to all mothers....

My spouse had your same feeling at the time of my son six month old.I told her you have to work.my mother would take good care of him.now My wife has worked for one year and my son has been taking good care.

Its not just work and earn, you are also going to be working towards goals that you and your family have. By you working those goals can be met a bit earlier. Since you maybe working, the time you have off, spend special time with your daughter to make sure she knows you are still there for her. Many women are doing this now and it isn't a bad thing. Good Luck with your future.

if i were you i would work. i regretted not going back to work last time, and now with the recession it would be the wiser decision. i know you love your baby but you need to sacrifice to give your baby a better life. help your husband out with the bills so you guys can enjoy spending time with your baby during the night or weekends without a worry. its the right thing to do. and you can ask your mum or mother in law to help look after the baby while you are in work or you can hire a nanny but i feel day cares are better so then they can mix around with other kids. even though your baby is 9months its good to let him interact with other babies. good luck. god bless you and your family. cheers love.

Hi jcbelle ,I'm a fuull time mother too,and my son is one year and 7months now,I'm eager to get a job,but my hubby don't agree with me ,he said my son need me more,and he can support the family ,but my view is if I still stay at home ,some years later ,i may can't get any job.so I decide to work this autumn,and my son is two years old,my mother will help me to take care him.so ,if you can luckly get the job ,do not hesitate to accept it.early or later we must choose to work out and we can have time with the babies when we out of work.

We are almost in the same situation, only difference is, I am a single mom, and I don't have any choice but to shoulder the expenses alone. For now, I work at home through online jobs, while waiting for my visa approvl, since I am planning to migrate with my baby. Maybe you can do the same. I am not sure about your skills, or your work experience, but I am sure, you'll find a lot of options online. This is not going to give you a reazlly big income, if that is waht you are aiming for. It's just one of the options, if you want to help your husband financially, and still be there for your soon. The choice is yours, so good luck!

Maybe you could start your own business watching other people kids? I work from home as a content writer. I don't make a lot, but it helps. Everything helps a bit right? Otherwise we wouldn't be writing on this site. Only you can make that decision, and you will feel regret either way. I have always felt that a mother should stay home if it was in the best interest of herself and her child (i.e. she enjoys being a stay at home mom) and if it were financially possible. It is also possible that you could pick up something on the side, like housecleaing, and do it when your husband is home, that way he can watch the baby...if he likes to do that kind of thing. Your baby definitely needs you. There is no doubt about that. I prefer to stay home because I do not trust anyone with my child. There are so many crazy people out there, and no one can love our children as much as us mothers do.

i will answer, because i was in your situation too, years ago, and i think i can give a advice. so, i maked a big mistake, and after i was mother, i want stay so much with my kid, and 3 years i don t work, and i was a "home mother", and now i regret a lot...after a year a mother who want to work, want a carrier too, must to start to work because if let you to stay in home to much time, will be very hard to find a good place for work, and your kid will be dependent of you too. Kid can have a baby sitter or your mother can help you...and you must go and try to have a normal life. Later the situation will be same, even you stay in home or not.