Do you engage first, then get married?

We were engage June 2007 and got married in May 2008. Engagement works for us because we were able to prepare well for the wedding and it is also a test for us on how we can handle each other temper. lol.

Is there anything like getting married without passing the engagement process? I think, the very first thing is.. engagement then proceed to the wedding plan. It is better to have observation first.. or going steady then engagement.. which means you have a commitment already to be married soon.. that is what I understand about engagement. There is also a long engagement... then get married for 2-3 years. hahaha So, for me, engagement first before the wedding plan.

You have to be engaged first before getting married but you don't have to have a long engagement. I think that it is better to know the partner first then to get quickly married. My fiance and I wanted to quickly marry but decided against it once we were advised to wait. We have and have respected our families by waiting.

Yes, I want to be engaged first before getting married. But my question is what is the difference of being engaged to simply just having relationships?I always thought it's the same, I don't know if my own interpretation is right or wrong.

Well I am not yet married or anything but still want to undergo the process of engagement and I would take all of my time before setting out the date for a wedding I will have to give my soon to be wife a space to think carefully how sure she is and I would tell her I would love her even if should dont decide to marry me in the end. Accepting engagement doesn't mean thats a 100% sure that you will be married to that person for me it's a very critical stage of choosing who you want to be for the rest of your life. So both of you must have this freedom as well to think things over and make is sure that both of you are really into that so called married life.

I think that by the time you're getting engaged you usually know if you want to spend the rest of your life with that person. I see the engagement as an exciting time to prepare to become husband and wife AND to plan the wedding!!

very hard to get married without being engaged. surely as soon as you and another person have an agreement that you will marry each other, you're engaged.

I got engaged and my husband to be bought me a gold ring with blue topaz on it. We got married three weeks later after buying wedding rings. We had our marriage in a registry office, photos in a garden, a party in my sister's home and then we went off to Venice for our honeymoon. Sadly we got divorced six years later.

Yeah I prefer that way. Its better to know each other very well before I will decide to take a lifetime vow. Marriage is a sacred lifetime commitment for me and i dont want to be so hasty with my decision and all. Aside of course from the fact that I find engagement so sweet especially if the two of you love each other very much.

Yeah I prefer that way. Its better to know each other very well before I will decide to take a lifetime vow. Marriage is a sacred lifetime commitment for me and i dont want to be so hasty with my decision and all. Aside of course from the fact that I find engagement so sweet especially if the two of you love each other very much.

HI Clorissa. Yes, we were engage first before getting married. I think we are going steady for 2 years when we propose to me. Then one time it was my birthday then he said he was going to get at the back of the car, then I also went there, but when he opened the back of the car, there is this one bunch of roses and it has a card on it. Then after giving me the roses, he gave me the ring. It was a gold ring with a topaz on it. And I was very happy in that moment. After one year of being engage, we get married last May of year 2007. I think it is required to get engage before getting married in order to plan your future and to get ready for it. Also girls would love to be engage first before getting married. It is a special moment for girls like me.