Have you checked your partner's text message on the sneak?

no. never. we respect personal items like cellfones as a private thing. nobody in our family will ever dare check messages on someone else's cellfone. we don't even take the calls if we heard someone's fone is ringing unless the owner is busy and he/she asks us to go ahead and take the call for them. otherwise, we leave it well alone. when at home, everyone with cellfones can leave their fones lying around at any part of the house, without ever having to worry that someone might read their text messages or something. so i have never checked my boyfriend's text messages ever. not even on the sneak. and yes, trust is very important. there should be trust between you guys to make a relationship work and never do anything that would somehow violate that trust. coz trust is earned over time, not given in an instant. when trust is broken, it will become harder to trust that person once again.

I have never done that. You go snooping, you open yourself up for things you may not be ready to see and or deal with.

Dear friend, I hope the role of trust have a great part in relationships especially with our partner. I do if partenrs have this they have nothing to hide they both open each as they both are honest to each other. In that case there is no need of sneaking others message and may be even the other side may be willing to give his/her messages to read text without any objects as they have nothing hidden. I hope this would give a stronger relationship.

hi libramillie,No i have not checked yet.Cause i have not made yet. Have a nice week end.

No its never a good idea to so unless you suspect something of your partner. I did it once when I suspected that he was cheating on me. I did get my answer and well that was the end of that relationship.. but I would never do that again.. Its impolite, and shows lack of respect from you if you did do that..

On a sad note, I would have to answer that question as a yes, I have checked his text messages. Why? All because of a dream. Very weird dream, but that is besides the point. My dream did lead me right though. I found a couple of not so nice (for me at least) text messages in his phone.

In certain relationships I was in, I didn't feel the need to do it but in one in particular I had to. He was busy off doing too many things he had no business doing and I needed to get to the bottom of it. He told me that him and his son's mother didn't get along and didn't talk. After looking at messages that he was too stupid to delete, I found out that he was actually talking to her everyday telling her he loved her and he wanted their relationship to work and other things of that nature. So I was lied to. I never told him I saw those messages, I just told him to get his stuff and leave my house. I don't do things like that normally but this was one time I felt like I simply had to...

No that is not something that I have done. I'd hope my partner would have better sense than that to engage in that kind of behavior when I have the knack for knowing what is going on anyway. Not to mention, that is one of the easier ways I could catch them in the act. Anyway, that's wrong. I wouldn't get into their phone without their permission because it's not mine. We may be together but it still doesn't change the fact that it's not my property.

yeah.. i do check sometimes and ask rarely.. its only that if u trust ur partner then nothing can remove that trust.. MORE SO, IF SOMEONE HAS TO HIND THEN HE OR SHE CAN SIMPLY DELETE WITH OUT UR KNOWLEDGE TOO...

Nope I would not due such a thing. If there is that much lack of trust I just could not be with them.

i chected. but just see which joke in it. never see the message . i don't want to think a lot about it. and i think it it freedom for her to make friend out side. and i am very happy when she find friend out side.

There is just me and my husband at home and everything in our house belongs to both of us. Our cellphones are just around, any one of us is free to answer a call or read a text message when the other is busy with something. We don't waste time sneak checking on the other's messages because we both are conversant people and we talk about each other's activities at the end of the day. There are times he receives early morning or late night greetings from a younger woman he met in a place where he frequently takes his lunch and he tells me. I also have my share of messages from male acquaintances but all these are purely forwarded quotations or Bible passages. I don't know how many out there are just like us but we are comfortable just the way we are. No secrets to keep, no skeletons in the closet. Maybe because aside from the trust and confidence, love and respect that we have for each other as husband and wife, we also are the best of friends. Hello, libramillie!