What happens in your household when you don't feel well?

You may be right about the lack of sleep. Its one trigger. My biggest triggers are scents, changes in air pressure, lack of sleep, certain foods, flashing lights...and my monthly friend

My migraine seldom attacks but when it does, I feel like my head is being hammered. And the pain is on one side of the forehead, not the whole. I also feel nauseous, can't get up, can't sleep, can't eat or I'll throw up. Since I seldom get it, I didn't go to a doctor to have it checked. So I'm not taking any meds. I noticed that I only got migraine attacks after I gave birth. I think lack of sleep triggers my migraine.

I hear that all too often. What happens when daddy gets sick? If he expects you to take care and pamper him - what would happen if you didn't? Or if you said, isn't this nice, I love when someone does this for me when I'm sick - oh wait - no one does. But that's passive aggressive. Or if you said right up front - okay mommy's sick, how is everyone going to pitch in like a family to make the household work while I recover?

Is that a personal photo of yours as your avatar because its really beautiful!

I took a bit of a break - how did your surgery go?

Your husband helps when he's not at work? That's really nice. A lot of people get restless, but with many, sleep keeps the duration of the cold shorter - because the immune system kicks in more readily. Of course exercise of the chores is good too!

Wow you guys got a deal - someone else does all the cleaning and cooking - is it because your bro's wife doesn't work? Or is it because she's staying at your house? I think its soooo cool that you care for her that way. I guess you take her to the doc when its an ear, sinus or throat infection. Just in case she needs antibiotics. Unless of course you take her to an alternative medicine doctor to shorten the duration and help the symptoms without medicine. Again I think its so great how you care for her!

You are lucky txgrl21! My mom lives far away - and she had us late in life so now she's 75! Hey are you from texas - wondering from your name. Just moved to corpus christi. Live on the island.

I'm glad you aren't sick as much but sorry you went through that. It was the same with me growing up, I'd have to come down three sets of stairs in our townhouse to pick up things she dropped or serve her collegues - forget about when she was sick - for her it was phlebitis I stayed intomy early twenties - I almost left once - offered a live in nanny position but she told me I wasn't ready (she wasn't ready to lose her slave and emotional support)and if I left she'd disown me. I mainly rested when sick. She was too large to come up to take care of me (she's tiny now). Although when I did have my wisdom teeth out she really took care of me - although she still smoked around me.

Good for you! When my mom had her first baby with her first husband (who soon after decided that he really didn't like being a husband and father too much work - in an age when women were raised to marry) was like that. She was up day and night with Lisa who had colic and one day he got so pissed at the amount of his laundry that had piled up he threw it down the stairs at her and told her to get to it. In a slightly unrelated story, my dad told her to catch a cab when she was in labour! I thought my husband really helpful. Like when robbie first started eating in his high chair and was very messy, it was a chore to clean him up, change him, c lean the diaper and the floor and the walls. I noticed that my hubby was cleaning stuff off the floor so I thought wow! team work! So from then on, I let him do that part. Then I found out he was complaining to his brother about how I left food on the floor! How messy I am. I can't tell you how many messes I clean up over and over during the day with a toddler. I take sundays off - kind of-which means Monday the house is upside down. I don't get sick alot but after an infiltration I got a cold and he stayed home and took care of me. Now I have another cold years later and doesn't bother saying you lay down and sleep, I'll take care of our little one - too addicted to wow!

I think I remember you saying that before - that you're a stay at home dad. I think its good that you guys take over for each other, in many situations where its a stay at home mom that takes care of a lot of stuff, they still have to when they're sick. I've seen it from far away, or heard clients speak of it but saw it up close with an ex boyfriends mom. She was one of those moms that worked and took card of the house - just went above and beyond. My ex was still living at home because he was taking Computer Science - a really heavy workload (he went on to go to George Washington and now has a Doctorate - which was a free ride). They took advantage of their mom I thought, because she let them. She went out and got movies and snacks when friends were over, cleaned THEIR bathroom, did their laundry. And when she was sick, she still was expected to clean the house, serve the teens and take care of her husband. While when her husband was sick, he hibernated away in the bedroom and expected her to take care of him. I have to admit, she chose the situation. Still. I told him that when we got married (he expected to get married and have two kids) this WAS not going to happen.

The great thing about my husband is he doesn't eat my food - too many veggies (he rarely eats the stuff) not enough thick sauce and preservatives and other stuff. He likes canned things like ravioli and spam and things like that so we always do our own meals. I can see how that would be irritating him asking every step of the way what to do!

You should just as an experiment. I started out of the blue taking sundays off, sometimes I sweep once or twice, or do a load of laundry - forgetting myself but mostly I just play with my little one - but let Daniel keep half an eye out as well while he's playing his World of Warcraft while I keep half an eye out and I read or do crosswords. I'm still debating whether its worth it because by Monday the house is a shambles., dishes stacked in the sink, and my little snoogs stayed in all of Sunday!

I'm so sorry this happens for you - is it Epstein Barr or Fibromyalgia?

I think that's a good plan. A happy medium. Sleep helps the immune system so rest is optimal, but its good not to get totally unused to doing things!

Yep every boyfriend - three - I've ever had has been like that, one had his mom to care for him, one wanted me to and whined all the way - but expected me to do everything I'd done before when I was sick and could hardly breathe - go out, stay in and be romantic - not clean though - as I didn't live with him. Actually my husband is quiet about it and I try to take care of him but he wants nothing of it, he doesn't even like me to get him juice while I'm in the kitchen - very independent. He just wants to shut the door and lay down- when its really bad - usually nothing keeps him from wow! I'd love to do that for a few hours right now! What would happen if you did what he did and just laid in bed, were assumptive and wrote him a note on what needed to be done? Would he rush you to the ER thinking your fever had skyrocketed?