How easily can you accept someone that turns into gay?

I am totally cool with gays unless they interrupt my life,last time when I went to a public WC and a guy just staring at me for 2 minutes,I was annoyed that time because I am not a gay.haha...if one of my families is a gay,I think I will totally accept him.

Of course. Im a very open-minded person and if being like that in public liberates him from the dictates of society, then by all means. For me, it would be better to be true to oneself cause its already difficult to try and fool other people just to please them but its more difficult in pretending, forcing and deluding oneself of trying to become someone they're actually not, just because other people might oppose it. If fear of non-acceptance from the family is what hinders them from 'coming out', they really shouldnt think thrice. Sure, some people might not want the thought of that and unfortunately the family is one of those people, then the person might really think twice and suppress the natural development of their personality. However, I think that no matter how long or how difficult it might be to accept something that different, at the end of it all, they're the person's family. No one can change that and over time, they will just have to learn and finally accept their family member for who and how he really is. Hope that made sense.

hi torchablazed !!! about bebe gandanghari, well for me it was shocking. but i did have a friend/classmate in college whom i always bickered with. i dunno, he was always nasty. he had this macho image in college, and he was pretty good looking too. but five years after graduation, he admitted during one of those outings/reunions, that he was actually gay. i was surprised, but i actually found it funny that i giggle at the thought. imagine that! we also have a son of our maid who seems to be turning gay by the day. he is already 7 years old and ever since he was around 3, he already showed signs of being gay. he always takes after women in telenovelas. but i am not sure if it were a family member. i think the feeling would be different. i have a gay cousin. but he is older and ever since i can remember, he is already gay and so there is no surprise to it. God forbid, but i do hope nobody in our family turns out to be gay. but really, i would not know. i would not want gay family members. it wo take care and God bless you! happy mylotting!

i actually reacted really well to a classmate that turned gay. but if i learned about a family member, i would totally change my perspective of him/her i tihnk when u have a family connection and bond, theres only certain things that are accepted while others are rejected

hi! cant help not respond to your discussion. You see, in my family, on my father's side that is, I got relatives who are gay. Much loved and accepted, my cousins, an uncle, and other distant cousins have their own careers and professions. No surprises happened in their cases because, what they are were manifested early on when they were still young kids. Personally, accepting a gay person as he is comes easy to me.

It also depends on how close that person is with me. If he is a friend of mine from office then I would not feel that shocked but if he is from my family or from my close friends group, then I could go faint. I hope that this weird thing will not happen in my life.

Well I guess families should be open to accepting their gay family members. There is no way that you can stop them from becoming one and suppressing that feeling would just create a lot of resentment in everybody's life especially those that are affected. As for BB Gandanghari I guess he has chosen who he wants to be and we should just respect her the way he wants to live his life.

Gay sounds so wonderful. Better then being called a homosexual or a sodomite, but that is what it is. And the emphasis is on choice. You choose to be whatever, you are not born that way. And why should one embrace that change? Are you ashamed of those who believe that men must love and marry women, and women must love and marry men, and shock! There are those who think that way and do not go to the politically correct homosexual or 'gay' way of living that is so much more environmentally sound in that they do not produce children by that method and save the planet. (sarcasm intended.) I would wonder what made that person turn out that way, whether he was abused, whether his mother overprotected him, whether something he ate changed his hormones, but I would not accept and hug and kiss him and say "how wonderful! I would be insulting those of my family who believe in traditional marriage. It is a sin and we should pray for those who have this tendency to be delivered from its evil.

hi torch, He did not just become gay. People are born gay. He probably chose to cover up that fact for fear of what people would say or how he'd be treated. What seems sudden to everyone else is something he has been living with his entire life. As for my family.....if it happened, I would be accepting.

I could not reject someone I love just because they discovered that they were gay. We don't have any gay or lesbian people in my family but it wouldn't bother me. If one of my sons told me he was gay, how could I stop loving and respecting him?

What difference would it make? I reckon there is little enough love in this world so no-one should be denied the love they find. My only concern would be the prejudice they may be subjected to by others.

Hey torch! One of my very best friends that I have know for many years is gay. We have been very close friends for years now and it never bothered me one bit! He is a wonderful person and even though we live in different states now we keep in very close contact. I have absolutely no prejudice against anyone who embraces this lifestyle! It is up to the individual and I don't feel that anyone has the right to turn them away. They are still humans with feelings. If one of my family members was gay it wouldn't bother me one bit. My friend and I were very close and I spent most every holiday with him and his family! They accepted me!

Two of my brothers are gay. At first I was like um are you sure? But now I'm all like cool.

I have many friends who are gay. I think that is their personal choice and if that makes them happy then I am happy. I have no problems with anyone's presonal preference.