My friend is really starting to irritate me.

I wouldn't get with him. Keep him as a friend, at least for now. How long has it been since he got a divorce? Maybe it's been very soon, he's not looking for anything, or anything too serious. He seems a bit rude and self centered. I tried to start something with someone like this. Who I had to chase and wanted to play im and email games. Now, I'm glad we never got together. If he was "ignoring" you once or twice, you could say it was chance. I think he's being passive agressive. He wants it know he can't be bothered, but won't come out and say it. You can do better than this. You clearly want better, because he's like your ex and there's a reason your ex is your ex. O/t I love yuour name. :)

Is he a real friend or an online one? If he is a real one then you can directly meet him to ask if he is too busy to read your messages or what?I think face to face talking is better than sending emails message or IMs. One time can be a coincidence but every time can't be. So, I think that he is ignoring you and do't want you as his life partner. Better that you talk to him face to face!

I won't tell you what to do but I can certainly share a similar experience. I was in a long-distance relationship for awhile (we eventually married) and, during that time, he did a lot of what your friend is doing. He'd be online and go AFK when I logged in or he'd send me one line saying, "Oh great, you get here just when I have to go." It used to frustrate me but I put up with it. I, too, felt like I was reaching out, trying to communicate, but he would acknowledge messages or emails when it suited him. Years later, he told me that he didn't think he had to work very hard to be with me because I was always there. He says he took it for granted, after awhile, that he could do what he wanted and I "wasn't going to go anywhere." It's a sad thing, in retrospect. Don't be the one doing all the work. On the one hand, he might feel like you are hounding him by sending a lot of messages or emails. On the other hand, he might have the same attitude I just described and assume you're going to be waiting there no matter when he decides to answer you. If you really think there is a possibility of a relationship, be honest with him upfront (well, if you can get him to pay attention! LOL). I've been a person who thinks that others will "capture faint hints" or read my mind and know what I want, need or expect. Trust me when I say that doesn't work out well. You are starting from the base of a very good friendship and that's awesome! If you feel there's a relationship to be built, I think you'll have to work at establishing a solid foundation for it. Don't rely on hints, innuendos, guessing or supposing. Best of luck to you!! :)

I wouldn't do anything else at all and let him do the chasing because after all, you've done all the chasing so now it's his turn. One time is one thing but numerous times of not responding back is not a coincidence so it's time to let go and move on and see what he does. If he does nothing then you'll know where you stand. Just good friends.

I wouldn't try anything with this guy. The thing is, before you start dating a guy normally thats when they try their hardest, and if the guy isn't doing anything at this point, I don't want to even think about how he is going to be if you guys did start to date. Plus, if it doesn't seem like its going to work out from the get go there is no reason to believe that dating is going to change much. I would say, stay friends with him instead of possibly ruining a friendship which seems to be great for you. Maybe later down the road he'll start trying, but I would back off and just give him his space, because maybe thats the reason he isn't talking to you - he wants space because he knows you like him and he doesn't want anything so therefore he feels if he backs off you'll back off and things won't get awkward.

Maybe he's done something or gotten into something that might hurt you in a way and he doesn't want that so he just tries to push you out of the danger like another maybe girl.

I think you can keep in touch with him on other less sensitive and everyday issues. Since you both are friends and have known each other, there’s bound to be topics of mutual interest between you both. See if he replies to them and if he does, then you should take the hint that he wants to remain just as a friend.

I think he has moved on, without you. Or perhaps it's a case of him trying to keep in touch with you but at one point, you were not there too. It's such a pity, I hope he keeps in touch with you back, or perhaps you guys meet again through online or something.

When you say, "Now, we're both divorced and are quite possibly thinking perhaps we could have something between us." Is this a mutal thing, or are you thinking this. If only you have thought about this, then maybe that's why he's not putting to much effort into getting back in touch with you when you leave him messages. He only sees you as a friend and sometimes friend lack the common sense to reply back to messages. If this was something you both have talked about then I would have to go directly to him and talk with you about everything. He may have gotten cold feet and feels he's not ready to jump into a relationship and feels avoiding you is better than having to face you and own up to the truth. I think it's probably the best would be to just talk with him, find out what's up, and go from there. It may be the best to just be friends, instead of trying to throw a relationship into a great friendship!

the always best way to see if a decision is right or wrong is envision it playing on the screen. with what is going on do you think you would gain critical aprroval or even audience approval with your actions? no offense. sometimes we have to step out of the mountain to see its true shape. let us not confuse the trees with a forest.

well,the best way to solve it is tell him directly.If you really like him, why do you mind whether you chase him or he chases you?But if he just want to be your friends,you also let him know hoe it feels when every message is not answered. Sometimes, being direct is the best way to solve problem.