Forgetting, not an easy task!!!!

Look I think it is very easy to say for some great people.But for simple persons like us, it is not that much possible. I know a person, whom I thought my so called best friend, cheated me big time. I can never forget what he did or forgive him.

You know, this post really touched me because I just came from church today and the preacher spoke on something similar. He said that we should still do good to those who call themselves our enemies and intentionally hurt us. We should always remember that we reap what we sow and to never judge others. Oftentimes, it is so hard to forgive people who we don't like, but it is even harder to forgive people that we call our friends. It is very hard but we must do it because holding grudges or malice will not enhance our relationship with God, it will only deter it. In order to be in that place with Him, we should constantly forgive. Sometimes, it will be hard to forget, but you can't necessarily help that. We are human and that is just how it is sometimes. As long as you don't feel any ill feelings toward the person then I think that things are fine. Also, remember that God gave us wisdom. You can forgive a person, but that doesn't mean you need to put yourself in the position again for them to harm you. You can associate genuinely but you don't have to be friends. Great post. Yours In Christ.

Yes forgiveness is wonderful and it closed the doors on hatred and open one heart to love but there are times when we say that we forgive and then continue murmured on the things that happened. How does not really forgive others. This does not happen over night neither does it happen instantly. We have to practice it and I am glad that you have taken the steps ohttp://www.mylot.com/images/emotes/happy.giff doing this. Keep it up

I have forgiven a relative but am not in speaking terms with her. When we got a chance however to be at the same place in our home town and got the same ride in going home. she did everyting to talk to me. Though I completely disregarded her and erased her in my longlist of relatives and just feel she does'nt exist, the moment she talked to me and I answered back, I feel relieve and thou I claimed I had forgiven her though not forgetting what unpleasant words she said, at this moment I thank God. I only not forgive but totally forget everything she did.

I am the type of person who don't easily forgive and forget. When people hurt me, I can forgive them after a few months, sometimes, even years.But not immediately or after a few days. It really is hard for me to forgive people. Also, it is true for me that time heals all wounds. I can forgive but I cannot forget, try hard as I might and as much as I want to. There are just some things that one cannot really forget, even for a lifetime. For me, it is more important to forgive than to forget. Forgiveness is what matters most and not forgetting.

I think that the difficulty to forgive and forget depends on the hurt you sufferred. There is only one person that I can't forgive. He was my classmate in senior high school. I dont want to mention the way he hurt me. But I have to say I was deeply hurt at that time and even now ,after several years, everytime I recall that period of time, the memory still hurts me. Maybe I still need some time to forgive him and forget that hurt I sufferred.

Of course it is difficult. Forgiving is the easy part. But forgetting. On the other hand I think it is good not to forget. If you keep forgetting, how are you suppose to learn? Because you don't forget, you protect yourself from getting hurt again in the future. There is nothing wrong with that. Forgiving is easier, but can in some cases take time. When you cannot forgive, it can make you sick. Trauma, stress, depression ect. Whether a believer or not, it is always better to forgive. Take care, have a nice evening.

This a very complex question. I always forgive and try my best to forget the persons who has hurt me. At times it comes back in my mind and I become sad remembering the past. But this does not mean that I am unable to forgive them. The scar left in my heart is there and I guess time will erase it. This is normal as a human being right? One thing I promised mysel 4 days ago, I have been very sad for the past 5 yrs and I don't intend to continue with this sadness! I will be happy no matter what it takes! I owe this to myself to feel much better for these past years. I cannot keep on dwelling anyhow on the past. I might as well accept, forgive & forget right? It will take time but I have decided to be hppy now!

Actually, I must admit that it is very difficult to give forgiveness to people who hurt you terribly, but I've learned also that it takes a lot of wisdom before you can do this, so I always seek God's guidance and blessings in order to do this, and somehow, I can be able to forgive somebody, though it is very hard to forget, I am offering everything to God, so that it will be very easy for me to handle things.

It's really hard to forgive if you can't let all the bitterness in your heart go away..if we forget the past and move on...even if it's a process, we can forgive someone. In my experience, I find it really hard to forgive a person, I have bitterness and can't be happy, it seems as if all my system were affected, so I forgive a person less than a week, I don't want to bear the anguish or pain for so long because it really affects my relationship with God also, I can't praise and worship Him freely. (^_^)

Forgiving someone is not an easy task whether they are your enemy or not. It is one of the hardest thing one can ever do and yet it also very worth it. Most of the people that I recall that have hurt me are actually people who call themselves my family and friends.. My father was an abusive father to my mum and to us his kids so it took years for me to finally forgive him. My sister, my own flesh and blood, cheated on me with my then boyfriend. I did not see or speak to her for three years but eventually I had to let go of my anger and bitterness. So forgiving is always difficult that's why we need God in us so that we have the strength to do so..

Forgiving is easy, forgetting is not. And we must not forget so that we remember our mistakes in order to avoid making them again and again. From every experience, we have something to learn, something that helps us grow into a better human being. I agree with you. You do feel lighter once you have decided to 'let go' (or forgive). Because you are no more carrying the burden of those emotions.

To forgive a person who has done something bad to you is a great thing.It is because most of the people dont have a mind to forgive if they had get hurt.It would remain in their mind like an everlasting wound that can't be healed.They never know that they can heal it themselves and that the only medicine is forgiveness.

There are some things from my childhood that have taken me years to forgive those who offended then. There are other times when it has taken me a couple days to forgive someone too. But I always forgive them, no matter how long it takes. The harder part for me is forgetting. Some things just can't be forgotten no matter how hard I try. Yet, I know that with forgiving them, those situations don't have a hold over me like they used to.