Apology to my Friends here at myLot
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
United States
April 30, 2009 10:11pm CST
I want to let my friends know why I have not been around much the last few months and give them my apology. I have been dealing with a whole lot of stuff with my hubby and my dad and twin sister I have been sitting and crying. I have been just unable to motivate myself to do much on the computer. When I am on the computer I have been playing a game to try to keep my mind off of what is going on with my my life.
1) My hubby He has not worked at his main job since March 7th. He says he has been having stomach pains and so he has not gone to work. I finally got him to fill out the FMLA paper work and take it to the doctors office. Hubby has been going through all these tests and they are all negative We finally went into see the regular doctor and hubby admitted to me and the doctor he is depressed and hates his job. He wants to quit. If he quits and does not fine another job we will lose our home and he knows it. It does not seem to bather my hubby, it scares the heck out of me. I have not been able to get it through his head that we cannot afford his house if he does not work full time. The doctor did put hubby on some anti depressive meds. I hope this helps. Our insurance will not pay for psych. treatment.
2) Some of my friends know that at Christmas my dad told me to have my son and his girlfriend get an abortion because their baby maybe retarded and he was not going to have a retarded child in his family. Well he called me two weeks ago and I chewed him out and he denies saying what he did to me. I then told dad he hurt me and my family to the core and could not talk to him. I then hung up on him. Well dad took it upon himself and called my twin and apologized to my twin and asked her to call me.
3)My twin thinks I should call dad and forgive him.What hurts the most is dad did not think he did anything wrong until I put him in check and now he want to apology to me and my family. I cannot talk to him because I am to angry at him right now. I know I am not being Christian right now but I am to hurt and maybe someday I will forgive him.
4)I have been fighting with the local hospital and medical regarding a hospital bill that mom owns and also her defaulted 12 thousand credit card bill.
I feel I am all used up and cannot handle anything else. I know I can it just feels like I cannot.
I will be back soon when all this is sorted out.I do care for you all I just cannot handle any thing on the computer right now.
See you soon. I will keep you posted.
Sorry
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9 responses
@pyewacket (43903)
• United States
1 May 09
I'm real sorry to hear you're going through such a rough time and do understand if you don't want to use the computer or be here as much. At least your husband is taking medications for his depression, and hopefully that will help him and might get him back to his "old" self again.
My thoughts and prayers are with you teapot and hope things get somehow back to normal for you ((((((hugs))))))
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
2 May 09
Pye thanks for your payers and your card. I love your new photo.
@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
2 May 09
Take all the time you need. Just remember that we are here if you need an ear or just need to vent. It sounds like you have alot on your plate right now.
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@Thoroughrob (11742)
• United States
2 May 09
He did not do so good. We have had 2 more surgeries and in the hospital another 10 days. We are home, but with IV antibiotics that he could be on up to a year. He can no longer stand, due to them taking his baclofen pump out and his legs are stiff as a board, and get leg cramps all the time. He is almost constantly in a sitting position, even when he is sleeping. It has been quite an ordeal.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
4 May 09
OH NO the last post I had read I thought he was doing well. I am so sorry to hear he is not doing well. I hope he will do better in the future. My prayers are with him and yours.
I woke up today and decided to quit being so upset about my hubby and today was the first day I have not been crying. I cannot control him and so be it if he decides to quit his job and we lose our house we lose our house. I cannot control him. I may never forgive him but I cannot control him.
I am going to do what I can to survive and take care of us as best I can. I will not move into the ranch house that we use to live which is very old and very bad shape. I have told my hubby that. I have put my foot down about that. Thanks for your kids works and I have and will continue to keep you and your in my thoughts and prayers.
@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
2 May 09
Thanks I hope your son is good and continues to keep up the good work.
@someonesmom (5761)
• Canada
1 May 09
Hi teapotmom,
I'm very sorry to hear about all of this, and do hope that things will get better for you soon. Family issues can be really tough, and just so hurtful.
