how do you handle insecurity

Philippines
April 27, 2009 12:54am CST
i know we all have our own unique and different insecurities...but i would just like to ask,,how do you cope up with it. i lot would say that im not that bad looking but not that skinny but just enough. but i really get very jelous when i see other ladies with beautiful body and etc. especially if my boyfriend looks at them...though sometimes i try to joke around with him bout how they look but deep down inside it hurts.
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4 responses
@subha12 (18441)
• India
27 Apr 09
insecurity is something that is born from perception. May be the behavior of the partner gets added to it. Plus there are things that we think can happen to us which make us insecure., first what is needed is trust and positive thinking.
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
yeah your right...i should continuely work on that positive thinking thing. tnx
@John4Christ (1597)
• India
27 Apr 09
Hey i go through it many a times......i usually feel little insecure when my friend speaks with guys.....although she is very faithful and considers all of them as friends.....still somewhere deep down in my heart i do feel insecure about it.....not that i doubt on her.....i trust her but still sometimes it gets difficult for me......what i do is i always tell her how much i like her.....she sometimes wonders whats wrong with him ????? But nevertheless less i feel insecurity is very common among all people and all go through it....everyone has has their own unique way of dealing with insecurities, but it should not get converted into nagging.....that would really be bad.....
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
i certainly hope i get to have that kind of appreciation...which my boyfriend dont do...whenever im angry or something and just pout..he asks why and then laughs at me. well i do get a kiss afterwards...i dont know maybe that is his way of saying im still beautiful for him. tnx for the response though. it got me thinking.
@flagella08 (5065)
• Philippines
27 Apr 09
any relationship can be full of new things to become accustomed to. don't mind your bf's appreciation to other bodies. it's really normal. what you can best do is to try making yourself pretty inside. later on your bf will realize that. not all things could be measured physically. when you let your true colors shine through and be yourself , you are being honest with your bf. don't let your insecurities bug you.it's just a waste of time. being beautiful inside is the most important thing in this world. just be happy with yourself. GOd will be glad too.
• Philippines
28 Apr 09
tnx for the response helps a lot.
@Bebs08 (10681)
• United States
28 Apr 09
How to handle insecurities? oh well, I just think positively. If there are girls who are beautiful than me? I should also try to look good even if am not as beautiful than they are. And the most important thing is that.. I would be caring and loving to my boyfriend. I should cultivate the inner beauty that I have. Be nice and charming..The most attractive thing for the guys is our inner beauty... positive attitude inside us. Character is the best thing than the outward appearance. Be nice and beautiful inside.