to me, sometimes I don't know how to response. I often listened quietly. I still need to improve that.

Qualities are vanishing with the age. With the passage of time human beings have lost many things they were considered to get more skilled in. From my point of view we can't say that we've replaced new with old ones but this would be more appropirate that we've lost many abilites in which listening attentively is one. A great number from young doesn't even want to listen anyone. If they're happened to face such a situation the mobile come out from pocket and sound of keypad tell a talker to stop talking.

I can say i'm a good listener, but it so frustrating that people don't want to listten when I'm talk. It hurt so much, because I can listen to hours and hours of other people complaint and ranting, but when I talk, no one listen. Sometime, put your shoe in other people shoe. Before you talk, think quietly.

Hi Rajib..I am a good listener. I have learned to be through my work I used to do. But I find that a lot of people are so wrapped up in their own problems and cant wait to tell people, that they dont hear the problems of others. Its like they think they are the only ones and have the worst problems ever. They dont stop to realize that there is usually someone worse off then they are. Its very easy to listen, and it can mean the biggest importance to someone just to have someone hear them. We should never be too busy to listen to someone who honestly has something to say. Now what was the question?

hi dada! i have observed that many people even if they don't speak much are bad listeners. they let others speak but don't listen to them, instead, they keep thinking of what they would speak when they get the chancce to speak... i remember, i was in 10th standard, i was always good in debating, but once we were in an inter school competition and i just kept preparing my stuff without listening to other speakers... and believe me.. my competition went waste... i brought the name of my school to the third place just because i didn't listen and didn't add and delete points accordingly... since then i know i must listen to people before i speak and i must pay aatention to what they speak... well, otherwise i tend to speak less and listen more... but when people talk too much and i don't feel like listening i get lost in my own thoughts. this is when i don't find the talking intersting

I always listen when People want to talk. I always have. :) But, then again..When I'm in the mood, I talk a lot. :P

hai boss, i totaly dislike that type of person. everyone should be listener first and speaker second. i don't know what is the way to change the attitude of a speaker. in such situation, i avoid their company.good night.

Well, to tell you the truth.My friends say that I 'm a good listener. I think listening to what other thinks about is quite interesting.At the same time it is a good chance for me to learn from others' experience.