Who breaks the ice ?

i think it depends on what the fight is about.. im stubborn so i can usually wait till he breaks the ice if it was his fault but some times if its something i dont think is important enough to keep going then i will just because i dont want to have that stress in my life etc.. my hubby is my best friend so its hard to not talk to him when i want/need to

well it depends on what happened... i've been through a lot of non talking terms with my husband, at our early marriage it would last for 3-4 days... sometimes its me and sometimes its him that breaks it. now its different, it'll just take minutes or a couple of hours then we're back to talking again. and laugh about what happened. the longer that you are together, you get to know each other well, and then you know what to do. the last time we had that non-talking time was two days ago, we had a fight, and we were yelling at each other (you know,how hard it is with money these days... sometimes it gets into us). when it stopped we didnt talked for about an hour, then i have this pack of chocolate with almonds in it (that my sis in law gave to us), and i was eating and eating while in front of my laptop and he was watching tv. then i stood up and our eyes met, and he looked at the chocolate and smiled... hehehe... so i gave him some. and we're back to talking again, and just laughed at what happened...

We've had non talking periods; the longest was three whole days! I was really mad at him. I find that usually it is me who breaks the ice and starts talking because I forget! I start off feeling really angry, so angry that I feel unable to utter one word to him, then as time goes on the anger lessens but I hold onto the non talking until eventually I forget and then I feel annoyed at myself for giving in!

well, i'm actually the type who has a lot of standards in even the littlest of things. blame it on my love for reading and of course my personality. so, in short it is always me who most of the time that is displeased. however, it is always nothing personal for for me everything in this world is a working relationship. more of like i've had told you want i did not like. that was it. nothing personal. besides having been gifted with a child means it isn't about us anymore. everything now should be for his welfare.

hi dada in any close relationship arguments pop up and then people stop intercting for sometime. well, in my case, whenever, this happens i find myself breaking the ice with a 'sorry', even if i feel that i was not wrong i say the 'sorry' sometimes i even hurt my own ego but for me affection is bigger than ego. i know if i say sorry my relationship with the person would remain the same and it would not get bitter.

we must understand each other and dont follow our ego, thats the key...when you angry with your couples, just remember why both of you gather in mariage, and i think this is will break the ice.

If you have the courage to do so, it is better that you break the ice and revive your relations as soon as possible. Letting the matter linger on and waiting for your partner to do it for you may take longer time and be instrumental in further worsening the relations. I am sure once you break the ice and the relations are restored your respect will further be advanced merely because of your initiative that you have taken. It may happen that you would be at the right stance but once your partner realizes his/her mistake he will repent and may not venture into repeating the same mistake again.

I think it depends on the situation. Love and time. If ya love the poor dude you forgive and even, sometimes, forget. It all depends on who is at fault and how serious it is. And, it all comes down to how short life is and how much you love the other person. Stand by what you say and what the other one promises. Communication. I am not one to talk really. Hopefully I have learned something after four failed marriages. I think it all comes down to GOOD communication.

Hello my friend krajibg Ji, I think, whoever has more understanding, a positive approach, sacrificial values, some thing benifited to others like. Must have lot of patience. One can always break the Ice. May God bless You and have a great time.

Hi Rajib..how are you? I have recently moved so I have been busy and not spending much time on here..I will have to return soon. I never have the problem of not talking. My hubby and I dont fight so that never happens. If someone else like one of my kids is mad at me and doesnt talk, I will let them go until they come around on their own, unless I think I did something wrong in which case, I would apologize first.

My husband hates to eat food from a restaurant.So he takes the initiative even if it is my fault.But I think its fun sometimes to sulk and be in non talking terms.Adds spice to life!!

Not talking is childish. Both people should have the respect for each other to take time to cool off or get over something and then go back to each other and discuss the situation.

With me, its usually been the guy to break the ice. I pout and wait for him to do that. All it takes sometimes is a smile from him or an endearing word and all the ego comes crashing down like a pack of cards :p You could call me weird and I am not sure how many women out there are really like me, but I kinda 'need' some misunderstanding or another every other week. I feel it truly adds passion to our relationship. And lovemaking on the day we make up is simply out of this world. LOL. When we are not talking, it is seldom for more than a day or two, but both of us cannot carry on any longer than that!

Well in our part we don't wait for disagreements or misunderstandings to freeze so breaking the ice is really unnecessary. lol... Its pretty much who started it "thing", so the one who started the fight should also be the one to end it and we compromise that if we can't do that then don't start anything at all. We're a young couple and they say this is pretty much the stage when both are still patient with each other, but I don't understand why does that have to change at all in the coming years?

In younger years of marrieage I won't really break the ice, especially if I thought I was not at fault and besides, he is the man. Though he would talked to me after two days, still am waiting for him to say sorry but to no avail. In our good moods, however when I ask him why he don't know how to say sorry, he would reply, "once I talked to you, it means am already sorry". I think however, as the marriage last or should my husband still living and a little misunderstanding happened, I will break the ice and no more pride to take place, so as to avoid a deeper misunderstanding and as being a part of each other each one is concern of a continuous and open communication.

Well Rajib i am very lucky in this regard.I have a very easy going husband who always breaks the ice when we are on non talking terms.Our fiercest fight lasted for one whole day and at the end he came to me smiling , asking for sorry. We hardly fight with each other as we do not have the time to fight lol.I am a bit adamant and do not say or feel sorry and my poor husband always surrenders.

I think the person who is at fault should be the one to break the ice first. But under the circumstance that you think your partner has difficulty admitting his or her fault, you can actually help by initiating conversation to make them feel that you have forgiven the misdeeds done.