The distance is a problem for love ?

Hi, youetme, donot worry about it! There has a saying in China: "The distance produces the beauty"! You see, not all lovers always stay together, they all have their all things to deal with, especially for their work! As for me, the long distance between both of us, it may make use love each other more, sometimes, when we stay together, something unhappy may happen. Just take it easy, distance will not be the problem between you and your lover.

In the beginning, it won't be a problem. The longer it takes, the harder it gets. Find a way by which you could be together.

Distance is a problem because you can't see him in front of you each day. In relation it is said the bond is more with some whom u see everyday. but regular interaction can be helpful.

If your love is true then no matter where you are your love will hold and bind you two together. It is said that distance makes the heart grow fonder.In your case i feel that the depth of you love is not very strong otherwise you would never face such problems.If you want to hold on and increase your love then you must be in constant touch with each other and keep on reassuring each other. Also you must have complete trust, faith and understanding with each other besides love. Love comes from the heart and not from external factors like looks, wealth etc because that would then be infatuation and not love.Another thing i would like to say is that you can love only once and not several times . It would be like changing your clothes everytime.Please think of this and wish you good luck in your quest.

till the time you are not married distances must not bother much if you can stay connected through internet and phone. it is good to be in some distance because distances make the relationship sweeter. if you are unable to meet the person regulrly then the desires to meet keep increasing and thus the love between you would also increase. believe me if you can...

Yes distance is a big problem, if is not strong enaught, this can kill a relation. And in all this all what can be the best is COMMUNICATION. If 2 peoples don t comunicate, in special in a long distance relation, this relation will failed. Depend how much they , both want to be together....but i know peoples who was after few years very happy after a long relation in distance. But i want to say, that this for me don t work, just because of less of comunication, and because we both don t was same strong. so...if you 2 are strong enaught all will be good.

I guess it totally depends on how strong your love for each other is. There are relationship that really survive even if distance is their problem. But many do fail in that kind of a relationship. I really think that there is no quick and easy way to judge a relationship if it will be a failure or a success it totally depends on the eagerness of one another.

youetme, Love per se isn't some mutually exclusive entity living on its own dimension - in fact, it's very much interwoven with one's life. I see this as two possibilities: I) You are naturally weak in communication, self expression and delivery. II) Your lackluster life doesn't give you enough variety to keep conversation going. And chances are, it's likely to be a mix of both because these two pointers are highly intertwined. Personality trait can be an acquired skill if you reiterate enough to behavior to infuse it as part of your core value. But you must first understand where this defect lies and if you are equipped with the strength and wisdom to strike out and start a human revolution. A dull person is languid because the way they lead their life probably doesn't give them the opportunity to expand on human interaction. These people are likely to invest their time in solitary activities that usually doesn't require much personal interaction between people. And the flourish of internet probably worsens this issue, if people start reckoning that it's a good substitute for reality. Love is not a miracle that dissolves all problems into nothingness; ironically, being in Love is like looking into a magical mirror of truth: it expose all our inner negativity and coerced us to face directly with our weakness, especially our personality. Only through the eyes of Love, would we understand how much 'defects' we have developed unconsciously over the years. A person who doesn't know how to speak must learn to challenge himself/herself to talk. Albeit he/she might not be the best speaker, but at the very least, he/she learns to speak, which is paramount to one's spiritual growth. The growth doesn't lies with the ability to speak, but rather, the notion of having to surmount his/her weakness. A dull life is but a transitory condition that can be shattered by having to invest your life, effort and time into something more worthwhile that could enhance your personality and life, especially if it involves an assembly of people, in which one must interact in such social setting. One can be insipid, but one doesn't have to accept the fate of a dull life. For everyday, there's always 24 hours for all. The difference between one from another is the time used by them individually. In summary: one cannot be a dull person that is interesting or an interesting person that is dull. Being in love doesn't make you an interesting person automatically - if your current life doesn't allow you the condition to be interesting, you will always feel inadequate in conversation because your vocabulary is limited. Take care.

