Do you have relatives in the nursing home?

My Grandma is in a nursing home. She just went into one back in December. She is 89 and had a stroke. We all live in different states and cannot provide the medical care that she needs, round the clock, due to some of her ailments. I wish she lived closer but she does't want to leave the stat she is in. My uncle lives close and stops to see her every day and now everyone in the family can fly down to see her for free. I am currently 38 weeks pregnant and can't fly but hope to visit her again soon.

I'm glad the Philippines is not like the U.S. in terms of how they value the oldies. I would not ever allow somebody else to take care of my Mom (my Dad already deceased) while I am still alive. How could I ever just entrust her to someone else after all the love and care she gave me as a child and till I grow and made a family of my own. I firmly believe that when parents have grown old, it is the responsibility of the children to care for them. This good example of the children will likewise be followed by their own children when they themselves become old parents.

I do have a Aunt in a Nursing home. She has been in there for a while. I don't think she will be getting out soon.

i have an elderly aunt that lives in one here in canada and it is a very nice but very expensive. it is a privately owned one and kept very well. she is there because she needs round the clock care which no one, except a trained proffesional can give her.

I just want to correct the fact that there are no nursing homes in the Philippines. There are some actually and it is not just those operated by the government. There are also private nursing homes and some managed by non-government organizations/ foundations. Nursing homes may not be that popular in the Philippines. What is customarily done is for those who can afford to employ a private nurse or household help living-in with them. As much as possible, I also favor oldies staying with their relatives. But as @kellyt82 has enumerated, there are lots of reasons why some old folks have to be kept in the nursing homes. I would rather have the old folks with medical problems to be in the nursing homes than abandoned at family's/relatives' homes. There are also abusive and relatives without patience who are not apt to take care of their oldies. This type of family/relatives should turn-over their old folks to nursing homes.

I do not have any relatives in nursing homs.I know that it is very easy to go to nursing homes ! There are good and bad aspects about it !

hi bebs08! hi, i am also from the philippines and to answer your question, no, we don't have relatives in nursing homes or homes for the aged for that matter. our families stay with us up until God decides to take them home to be with Him. yeah, i think it is sad to stay in nursing homes. but i guess that is just part of our culture. in other countries, i think they prefer to stay in these homes where they can be taken care of, because most of their families could not. or often choose not to. take care and God bless you! happy mylotting! :D

although we do have nursing homes here,it is not so popular here.i do think it is the duty of the children to care for their parents and almost all indians think similarly except some few who are trying to ape the western culture.

Well I think it is in the culture that these things happen. Although, there is an existing home for the aged in our country. But these homes are really intended for those that cannot afford to take care of their old ones or sometimes they really do not have anyone to take care for themselves. I have been into one and their situation is really desperate as our nursing homes are not as well equip as those that are in abroad. There is lack of government support perhaps in this kind of institutions in our place. I truly hope that they could have a better home but so far I haven't seen a good one to date. That is why many families in our country chooses to take care of our old ones because of that.

I think Nursing Homes are sad places to visit, I feel for those who don't have any family to visit them, some of them are just there, their forgotten and I think its sad. I myself would never put a family member in one, if I can take care of them at home thats what I will do, thats what I told my mom, I'll never send her to one, its too sad.

No, my parents still take care of themselves.

Hi Friend, it has been quite a time since I have heard from you. Great that you are back in the circulation. Well, I came from the same country where you used to live and that is true we do take care of our elderly and nursing homes for most of us is not an option. I have been to several home for the aged in my place especially during the holiday and I can see loneliness in the old ones eyes and I know deep inside that they miss there relatives. I for one can't imagine putting my parents in such environment when they grow old. My grand mother lives with us and my aunt and mom makes sure she get all the care that she needs though we tend to joke at it at times that my lola nowadays is getting bratty for all the attention that she getting. LOL. With the Filipino culture and tradition families would unlikely consider nursing homes with their old love ones.

Nursing home is a new thing in China. In Chinse concept,taking care of olders is reaonalbe, which is a tradition. if someone don't take care of their parents, they will be blamed by the senior. I think this is very good. But now, there are some changes especially in city. some young couples carry the older to nursing homes, the reasons:(1) the young do not like their life style;(2)the young were too busy to take care of them, as the high pressure in city. Personally, I will take care of parents whatever happen, because parents gave me the life and give me money to go to school. They should be paid.

i'm really glad i'm a filipino... we are family oriented and would sacrifice almost everything to stay with our relatives... i have relatives from the us and eventhough that'smthe culture ther they dont allow someone in our family to stay at a nursing home... i think letting your someone stay there is cruel... they wont get better because they'l feel lonely. it's better for them to stay at home with their family s that they can feel their TLC.

I, personally, do not have any relatives in nursing homes. I know that it is very common, though, in the U. S. I actually used to work in a nursing home so it allowed me to learn a lot of the reasons that people place family members in a home. A lot of people just do not have the means or the way to take care of their family member. Many times the family member is of the age where medicare will pay for all or most of the cost of the nursing home. Many people, as bad as it sounds, just do not have time to take care of their loved ones. Sometimes their family member needs constant medical care, so they place them in a nursing facility because they are unable to provide that round-the-clock care. Another reason is that they may not have any living family so it is one of the only places to go. I think that in the phillipines you all have a stronger family structure. Your culture seems like they will sacrifice what they can to take care of the family members that need it. I respect that about your culture.