which hurts the most the TRUTH or the LIE?

i don't know what you are up against... but suddenly i felt sad. before i knew it, the tears just flowed. i don't know why. and i don't even know you. i'm sorry if you are in a hot seat right now. i don't even know why i'm crying. maybe i'm feeling the sadness... yes people may take it the wrong way, no matter what we say. some people would rather not know. they'd rather be kept in the dark than be hurt. because then they could pretend everything's ok... when it's not. the truth and the lie can both hurt a person, albeit differently. but tell the truth anyway. it may not be the best thing to do... but it's the right thing to do.

It was her who lied to me ... I asked her why she lied to me but she took it differently.... I thought she trusted me but I guess I was wrong ... sorry to put you into my situation my friend...I guess you just feel me that i am so down thats why you have reacted that way....i just need someone to talk though and with this discussion at least I have you to voice it out with...now dont cry ok ....

well said my friend ... Just hurt now I guess cant say much but all I can say is you said it well... I am into this situation right now regarding this thing .... and I think she take what I asked her the wrong way.... I dont know where this one would lead us... I just dont know....

Well I guess you have a point there my friend. But thats why forgiveness is hard to do as well coz some say they forgive you but never really actually forgets.

To totally forgive for me is to forget about the wrong that has been done to bring back the trust that once was broken as you have mentioned wounds reopened once you forgive that wound will heal and healed wounds never re opened unless being wounded on the same spot if you know what I mean as as forgiving true forgiveness goes along with forgetting for the wounds to heal.

Forgiveness has nothing to do with forgetting.

That is so very true. I would much rather be told the truth, even if it hurts.

It my be hard to face the truth but it better to know it ...some lies can be beneficial but most lies hurts.....

That YOU for those kind words. Truthfully, it's always a pleasure. Friends ARE what the world needs more of, and that's no lie either. Have yourself a great day my friend. Cheers; cdrxo

yeah indeed friends and friends we shall be... have a good day too my friend

Thanks for the complement my friend... You know you are one of my friends here at mylot who always respond to my discussions and not hearing from you in a day would somehow make me missed some of my friends here.... thanks for being here my friend and by the way i am just telling the truthhave a good day.

some lies dont hurt that much as you will read some of the replies here but most of the lies really do destroy a person ... this kind of lie is what I am referring about and yes I am just wondering to why ....

Today I found out something I did refuse to believe,a very close family member was helping himself to my savings I knew there was money missing from my bank account and I asked the bank for an investigation into it.Well today the bank contacted me and they say it was your pin number and your card, and I know that this close family member was the only one who knew my pin number and had access to my card because sometimes I can't get to the bank and I used to trust this person to do it for me. Im not just dissapointed Im hurt, and in shock that someone I love and help so much can do that to me! the thing is I won't confront this person because it will cause a family argument and I don't want that I will let it be but I will never trust this person again and I feel very sad about it, Im not angry Im just sad.

what if it's someone close to you who lied to you ..... it would really hurt hearing lies from them right the more coz they are close to us.

well i certainly agree in all you say sometimes it is the measure of any relationship on how much you can be totally honest with them. I know truth is indeed hard to do easier said than done...but with truth you offered trust as well and if you can handle truth from them that only means that you are being true with those persons a real one.

yeah i do believe that but as some say some lies are also beneficial depends on the lie...and some made there point out of it. But there are those lies that really do hurt.

hahah you got me on the last part lol i have to read it twice lol thats original" rather leave the liar than to have to live with a lie" I like that

yeah I agree nobody is perfect. and yes sometimes lie is also needed those harmless lie that can be beneficial...

with truth once worth is measured and you too would learn how much they care for you if they can accept the truth from you but if they cant then at least you tried telling them the right thing....

you have it right. Trust and respect is what you feel if someone say you the truth and if a lie the lie that really huts and do bad things to people you will get mistrust and doubts. this would certainly hurt you.

truth hurts but its the only way for you to know it its the only way out.... some truth hurts some truth dont. but lies hurts the most for me...

truth and lie both hurts but lie hurts the most. I breaks trust and add more doubts to friendship and relationship.

well i wont make this one hard for you my friend.... truth is good lie is bad right so its clear that lie hurts lol well you are right about everything you say.....and thanks for you funny sample

same here not telling and telling a lie is different thing just can stand with a lie though.... that is what I am very particular of....

yeah you are right no matter how hard we keep a lie it will always come out in the open so whats the point of lying better tell the truth at least it would set you free.... If that person cant handle the truth then that person doesn't really care for you at all....

Yes my friend it does hurt like hell.. Truth always prevail lie never succeed

yeah it does hurt us in both ways my friend ....

yeah I understood perfectly what you say balance of being human where there is happiness there is sadness ..... same goes with truth and lie....