Did your fears that a relationship was ending turn out to be true?
By OceanZealot
@OceanZealot (484)
United States
4 responses
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
1 May 09
Hi OceanZealot
This discussion reminds me of my ex. My relationship with him was very smooth with no problems between us. I always thought we were meant to be together and had in my mind he is my Mr.Right. One day I was just sitting in the caoch and watching a movie where lovers seperate and fell the pain. At that time I was just thinking if at all that happens between me and him. The next day we has a small quarell. I was afraid that will end our relationship. The small quarell turned out to be a big disaster and now we are not in a relationship anymore. :(
Thanusha
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@OceanZealot (484)
• United States
1 May 09
Aww...I'm sorry to hear about your break up. It is good to hear that someone else went through the same thing, it didn't work out. But you are okay and better from it. I hope to do the same if that is how it turns out.
@thanusha85 (532)
• Malaysia
1 May 09
Well I am fine now OceanZealot. Its been quite sometime and I am fine with what had happened now.
Thanusha
@urbandekay (18278)
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1 May 09
Ever heard of a self-fulfilling prophecy?
all the best urban
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@OceanZealot (484)
• United States
1 May 09
Very True. In this case it would be the power of negative thinking. You know you put something so deep in your head you actually cause it to happen in life.
@urbandekay (18278)
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3 May 09
It's not that the negative makes bad things happen but that negative thoughts cause negative attitudes and these lead us to react to situations in particular ways that are destructive to relationships. Thinking positively, therefore, is alone not enough to change the situation but thinking positively may lead one to change habits of behaviour and speech that are destructive.
all the best urban
@zandi458 (28102)
• Malaysia
1 May 09
I am always saying to my husband that our marriage is doomed whenever there is a misunderstanding with him and that words become so immune to my relationship that it become meaningless. I am always ready for any eventualities should my relationship don't work. The vows that everyone took does not bullet proof the collapse of any marriage. It is only a formality. So enjoy togetherness while it last, tomorrow might never be the same.
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@OceanZealot (484)
• United States
1 May 09
Thank you so very much for your comment. I appreciate someone knowing exactly where I'm coming from and still being married. Sometimes you begin to think that you are the only one that has fears like these.
I agree. Enjoy the togetherness while it lasts for tomorrow might never be the same. I think that is a great quote to live by. Not only in my love life, but in life overall.
I look forward to reading more of your mylottings. Thank you very much Zandi.
@jshekhar (1562)
• India
1 May 09
Hello friend,
I have been in a relationship for a few years now. I had this fear some six months ago that it was coming to an end and I think it is turning out to be true. We have not had a formal break up till now but it is round the corner. We hardly communicate for the past few months and that should be testimony enough.
