When do you finally say enough?
@anotherxidentity (1434)
United States
April 26, 2009 6:45pm CST
I'm in a relationship that I've been in about a month but there is only one thing about this guy that I'm not pleased about. He tends to have money issues - meaning he spends more than he honesty needs to and doesn't really think about how much money he is going to need later on for bills and what not.
Right now we're just in college so its not like we're completely out in the real world,but its these years that we are suppose to learn how to deal with all these things.
So is this enough to stop the relationship? I'm not thinking of marrying the guy anytime soon but should I waste time on a relationship that I'm not sure is ever going to work because one of my requirements is being able to keep your financially stable.
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@anotherxidentity (1434)
• United States
27 Apr 09
He knows its an issue that I'm having at the moment. Before we even started dating there was a night we were hanging out with a ton of friends and I got asked to go down my list of requirements for a guy so that was the first time it got brought up and when we got together he told me he knew he was bad at it and that he would work on it but it hasn't really happened.
Like he knew he was getting a new apartment and had to pay a down deposit and 1st months rent so he was going to use his federal return money and now he is in the hole because he "HAD" to get a new driver since he just got back into playing golf.
@docipain (135)
• Germany
27 Apr 09
So he made empty promises...not a good thing indeed.
He seems to have a high standard life style..I mean he's enjoying something although he has financial problems.
That's indeed a problem..on the other hand I wouldn't drop him because it's a really serious problem and he maybe doesn't know how to get out of it...
Maybe you should threaten him again..that you will leave him if he doesn't stop ..maybe not the nicest method but he has to wake up somehow and shouldn't continue dreaming or ignoring it with just playing golf.
@jbrooks0127 (2324)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Well, as you very well know, this particular requirement is extremely important. It is so very easy to get in way over your head in today's world if you do not pay attention to what you spend.
If you can not come to an agreement and full understanding of this issue then, fro your own good you should move on. If he has this problem it is not likely it will change until it is really bad. You do not want to be involved with that.
And you need to know that just because you are like this and will insist on it does not mean that will mean that much to him. He has to understand the implications of it himself and change.
This one issue can mean the difference of living the good life later on in life or always being in debt. Listen to your heart and follow it and you will always do what is right for you.
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
You have a very practical reasoning. I always have this idea that we have to choose someone with the same values as ours. If you think, things won't work out even if you already talk to the guy. To end the relationship is the smartest way to handle this situation. You are still young, you can find someone better.
