Have you ever kicked your child out of the house?

Not yet! But I am on the verge of telling my 18 year old to either move out or change his life style! Though he is legally an adult, he doesn't behave like one. Bumming around all day, playing PC games, sleeping all day and basically putting off any plans for the future. Some days I am so fed up and can't watch him doing nothing ( while under my roof), other days I think he is better off here where I can keep an eye on him. Just don't know... So a bit like you5rself I am torn between wanting him with me, and telling him to leave! Mind you, if he was 16, I'd probably would not kick him out (yet)...

imho there are many ways you can deal with a "grown up" teen. My way would to GIVE him the responsibilities of a grown up and see how he likes it. He is allowed out on week end nights. He has to get HIMSELF up for school/work and if he is late privalliges are revoked. He has to do his own laundry. He has chores to do around the house to earn his pocket money/freedom, if he fails to do it his privallages are revoked. He has to be home on a week night before a certain hour all to be agreed with him present. He pays for his own cell phone/computer games etc. Literally give him his ADULT freedom, responsabilities and all. He has to make his own meals at weekends and when he gets a job he pays rent/utilities (only a minor amount).

I have not literally done it as my oldest is only 6. Though I've told her if she was not going to behave accordingly that she can spend sometime with her Grandparents or great Aunt. She hated that idea because it's "boring" over there & there's no toys & nothing to do. But when rules are too much for a 6yo to follow maybe she'd like my in-laws style she'd be making her bed everyday, putting her own laundry away ect and maybe she'd appreciate her life at home. ((hugs)) sorry you are going thru this... My friend from highschool she's going thru this right now to some degree. Her one child got pg and had a baby @ 15 (almost 17yrs old now) didn't even know the father's name, just his "street name" & the guy was 20 something!!! The PD is still trying to find him. Then the other one was just found by the pd she ran away 2 months ago & during that time missed an appearance for shoplifting and is sitting in Juvi. I pray everyday that my children will have more respect for us and the life we try to give them while they are a child then to act in such a manner. Good Luck to you!

I had to put my eldest son a few years back when he turned 18. Up until that time he had many run-ins with the law for thefts, underage dating of young girls under 15. When he turned 18, actually the day he turned 18, my grandfather was in serious medical condition and I was upset about that, my son made a comment to me, he said he was an adult now and I could not stop him from doing anything he wanted and I do not tell him what to do. So wife and I made the discussion to have him move elsewhere. Now he is in prison for many errors of his adult life so far.

He is a teen isn't it? I came here just after reading the title. I was about to share my story when I was a little kid and my mum gave me a punishment of living outside my house for 3-4 hours but this is more serious that I could think. Teens do feel that they are at top of the world and they don't need parneting any more. With all modern people around, it is very difficult handling teens. I have seen my teen age and I feel very scared when my kid would be a teenager. I don't know if you were over board or not but this is scary for me too!

No, you are just both human being and a mother. As a human being, you are not excused from being hurt but as a mother, you can not help but worry about your son. Try to gain back his trust irst before imposing rules.

Welcome to the world on mid teens. Your son is at the stage in life where all reason and logic do not apply. And if mom ever tries to set him straight you can believe he will do just the opposite. You did not over react at all. Over reacting would be to throw all his belonging out the door and not ever allow any contact again. It is easy to tell that is not at all you. There are times when you have no choice but to do just what you have done. Of course by asking him to come back the very next day kind of took the effect away but you had the right idea. Children at this age think somehow there is very little more they need to know about life and there is no way they are going to listen to you. Especially when it means they can't do what they want to do. Your idea is what almost every parent wants to do at some point just to try to wake them up. Nothing will teach better than experience. Don't worry about it. You will no doubt face this again and again but there will come a day when he will all of a sudden realize how smart Mom was. That is payoff day for all he put you through. It comes from being on their own and really having to deal with life. My daughter came to us when in her early 20's and said that she had no idea how we ever put up with her. LOL There will come that day for you but in the mean time just keep him as safe as he will let you.

Well my boys aren't teenagers just yet and I understand being a mom pushed over the edge. I understand how you got there but I would say that talking to your son through his teenage girlfriend is probably not the best idea- it just leads to further misunderstandings and more arguments between the two of you. I think you were absolutely right to make him come home- now maybe you could talk to him and try to set standards of behavior for the future and try to remember that at 16 they aren't people anymore but little terrors that try to drive their parents crazy!!!

Oh,maybe there are some soft ways to solve the problems. You can talk with him and tell him that you care him and love him .His behavior made you worry. You can hear how he think about this just like friends.