why did I even reply to it?
By x0xpinkyx0x
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
Brazil
April 29, 2009 11:47am CST
How do you feel when you reply to a discussion, and you really put effort into it, and write over 10 lines to try and help the person who started the discussion, and all you get back is a reply "thanks for your response" then you notice that this person replies to everybody with the same line. I feel like I wasted my time giving a good response, when I could be replying to someone else who would at least leave a nice reply to what I wrote!
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37 responses
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
29 Apr 09
When that happens to me I do not respond to those users again.
If that is the same comment throughout the discussion I also report it as 'thanks for your response' is specifically stated in the discussion Guidelines as not being allowed.
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
But it's a little hard to keep track of who you're responding to, there are so many users on mylot, how can you remember the name of every user you respond to?
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
6 May 09
I might be old but my memory is not failing me yet!
I remember names, avatars and topics on which I respond. Above this discussion there is also a tab 'responded' and there you can find all the discussions where you responded, in the order in which you responded on them. If any are missing they were deleted.
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Oh, lol, your memory must be way better then mine. I know there's a tab that says responded to check the ones you have already responded to but what I'm saying is like you for an example you have over 7000 answered discussions are you going through all of them to see if everyone replied to what you wrote, or you can keep track of all the users you replied to by memory?
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@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
Oh I hate when that happens, especially when it is a nice juicy debatable topic. I usually find someone in the thread with opposing views and counter their views in hopes a debate will start up regardless of the idiotic method of the original poster. Now I know this in some way financially rewards the original poster, but since I am here for the intellectual stimulation and not the financial stimulation, I don't care.
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
It does get interesting when you can debate on a subject, and yeah most people only care about the money, I just don't see how it can financially reward the original poster...
@Myrrdin (3599)
• Canada
6 May 09
Well if you post 100 new topics that each get only 10 responses which you never check, it can add up. Its stupid, but still, some people earn money by doing that here, others are here for the chat and discussion primarily, money earning is just an added benefit.
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I said that because for an example when I posted this discussion a week ago I had $4.28 and today with about 20 something replies it is still $4.28 so I don't see any difference on posting discussions and getting a lot of replies, I think responding to discussions is what really counts towards the money.
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@constaanta (571)
• Germany
29 Apr 09
I felt bad like you feel. But meanwhile I found some solace: Isn't there a book of life in heaven where is written all and everything of my life FOR EVER? The Lord will take the intention of mine in my favor, no matter how the world has honored my efforts.
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@constaanta (571)
• Germany
7 May 09
Let me put it in other words: If we aren't honored in this world for our good efforts .... the Lord will do it in a proper way.
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I have no idea what you meant by that but...hey thanks for responding!!![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@katsalot1 (1618)
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29 Apr 09
I would like to respond to all my responses, but quite often I can't think of anything to say. If somebody has pointed out something different or something that I hadn't considered, then it is easy to respond. Maybe I should try harder to think of something.
@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
I too always try to avoid putting "thanks for responding" I will find something to respond about but if after seriously racking my brain so bad it hurts (which by the way doesn't take much lol) then I will just leave it blank! BUT I have answered discussions, come back later, and have seen none got a response to their response and that makes me angry!
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I have posted thanks for responding on replies before, but I only write that when I see the person replied to my discussion just for the money and didn't even say anything relevant to the topic, it's just a way of saying ok I read what you wrote thanks, but I don't do that when I see the person actually wrote something good and took the time to do that.
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@strawberrychocodahi (4818)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
Hi there, well for me i don't expect someone what they can write as a response to my topic. Because if you do, you will only get frustrated. We must remember that not all members are the same. Some members are limited to their post because English wasn't their first language, but to think that if she or he replied to other respondents and not to yours, then i guess that's a different story
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But you see, we cannot manipulate what a person can write to our discussion. Remember that we opened the discussion for them to speak out their minds and share what information they have on mind. If you do reply longer to people who responded to your own discussion, good for you
. But you can never expect the same thing that others will do it also for you.
At least the host replied and thanked you. Some didn't have the time to go back to their own discussion and react to what you posted, but instead chose the best response on their topic. So it all depends on them too. We cannot do anything about it since it is not against Mylot rules but only on your own discretion .
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Right everyone has their own point of view, I just rather get no response at all then a copied and pasted one. And I never said I post longer replies or whatever, sometimes I don't even reply, I think that's better then pasting the same reply to everyone.
