When to let go?

In my opinion, the "spark" that you should be feeling is gone. If you do meet-ups with her just because it's your "obligation" as her boyfriend, then let go. That's not loving anymore. Ask yourself if you easily get attracted to other women now because if you are, then sad to say.. the spark is gone :( Personally, I already went through this type of situation so I know how you feel. And it's with my ex boyfriend. I don't really miss him anymore during those times but there's still the feeling of "I still have obligations 'cos I'm her girlfriend". I still load up my cellphone just to call him even though I don't want to load up anymore.. Maybe.. just maybe.. What you feel for her now is .. pity? I don't know though. You're the only one who knows :) Just always keep in mind that people do change. And so is love.. It hurts but it's true :( However, I think you can get the feeling of "spark" back by always having heart-to-heart conversations with her. Try it. There's no harm in trying. Good luck to your relationship with her and happy mylotting! :)

You don't want to loose her but you're not looking for her... Maybe there's something wrong. Why not try to talk to her.. Why not make another thing that you can do comfortably with her., Then ask yourself if you really love her, or is she the right one... Maybe the thing you loose is just the affection not the love.. try to realize such things... God bless

oops,it seems that you havent loved your gf anymore.....yeah,it is big trouble between you two,you know, everything would change but not the real love. I think you like the new feeling, but you felt bored with her now. I only suggest you not to hurt your girlfriend's heart...never..

if you don't like her anymore ,better to break up with her as soon as possible. if you keep the relationship reluctantly,it also break someday later. why don't stop it now.

You see her is because she is your girlfriend, it seems you don't love her.I think if you don't love her anymore please do let her go. It is no good for both you. Someday in the future there will be someone trully love her and want to marry her.

Maybe you should take a vacation, be away for a couple of weeks to clear up your feelings, if you do miss her during that time it means you stil feel something for her! On the other hand if you don't miss her at all. I think it truly means that it's over then :( It's sad but it can't be avoided.

Is there some type of activity you two used to do but you haven't in a while? Like a walk in a park or having dinner at your favorite restaurant? If so, go get her and do that.Or is there something you have always wanted to do but haven't yet? Then do that. In other words woo her all over again. Go on a first date rewind. Go do what you did on that first date.Good Luck.

My idea is don't push yourself to do anything. Feelings can not be controllable that easily. If you always try to love her, you'll get tired of this soon. So just be yourself.

if she also love you .please marriy her. and with her for her long life. you will very happy for her with long life. i suggest you marriy her. and you will happy with her. not all man married a women feel happy with a long time.

maybe you're just too used to her? you see her all the time that your accsutomed to see her. how bout you try this, whenever you don't miss her just don't see her, and if you actually do miss her then you see her, and when you don't have her as much in your life as you do now, you will either want her back in your life more often or not. so depending on which one it is then you'll know. if you want her, stay with her, if you don't want her then its best to let go, and be friends, the longer you stay on if you don't like her, the more you'll hurt her and if the wound gets deeper you may have a chance of never ever being her friend again. good luck and god bless. cheers mate.

Hi...don't get surprised if it happens and it has to happen one day....because in most cases the initial spark will not last till the end .at that time try to renew your relationship .otherwise life will become boring for you and your girl also.....still you don't want to loose her that means you like her so much.keep it up.

try to reflect why all of a sudden you felt some coldness between you and your girlfriend. if it just happend without any reason at all i think you both need some space. space for the both of you to realize if the absence of each other makes you realize you cant live without one another. if the space in between you two gave you an opportunity to do things separately in a positive way without each others presence it means that its better you both have to move on. its better to talk about it than pretend that everythings ok when in fact its not. maybe she needs some time too for herself without you knowing it coz she doesnt want to hurt you too. sometimes when a couple has been together for quite a long time the excitement and magic you felt before tends to lessen . routinary. if you both decide to try to keep the relationship you need to reminisce and remember why you both fell in love with each other in the first place.

you have to think what is best for her. Do you really love her or is it out of friendship that you make the effort? Is it fair for her to be with someone who isnt really "in-love" with her? You really cant think about whats best for you in this case you have to think what is best for her:)

A mature man say's "i need u ,because i love u"...immature " i love u, because i need u"! which is which?? For me if the person is not interested anymore why not to let her/him go..life most go on. I do believe that the right ONE will come.

iceblade007, Who says that a relationship of an "X" amount of years will guarantee a it be a lasting one and eventually result in marriage? Probably only in the eyes of an outsider because in the eyes of a stranger, he/she is not part of that wholesome experience and we are always guilty of judging the quality of relationship based on its length. Of course in reality, that’s completely erroneous and I think your experience here is the best factual lesson. All uncommitted relationship built on emotional grounds ends up in contradiction and is oxymoron. You can only have an uncommitted relationship if it’s built on physical and/or materialistic grounds. You cannot be emotional and yet unemotional - just like you cannot exist yet not exist simultaneously. Take care.

you sure sound tired of the relationship but you still love her. that is the problem, peace brother , or hurdle in young relationships. they think life is all about love. love is like the icing on the cake that is life. one should try to have and carve a life out for himself first. you know, bake the cake first. the cake can stand without the icing. meaning life can be full just by living it the way you should live it. but the icing without the cake is useless. meaning life with only love is nothing. there should be the real meaning of having a "life". carving out a life you can offer your girl and be proud to face anybody with because you were sure that you really gave it all and made it all happen for your girl.

I think if you are still loveing each other,you should keep the relation.maybe you are just lacking of passion.you can have a trip together.Just finding the feeling.If you are not loveing her any more ,you should let go.It's good for both.

i was the same way with my ex bf we were together for 2 years and the relationship just got old it just became more of a evryday habit kind of thing when i would go see him after i got off work we would always do the same things it was the same routine evryday it seemed like i went to see he more out of habit then actually wanting to spend time with him. To make a relationship last you have to go out and do things together and try new things. You have to keep things exciting and not the same old thing evrytime your together. I know its hard after you've been together for a while because you already know evrything about them and have done so much together but this is alot that you can do to have fun and feel likes its your first date again and then you'll remember how fun it is and why yall are together in the first place.