Do you look at people eyes when you talk to them?
By kunizzul
@kunizzul (1066)
Malaysia
April 29, 2009 2:48am CST
most of us have their own style when they talk to someone. like me, i like to look at his/her eyes when i talked. but sometime i realize some of us will not look at eyes but will look somewhere else. some people like to look down when they talk, some like to look left/right and etc. so, what is your style when you talk to someone? do you have other style than i mentioned?
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43 responses
@ILANEDRI19 (278)
• Israel
29 Apr 09
I love to look at the person eyes when I talk to him, because I think it creats a sort of trust when i'm talking to him, and that way he feels more comfortable.
If you can't look at the person eyes, then I have a way to help you. Try to look between his eyes, and not directly into his eyes. He won't be notice that, and that way you will creat a good conversation. Just try it.
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@srganesh (6340)
• India
29 Apr 09
In a business deal,it is a must to speak with eye contacts.In relations,I speak seeing their eyes and listen seeing their mouth.Avoiding to see the face is a bad sign of lacking confidence or a sign of lying.
With beautiful girls,I tremble to see their eyes alone,when talking.I have to struggle hard to do that.LOL!Cheers!
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@dorisday1971 (5657)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
I look at the straight in the person's eyes when I talk to him. With that, I can see if the person is sincere or not with his words. One should learn to look at the person in his eyes and that's also one way of not getting fooled immediately.
@amynan (11)
• China
29 Apr 09
In my opinion looking at other's eyes in the conversation is one of good manners. Eye contacts is playing a primary role in the communication. We can see the honesty and loyalty in the eyes which are not easy to be found out in words. I get used to look at partner's eyes when we are talking. And in this way we deliver our respect to talkers.
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@itsonlyndream (377)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
I always watch someone's mouth when one is talking. In short, lip reading. It is hard to do an eye contact since I have hearing problem. But it is better to have eye contact which is a sign of respect and confidence. As for my case, I have to struggle a lot since most of the time, it is hard not to have lip reading...
That's my style of talking to someone.
@ericajoyce (1746)
• Philippines
2 May 09
Hello kunizzul. Before, when I talk to people, I always look left or right. I feel so awkward when I look people directly through their eyes. When I do that, I felt that whenever they are telling me something and my eyes are shifting left and right, they feel that I am not listening to what they are saying. Now, Ive changed when I talk to people. I look at them directly and try my best to stay focused on whatever they are saying.
@angeltrhix (279)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
When I'm talking to someone, I always look to her/ his teeth I dunno but this is always happen. But when I realize that I'm looking to his/her teeth I transfer my look into his/her eyes. hehe. But really when I'm talking to someone I always look to their teeth. Sometimes I look to their eyes when I'm talking to them but when were talking to long I look to their teeth or I mean mouth.
@coolmailpankaj (338)
• India
2 May 09
Hi.
I usually do look into the eyes of the person I am talking to. For one think, it helps you judge whether they are telling the truth or not and then it looks awkward to others when you are talking to them and looking somewhere else.
@wisan_jaya (127)
• Indonesia
29 Apr 09
I do, especially when i talk something that is important. By looking at thier eyes, i think i could find out wheter they are talling the truth or a lie.
@libramillie (191)
• Ireland
30 Apr 09
I am also look at others eyes when i am talking with them,i think this behavior shows your respect to them,if one doesn't look at others is regard as unpolite to others.
@spirite68 (185)
• France
29 Apr 09
When I talk to people I generally look at people eyes, but mostly I don't see the person who talk to me !! lol
@kath_b (116)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
when talking to someone i like it best to look at them in the eye. since i would know if they are also interested in what i have to say and if they are sincere in talking to me. Also, looking at the person in the eye when you talk to them makes them feel that what you say is important and that you respect them and you are true and sincere in what you are saying. i also would like to add that when we talk or converse with someone whether our friend, family or whoever we have to make sure that we dont give out negative nonverbal cues or response especially how we position our body, our arms or hands and they way we stand or how close we are to the person we are talking to. =)cheers!
@monica058 (83)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
As much as possible, I look at the eyes of the persons that I am conversing with. However, I find it a little bit awkward when I look straight into the eyes. .
@Modestah (11179)
• United States
30 Apr 09
I do like to look in to a persons eyes, generally, when I speak to them - though it does depend on the relation ship to the person whom I am addressing. Sometimes it is better to avert the eyes especially if the other person's culture dictates it. When I am listening to someone else speak I will usually watch their lips as it helps me to distinguish their words.
@rainwater (352)
• China
30 Apr 09
Yes,I like to look at his/her eyes when I talked,I think it is a good habit,it is not polite to look other pleace when they are talking.Best wishes.
@gxyywhyzy (450)
• China
30 Apr 09
I think It's not polite to look someswhere else when talking to other.I always look at her or his eyes,and give her a smile druing talking.no matter you talking to anyone,you should look at her.
@cbhomework (545)
• Malta
30 Apr 09
I would want to look at a person in the eyes when talking, but sometimes, I do look elsewhere to avoid excessive eye contact, but otherwise, it's in our culture to look directly at a person when we are talking. There are instances, especially when the topic is very personal, that it is a must to look at a person when talking.