@mschellemi (95)
• Philippines
29 Apr 09
why feel bad about it? you should be glad since you helped the person. and who knows he's not in agreement with your responses or in other words he is not getting the responses he might want to read. at least the person made the effort to be as nice as possible by thanking you. what's also nice about him is that he doesn't want you to feel bad after all. i too believe on the saying : choose to be silent if there's nothing good you can say.
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@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
29 Apr 09
When I leave a response with a query such as 'don't you agree?' or 'don't you think?' and all I get is 'thanks for the response' it is fair to assume that the OP has not even read my response. Knowing it has not been read does not leave much nice to think about.
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Right but when you see the person wrote the same "thanks for responding" on over 20 replies, doesn't seem very nice. And I totally agree with you: choose to be silent if there's nothing good you can say.
@James72 (26790)
• Australia
6 May 09
Yeah it can be pretty frustrating after a while!
You come to learn after a while who the return effort makers are and who aren't, so in time you'll find yourself gravitating more towards them than those who couldn't be bothered acknowledging you. Personally I use a 3 strikes rule. If I get blown off like this by someone 3 times in a row then I won't bother with them at all anymore. As you've said in a round about way yourself, it's far more productive to be interacting with people that interact back! ![](/Content/images/emotes/thumbup.gif)
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Sometimes I don't even care if I get a reply because most of the discussions are nonsense, but the one that I was talking about was a personal one asking for help with family problems, a serious issue, and all that to get a thanks for your response, lol, but I just feel like I shouldn't answer those questions anymore, because they are probably fake, just to get people to reply.
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
29 Apr 09
Hi pinky! I can really relate and understand exactly where you are coming from! I have had this happen to me quite a few times and to be honest it may sound harsh but I just stop answering their discussions no matter how interesting or intriguing they may be. Also if that person happens to be on my friends list they get booted. I honestly don't have time for people like that and I too feel like why bother!?! Sometimes people don't even answer at all and that too really boils my blood!
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@PurpleTeddyBear (6685)
• Canada
11 May 09
I can understand that! Especially if like you said you have taken the extra time to respond and your really happy with how you responded!
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Oh, I don't take the time to do all of that, delete the person and never reply to them again, but it does bother me when that happens. Specially when I wrote a good response and took the time to do it, I don't care if they don't even respond, but what bothers me is the same reply to everyone.
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@enola1692 (3323)
• United States
30 Apr 09
I agree with you its like youtry to help someone an they are ok bye gotto move on an whats really worse then a one line response is when you get no response after resonding to there discusion
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I rather have no response at all then the same generic one as everyone else.
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@zed_k4 (17589)
• Singapore
30 Apr 09
I feel you there. I've been investing with lots of lines but all I get is a one word liner replies at times, but that's alright, I suppose.
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I guess it's ok, as long as we are getting rewarded for it... lots of people here are telling me at least you got a reply!!
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@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
29 Apr 09
Some people start mylotting without reading the guidelines, or do not care that it is against guidelines to respond in that manner. I know that I try to respond with atleast a few lines, and in those lines I try to have something the discussion starter can respond to. I know that there are a lot of people here who do their best to try to make the most money here, and also help others by responding in length, myself included as well as my fiance. I think that it's great you've responded with ten lines and that you should try not to worry about that one person. I know that I have, alot, but really it doesn't do anything to but hinder our discussions / responses / comments here.
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Most people just write whatever to get the money, but what I'm saying is I hate it when I take the time to reply to a discussion and if I happen to go check back on it to see if I got a reply it looks like the person just copied and pasted the same reply to everyone.
@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
30 Apr 09
I do put 'thanks for your response' on my reply but I always write a comment first to respond to the response if you know what I mean! It is difficult sometimes; I recently started a topic and I received over 80 replies so it's been quite a job replying to every one! I do put a different reply on each post to show that I have read and appreciated the response.
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@paula27661 (15811)
• Australia
7 May 09
That is very true. I try to reply according to the comment and it can be hard work when there are many responses. Pasting a standard answer is pointless. ![](/Content/images/emotes/happy.gif)
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
That's really nice of you to do that, I think if I got over 80 replies I wouldnt reply to people, I think it's better to have no reply at all then a generic copied and pasted one.
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@cobra1368 (702)
• United States
29 Apr 09
It sucks, but some people are here just trying to make a buck (which is literally about all you can make in a day), so they create discussions so they get responses, and then respond to those people in the quickest way possible so they can get money. But I don't think it works that way. I think you have to have quality discussions with people before it turns into money.
