Do you ever feel so unappreciated you just want to cry?

I'm not mom but I understand you. Sometimes when I realize I've done so much for my freinds whthout anything rewarded, I feel lost and upset, even thinking I'm not loved. I'm not God or saints liking to giving without receiving. Not to mention mom. Mom would like to do everything and sacrifice everything for her children as well as her husband, but in many cases, they take all this for granted! Children are born to be loved and cared by mom and they are used to receiving the unconditional giving. As a daughter, I have to admit, though ashamed, seldom do I have the intention to express my appreciation to my mom despite the boundless love and care I've received from her. Actually, a tiny expression of love, care, or appreciation would make mom satisfied and cheerful. Otherwise, always giving , no receiving, makes every one lose inner harmony and balance! I think your feeling comes from the years' accumulation of your devotion being carelessly ignored and lacking respect. It easily becomes mental torture to you no matter how strong you are. It may be a good floodgate to post such a discussion here but the best way to help out is some concern as well as changes from your families. I have seen an American movie about a mom who stops working for her families and arouses public attention. At last, her children and husband realized the hurt they casued by their carelessness and indifference and she eventually won their understanding, respect and help. I don't mean you should imitate the mother. After all, real life is different from movies and every one has to face his individual actual situation. However, I do think you should let your families , especially your husband know what you feel and what you think. Don't bear everything. You can't afford to be a saint and you really need to treat yourself better. God help those who help themselves, right? I hope your problem solved and things go better and better. God bless you, great mom!

I think your members of your family always love you. They just don't know how to express or just they feel it cost money to buy some gifts or they just neglect to express the love for you.But pls believe they love you.You really do a lot of things for them. I have a mom who do a lot of things for me.Since my mama divorced, she takes care of me.I know life is too hard for her.But she is a excellent mother.I am always happy.I love her deeply but I seldom express my love.

Every now and again, yes. Not as much anymore, mainly because I'm determined to minimize how much my family can ruin my days. They don't usually realize what's going on with me, and I've pretty much learned not to talk about things alot lest it 'cause problems that're hard to reverse within the family.

I completely agree with you on this one. I feel very unappreciated. I have my husband and 3 children with one on the way. I am very stressed right now. I am High risk and should be relaxing but I recieve no help! I cook, I clean, I take care of the children and it seems like I never get anything in return. It seems that the children get older and my husband thinks that the little things do not matter anymore. There have been times where I have just curled up after the children are in bed and just cry because I just dont know what to do anymore.

i'm sorry that you feel unappreciated. being a mom is indeed very hard. i hope you would not feel so bad about this that you would start holding grudges. sometimes, kids (i, for one) know for a fact that moms have done a lot of things but just feels shy or awkward to say the mushy thank you's and i love you's. you are great. you are strong. you are wonderful. you are a mom. sometimes, knowing that the kids are doing fine by themselves is already a silent reward. i have been a teacher myself, and even if my kids don't say anything or don't do anything on a normal day, i am still happy that i was able to teach them something, no matter how seemingly unimportant. :)

Mom 341, I know exactly what you mean. I too do not get any gifts for mothers day, christmas, or birthdays. But when their birthday or christmas is right around the corner, they make sure to let you know what they want. Isn't that amazing? I don't even get a hand-made card. Or a gift from the dollar store. Or a sincere thank-you. It amazes me that when they receive extra money, all they think of is buying new sneakers or clothes but they're not able to put aside $1.00 or $2.00 to buy their mom a gift from the dollar store. There was a time when i would cry about it but i don't anymore. I take great comfort in knowing that maybe someday, when their children do the same thing to them, they will know what it feels like to not be appreciated.

I agree!! I get so depressed when people don't look into how much effort were involve in completing a certain task and take it for granted. People Unappreciative people are the worst type of human alive =.=