hi, dont worry about anything one cant consciously love a person..its generally that you fall in love and not purposely make yourself get into it.. its good to fall in love always but i do agree that long distance love is very difficult to manage and ultimately you juz keep on loving that person only thru phone or talks or chats..it doesnt really becomes very happening or exciting....also in long distance love one only keeps on missing that person whehn you actually need that person to be with you.. one thing can be done in your situation avoid making friends whom you dont get to see very often..as friendship is te first step towards love..all the best..take care

Log off the computer perhaps, walk outside & meet someone in your city? Try meeting local people. :D

I am sure distance is not a problem for love or any other dearly relation. but i am sure, distance brings little pain between dearest relations. i too face this situation. but i just think it is good in some cases. This may increases love too.. just like little fights which brings us some more closer with our dear ones.

Once in my life, i experienced that, and that is true...distance is a problem of love.For me, love requires your presence not just emotionally but physically. I remember those times wherein im so very excited to met here because she will be coming home, one of the reason i think was, im just missing her.But when i stayed with here for a year, somethings change...Then, i realized that there something missing and thats the main part...Love!..

Not at all! it will help you both really understand each other. When you have something wit you, you will never realize the importance of that! In my case after moving abroad i really miss all my family members but when i was with them, i prefer to spend most of the time with my friends! Hope you both are in touch! all the best for your love ;)

just stick through it with that person if it feels true to both of you. and trust is a huge part of trust that person with your life even though there not always there its huge to have that trust. I have a hour gap between me and my GF and i am i teen but when i get to see her its like magic everytime. Trust and stick with your heart.

Well, yes it is. To be frank love is not as cosy as people think it is. When you love someone, there are many needs you want that person to satisfy. Suppose you fell in love and you told him "I Love You" and he said the same and then went away and did nothing about it. Didn't give you a hug. And then he continues as it is. Not giving you any extra time than he did earlier, you'd be saying "What the hell is this?" That's because you'd want to spend time with him, do things with him. Those are the needs. You want him to listen to your ramblings and he wants you to do the same and you want him to say sweet things to you,looking into your deep lovely eyes or hold your hand under the starry sky. Well most of these don't happen in a log distance relationship.There's no such thing as unconditional love. Love by definition is conventional

It is really hard to fight against the distance. Long distance relationship don't usually works. I have a friend who's in a relationship for 5 years. Her boyfriend decided to go abroad to prepare for their future. At first everything went well. They had constant communication its as if they are in the same geographical area. Few months later, I just found out that they called it quit.

Many couples can't bear the loneliness if they can not live together.Maybe someone can persevere in love for a short time,but it is not for long.I think you'd better try to live together.If you want to live together one must sacrifice something for the other.

Hi Youetme. In my opinion, i think long distance is a pronlem for love. I have been through this. My and my boyfriend were in different city. I was only in a city, when i was sick, i needed him, but he was not here. So when someone came close to me and took really good care of me, i was moved. Vice versa. I would suggest you to find someone who near you, i mean short distance can keep the love fresh, but long distance will be a problem.

The saying goes, absence makes the heart grow fonder, but through personal experience I get to say that is very difficult to keep up with such a relationship, unless you don't really work for it. There are many issues involved, and not just distance, but also the need of feeling someone close, or the desire to go out and do nice things with your partner... and then the biggest thing of all: trust. I think that distance relationships can work but only if both do their part and respect each other.

It is a test of Distance. God test your love if you both can really hold on no matter how far to you to each other.If you both in love don't worry just hold on, love will always finds a way just believe and have faith in GOD. Would you believe i have the same problem before with my husband now? we are very far from each other i have worries like you do but now we are 19 years together and have 2 kids. Hope you won't give up ...always seek guidance with the almighty to lead you in the right way, surely he will never fail you.