I've only been doing this for about a week and a half, and I'm getting close to being at the halfway point towards my first payout. :)
People that are not interested in the actual discussions they've started are very lame, IMO.
@mysdianait (66009)
• Italy
29 Apr 09
You have fathomed it out perfectly!
As stated in the Guidelines, if they only say 'thanks for the response 'they will earn nothing for it.
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Yeah the one line replies I think don't even get any money and it just feels like they don't care, I'm surprise to see you already half way towards pay out you posted 157 responses so far, and I just reached my half way after 400 and something replies...maybe it has to do with discussions... I don't post that many discussions I only reply to them.
@cobra1368 (702)
• United States
6 May 09
I'm not sure exactly how they quantify quality responses. I have only created maybe three discussions. However, when I have an opinion about a particular topic, especially if it's a strong one, I will go on and on with my response. At least a couple of paragraphs.
Maybe you need to think a little more about your responses and how to draw them out. I try to have "conversations" with people. If they respond, I will usually find something to say back, unless the response is "that's great, thanks for responding." Then I don't bother.
See? This particular response is quite long. I don't intend to write all of this when I start. I am just a talker (and a writer!) I guess. LOL
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@flowerday (322)
• Singapore
29 Apr 09
hihi... i totally agree with you that it feels like the time and effort are all wasted when the reply you get is just a one liner...it seems like your respond is not being recognised or acknowledged...
it will feel good if the person really bothers to read your respond and give a comment that corresponds to your respond..
i feel that it will make the person who respnded feel happier =)
in mylot, we should be helping each other out =)
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@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I know, I usually don't go back and check on all the replies I give but I do go back on the ones I find interesting. And I hate it when I see that one line, it's like the person didn't even read what I wrote!
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Yes I agree, I actually replied here to a lot of people saying I rather have no response at all then a generic copied and pasted one.
@modstar (9605)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Hi pinky! I don't know if i have came across with your response on my own discussions but i would like to apologize if ever but i am sure i didn't leave a reply saying thanks for the response. I usually leave something funny or something that'll make people think. Still i would like to apologize. Sometimes it is pretty difficult to maintain a discussion especially when there is an overwhelming amount of responses and it's pretty hard for me to cope up. Well i guess we should just be thankful because we got a reply at least right? Some myLotters don't even care to leave a message.
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Oh no it wasn't you, matter of fact I don't even remember his user name, and he was kind of new to mylot had like 80 points, but what made me mad was that I noticed he replied to everyone with the same line and the discussion was personal, it was a cry for help, the kind that makes you feel bad and really want to help.
@abhichat1980 (250)
• India
30 Apr 09
You are absolutely right. At times it is annoying to see just a one liner as a reply of your hard thought true felt posting. But you have to agree that there are different kinds of people here somebody only tries to make money while others enjoy the discussion. People who enjoy the discussion will actually give you the kind of reply you expect in a fair discussion. Many times I have even not got any reply at all. Maybe because I have posted late in the discussion or something like that so it's annoying but I guess It's okay too. Cannot expect the same from everybody.
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
Right, that is how we can tell who cares about the discussions they started and the ones that just started a random discussion just to get people to reply to it. Sometimes even a big lie that will make people feel bad and try to help.
@hxstar (510)
• China
30 Apr 09
Hi,x0xpinkyx0x
Well,I understand how you feel.However,I cannot agree with you.You know some replies are not easy to comment much.But in your case,since you write so much,so I think you should recieve a well made reply.I always try to comment these responses to my discussions as good as I can.
Have a nice day!
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I'm not saying you HAVE to reply to everyone with a good reply, no, you can leave it blank, what made me mad was to see everyone got the same line, like it was copied and pasted to everyone.
@x0xpinkyx0x (673)
• Brazil
6 May 09
I always try to respond to the people that replied, even if it takes me a while to do that, at least they know I care about what they wrote.
@jayrene (2708)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
i have had those responses too... but i never really look into it as something to be feel bad about.
maybe that person cant think of anything else to say and he/she just wants to be nice to those who responded to his discussion, so he/she says "thanks for your response"
dont think that you have wasted your time, it wasnt wasted, remember you earn for every response and discussion you share here... so its really not a waste.
and the next time you see another "thanks for your repsonse" response to your response... =D, just go to the next discussion and forget all about it.
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