My Piture is on HER Facebook!
By jsitko
@jsitko (1169)
United States
April 30, 2009 11:04am CST
Two nights ago I was on Facebook writing some good news on my families Facebook walls. I got to my Sister's and noticed that she had added some new pictures, so I took a look. Low and Behold, there was a picture of me and my husband in my back yard. I got upset because I did not want it there plus she never even asked my permission to post a picture of me on HER Facebook! I left her page and went to others to post my news and went on with my day.
That evening, my sister called to chat and congratulate us on the news. I thanked her and then asked if she could do me a favor, please take my picture off your Facebook. She asked why, I said I did not want it there. She kept going and said "The only people who are going to see this is our friends and family." Still trying to be nice, I said I still would like you to delete it and you never asked me permission to post a picture of me. She still kept going not understanding why and then said she wasn't even sure if she cold delete it.She said,"I really do not know my way around Facebook well enough." I said,"You knew well enough to post it!" I tried to tell her how and she got really upset with me and once again said she doesn't know why I want her to do this.
Now it was my turn! I got mad and yelled,"Because I said so!" Just like Mom would have done.
I love my sister very much but I really believe she should have asked my permission to post a picture of me and my husband. Why would she want that picture there anyhow? Do you think she should have asked me first?
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
30 Apr 09
If you object to any photo in anyone's album, there is a link to the bottom right of the photo which allows you to report it.
I have never used this facility but it is worth exploring in cases like this. Your sister will, doubtless, be a bit iffy with you for a bit but I guess she'll get over it.
@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
30 Apr 09
Technically, yes, she should have asked you first but she no doubt thinks you live in each others' pockets, like many 'family' people do. You have every right to ask her to take it down, of course, and she should do so at once.
@jsitko (1169)
• United States
30 Apr 09
Hi Owlwings, I really did not want to report the photo and get my sister in any sorts of trouble. I truly did not think me asking her to delete the photo was going to cause all this either. We are pretty close, but I still would not post a picture of her and her husband on my Facebook. I don't think it is right to have her photos on my Facebook and visa-versa. Her Facebook, her photos, my Facebook, my photos. Maybe I am wrong but just how I feel.
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@owlwings (43910)
• Cambridge, England
30 Apr 09
I know, it gets very difficult when someone steps over the line simply because they didn't realise there was one. I wasn't suggesting that you should report it - only that you could. I don't know what happens if you do: whether Facebook contact the person who put the photo up; whether they just remove it without saying anything or if they remove it and tell the person (I haven't checked Help ... perhaps it says there what the procedure is.
Always, of course, try to sort it out diplomatically and privately first!