As for me, I'm rarely on myLot these days, as there were too many negative changes here, for my liking, at the beginning of the year. People I consider friends here, being banned, stalked, etc., etc. I do miss people like you, and some others who are still here, and watch out for discussions like this. I hate to see anybody hurting, and try to keep up with what's happening in this way.
Please take care of yourself.
Hugs
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
2 May 09
Thanks for your kind words and hugs. Hopefully it will all settle down soon.
@SomeCowgirl (32191)
• United States
1 May 09
Hello Teapot-
I am very sorry that you and your family are growing through so much right now. I can understand why your husband is depressed, and I've been depressed myself so I know what it feels like to not care if you go back to work or not. I hope that he can get a little bit of time to himself and work out everything in a clear manner. Be there for him, as I know you already are (by your discussion). I understand you not wanting to forgive your father and what he said was wrong, but I feel that it's just the beliefs of some of the people who have lived through a tougher time then we have. Good luck with everything that's been going on. I hope you can find some more time to come back on mylot, not just only as a distraction, or a stress reliever, but remember, you also make money here!
May you be blessed in full abundance!
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@Darkwing (21583)
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8 May 09
Hey... you're in a bit of a dark spot there, my friend, but there IS a light that will defeat the dark. Let me help you by lighting my candle and showing you the way? There are certain parts of this you can put behind you. Obviously not the one with your husband, because that's paramount to keeping a living standard, but I'm sure that because he's ill, mentally if nothing else, you may be able to find some help and support on that one.
As for the rest, you need to put it behind you, finalise it, even if it means dropping a note to your dad with a short apology. Then, the matter will be closed as far as you're concerned. If your son is old enough to get his girlfriend pregnant, then he will have to deal with his grandfather! It's not up to you, my friend... forget about it! Concentrate on getting yourself back on track, and put everything else on hold, or behind you. It may even be that your dad was trying to suggest what he thought was the best thing for your son, but men don't think about what they're going to say half the time!
As for your Mum's hospital bill and credit card problems, it might be an idea to put her in the hands of a financial advisor... one that doesn't cost you or her, and put that behind you as well. You can't handle everybody else's problems until you've sorted out your own, immediate and important one. I'm not really up on American Law and what free advice and support you have available to you but I'm sure your Mum can get some sort of help.
As far as you're concerned, if you need to talk or get anything off your chest which you feel you can share, then PM me... I'm always here and willing to support my friends. Brightest Blessings.. I'm sending energies to you in the hope that you can soon find your way to the light, Special Person. xx
@irishmist (3814)
• United States
1 May 09
I am sorry to hear you have so much on your plate right now. I hope that you can get it all straightend out. We all go through bad times. I will say some prayers for you and keep you in my thoughts. I hope things will work out for you and your family.
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
2 May 09
Thanks my friend. I will be back on my feet soon I hope.
@Opal26 (17679)
• United States
1 May 09
Hey tea~ I am so sorry to hear that you have been going
through all these things. That is just too much! I just feel
so bad for you! I am sorry that you haven't been able to
talk about with us so that you could get it off your chest,
but I do understand. I am at least glad that you did find
out the truth why your husband didn't want to go to work
at his job, not that it is a good thing, but at least you
found out the truth. And as for your father, I don't blame
you for still being angry. I would be too. I am really sorry
that you are having to deal with so much of this stuff all
at the same time. I just want you to know that I will be
praying for you and will be here for you whenever you need
to talk. Please take care of yourself and be well. Hugs, Opal
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@teapotmommommerced (10359)
• United States
2 May 09
Thanks Opal. I am so glad to know that I have friends. I just cannot stop crying. I wish I could stop this darned crying and get my head on straight. I am questing everything I am doing now. I do beautiful crafts and give a gifts. I gave a gift to a friend for her baby and did not want her to open it because all of a sudden I think it it is ugly. I am still kicking myself in the butt that I did not go out and buy her something because she go so many beautiful things last Saturday I gave her something ugly that I made. I just thought of it and am sitting her shaking. This has really taken my confidence out of me. I do not know which way is up. I have not been like this in years. I need to get my act together so I can think straight.Thank for your kind words and prays.
