I need a life partner
By sonusd
@sonusd (1547)
India
April 30, 2009 1:58am CST
Hello friends I want to marry but I do not understand where to search a girl because I affraid that if any bad girl come in to my life so she will destroy my family, so I want to marry a girl who can take care of me and my family so should I make a profile on web or should I contact any matrimonial site
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18 responses
@Tcboss (69)
• Netherlands
1 May 09
I don't think you should have the attitude against 'loving' as you have now. It looks like you just want to marry to be married, you should marry because you love the person you want to marry, not loving the person you marry because you have to marry her.
@amitksing (1323)
• India
1 May 09
Very Well said!!
Also, one should not marry someone just to make her do things for his family, but should do it to make her life full of love and happiness.
Rule is simple, you do good, you get good!!
@MsTickle (25180)
• Australia
1 May 09
Generally, a woman is looking for a man to take care of her. The husband is the head of the family, the caretaker, the provider, If you are wanting a woman to take care of you, stay home and look to your mother. A girl does not want to be a mother to her husband.
@madhu_yl (116)
• India
1 May 09
hi sounsd,
I think you will get good life partner.In my opinion u want good girl,you give it that responsibility to your parents,they choose best girl.don't go any matrimonial site,because they don't give correct information about that girl.they don't take any responsibility after marriage. All The Best To You.
@vivianchen (2646)
• China
30 Apr 09
Hi Sonusd,
First of all, if you always afraid that you can't get a right girl, and you have been thinking all the time! Thinking and afraid will help you to get your partner! What you need to do is start your 1st step, get to know some girls that around you, or your friend's friend. Don't afraid to be hurt, no one knows what will happen in the future, just follow your heart and i think you will find your Miss Right! Good luck!
@agv0419 (3022)
• Philippines
30 Apr 09
Love comes unexpectedly so don't be too hard on yourself. I think if the girl really mean for you she going to be arrive in your life soon. Don't stop on waiting for her. Sometimes it hards to find a girl who are willing to take care of your family because it is hard to deal with the in laws. Some girls don't like that kind of arrangements.
@dfollin (25387)
• United States
1 May 09
I know many people that go out looking for love and it doesn't work out if you look for it.It just comes to you.I was engaged and after about 6 months I found out how the person was very abusive to me,both mentally and physically.Then people would say to me for me to look for someone different.So,I did and about four years later I was engaged again.That did not work out.Later I fell in love with a man and that did not work either.Everytime I would have a break up people would advise me to look for someone else,so I did and it never worked out.Then I finally said that I was calling men off.A year later I met someone by accident while I was doing a hobby and we fell in love and got married.
@veronicalodge12 (160)
• Philippines
1 May 09
The technique is not to look for her. The more you do the more she will not appear before your eyes. I don't really like those meeting up from sites and stuffs over the net, coz can you imagine if a friend ask you "how did you meet this girl?" and you just say a lame answer as from the net. That in my opinion isn't really romantic, I mean it just shows how desperate you are that you have to use a very technical way as telecommunications. I don't know, perhaps you should ready yourself first, make yourself perfect for someone and pray, learn some stuffs you need to. I mean, what if that perfect someone comes and you're not perfect at all you just say to yourself you're not worthy for her and shy away. Just get ready and embrace your season now! Singleness is one of the best times! Ciao!
@tamankar85 (5)
• India
1 May 09
having a girl nearby your eyes gives u the potential to know a girl , as finding a partner is the last and final decision of ones life, i say that if u care so much of u r family means u allow them to choose a girl , first u get along with her and u will get a proper solution .. ..... so good luck ......
@dramae (9)
• Philippines
1 May 09
I'm no marriage expert but let me tell you this, never rush into it and make sure that the girl is also willing to make sacrifices for you. I think the web is not the best place to find a life partner. Make your parents proud look for your girl in the right places and the web is certainly not that besides you don't know how posers are out there. Marry someone that would accept who you are and would adjust very well with your family.
Good luck with your search...
@Hedwig (283)
• China
1 May 09
It is not easy to find the right person,but there must be someone suitable for you out there ,waiting for you. Be patient and you will find her at the right time.
You can try some matrimonial sites,maybe you will find someone through them. But dont anticipate too much.By the way, be careful since there may be some cheaters on these site.
Good luck!
@landerson254 (191)
• United States
30 Apr 09
The best!!!!! place to find a Good girl would be in a church..Ladies that attend church tend to be of more moral stadards...attend and pay attention you will find one...God has a wonderful women waiting for you.
@mnk202 (338)
• United States
1 May 09
As a woman I can give you the advice there are many ways to find someone and I think everyone in life would like a a life partner but all life partners are hard to find. When the time is right for anyone that perfect one will either be there or be found. I'm sure your family will help you and your friends and if your comfortable with posting. i wouldnt contact a matrimonial site because in my opinion I think you should get to know someone before you decide to spend your life with them.
@utubez9195 (32)
• Canada
30 Apr 09
Well to tell you the truth.. if you don't get out there and try there will never be an oppurtunity for you. Yes, everyone has their fears but nothing gets done if you don't try. And just to tell you.. you shouldn't really date online because people out there are not what they seem to be...
@amitksing (1323)
• India
30 Apr 09
As a family Guy, the first thing to be seen is what type of marriage are you going to go for: A Love Marriage or An Arranged Marriage.
If Love Marriage is allowed to you, see if you like somebody or if you have had a crush on anybody. If so, spend more time with her, try to figure out her thoughts about a joint family. If you feel she can go smoothly with your family, then go ahead and take your relationship to the next level! But if you never had anything like that, then you can either rely on your family to pick a girl for you, or try finding people through dating websites, matrimonials etc.
If you go for arranged marriage, ask your parents that whatever girl they chose for you, you need some time to talk to her and know about her type of person she is. Keep this proposal in front of the Bride's parents and I think they won't mind it. Then talk to her, and find if she is of your kind, and if she is ready to go on with a family.
This way I think you would get a home maker for you, not a home breaker. Also, just like someone above said, stop thinking that you won't get the perfect girl. Be positive and wait for some time.
All the very Best!!
@Dasari100 (3791)
• Anantapur, India
30 Apr 09
I wish that you will get your life partner as soon as possible so i agree with you so it is not easy to get good one but we have pray god to get good life partner, It is not on our hand but we need to select good one friend.
@savypat (20216)
• United States
30 Apr 09
The first thing you have to do is become the kind of guy that a girl would want. The law of attraction is that if you keep hunting for a girl, you mind will say he likes hunting and so it will make sure that is what you get, more hunting. If you work on
becoming the type of man, husband a women would love to have, you will attract that
woman. Change your statement from I want to HAVE to I want to GIVE. Blessings
@srganesh (6340)
• India
30 Apr 09
Leave it to the hands of your parents or elders of your family.They will look after a nice girl from a well reputed family.They know all the tactics to learn about the family background and the habits of the girl and will select a nice girl for you.Just let them know your expectaions....that is the qualification for your would be wife,you have in mind.Cheers!