does the thought of your pet dying harass you?
By new_world
@new_world (27)
United States
April 26, 2009 8:04pm CST
sometimes it become difficult for me & my wife to overcome this true fact. We are so attached to our dog,Murphy, that the very thought of dying makes us uncomfortable. Though we know this we can not stop & nobody in this world can. Its still long time to go as he is just a year old but our minds though not ready to accept the fact. We saw "Marley & Me" & the end gave a tremendous pain. I, myself could not stop my tears. All the time we were comparing Murphy with Marley(Murphy is Pure yellow Lab too) & does same things like him. must say he is 2nd worst dog..hehe
We dont have kids so he is our little baby. & we have decided not to have any other dog(or anything)
Does this happen with all?
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@mom341 (64)
• United States
27 Apr 09
OOO all the time. My dog stitch she's is almost 11yrs. I had this dog before my second son was born. She was with me thru my divorce and she is really starting to show her age. My husband got a beagle puppy at the end of last summer. He was trying to help and said that it might help to have another dog when stitch die's. But it still wont make any difference to me. This dog is like a member of my family. How can it not bother you to think abought a family member dieing. So I definatly feel for you, and hope it doenst happen to soon. hugs to you and your dog.
@new_world (27)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Ohhh...I am really sorry for you & stitch. Hope she feels better.
Surely nobody in the world can take their place. They give so much of unconditional love & affection, like a family member. Having another dog is a good idea & it will surely help you to heal & overcome the situation. Or you can work with homeless dogs or as a foster mom. We have decided to work as volunteer in pet shelter, instead of having another dog. But still they will remain in our thoughts forever. Its difficult for us to imagine a day without our dog, Murphy.
Take care of you & Stitch. God bless you
@thinkingoutloud (6127)
• Canada
27 Apr 09
Hi new_world and welcome to myLot :) Yes, I have difficulty with thoughts of a pet dying. It's actually enough to stop me from having a dog right now (I'm seriously allergic to cats so, although I'd love to have one, it's not possible). In any case, my dog had to be put down a couple of years ago. He was old and had gone to the groomer. He tried to bite her (never bit anyone in his entire life and he was over 11 years old that day). Losing him was a very painful experience. I had also gone through the loss of beloved dogs when I still lived with my parents.
I know it's hard but, then again, pets bring such joy and unconditional love that it's a shame not have them because of eventualities. I am sure I'll have another dog someday soon... but my heart hasn't fully healed yet.
@new_world (27)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Thank you very much, thinkingoutloud, for your response & warm welcome.
We actually planned to get 2 small breed dogs as one should not feel alone & should have a company to play with, but we ended up with getting a Labrador( one reason I like labs most & other when we saw murphy, we could not stop ourselves) He is with us for more than a year now. Earlier we thought to have another dog too but the thought of living without them, had stop us from having another dog. & finally we decided not to have any dog later. & Murphy will be our 1st & last dog. We know this is just an adjustment or fear of later pain.
@Gemini_7000 (358)
• United States
28 Apr 09
I understand you completely. Although my husband and I have 4 children, 2 still home, our 2 mini doxies are the babies - we love them so much that we spoil them to the maximum spoilage.. our oldest, male, is 16 years old and just recently have all his top teeth removed because of infections and rot, although he is a healthy boy we have to face that someday he will die and we just cry our eyes out talking about it. This goes for our little 5 year old female too.. she was very sick as a wee little puppy and had spend a few weeks in an animal hospital, I thought for sure she wasn't coming home but thank god for prayers he answers.. she is now the little doctor of the house taking care of everyone's "ouchies" and our males too. We will be devastated and gain a huge hole in our hearts the day we lose our babies. We love them so much that when that day does come.. hopefully not soon, they will be cremated and not be put in the ground.
I know this sounds weird, disturbing or crazy to some but if anyone feels for their pets as a family member and not just an animal, love them like you gave birth to them, then they would be stating the things we just said ourselves... there is nothing greater than love and with love this is what we do.
@Wolfechu (1193)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Not really. I have three cats, and barring some bad luck, I know I'll outlive them all. The trick is to realise they're here right now, and to give them the attention they deserve right now. That way, at least I'll have fond memories of them when they're gone.
@new_world (27)
• United States
27 Apr 09
Thanks Wolfechu, for sharing your opinion. May be we will recover with time as I said he is our 1st dog & kid too. over the years we may overcome this feeling of attachment. But surely if you consider your pets as your kids, then you will definately feel that emptyness in your life. Thanks again
