Runaway Bride! Cannot believe this!

United States
May 2, 2009 2:23pm CST
Basic Facts: My niece is 17 years old and in the 11th grade. She met this guy who is 20 and dropped out of HS in the 10th grade and has been in trouble for theft. They have part time jobs and make minium wage,it would be very hard for them to make it on their own. My niece is now pregnant and they are getting married. Okay! Well, my mom told me that I should throw a wedding shower for her... I was very hesitant, but my mom did her guilt trip and just made me feel so bad for not being more supportive. She was like "they are starting their life so we should do everything to help"... I spend 2 hours wrting out invites while fighting a 2.5 year old off me. I planned everything, we had down what mom was bring, everything! A lot of money was put into this. Niece went to Target and registered a ton of mostly useless stuff. These invites went out like 2 weeks ago! People are buying and have made plans to come! I get a call from my mom last night... She called off the wedding!!!!! LAST WEEK! I cannot believe this! She never called me. I cannot believe this.
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laglen
@laglen (19759)
• United States
2 May 09
I am so sorry for you. But you can't expect adult behavior from a child. Also, I am willing to bet it is for the best that she not marry him.
smartie0317
@smartie0317 (1610)
• United States
2 May 09
I can understand how you feel on so many aspects of this issue. I live with my mother and she often used to make me do things like this with similar results. You have to understand, the older generations did things differently with more respect and formality. The younger generation, as shown by your niece, is very disrespectful and entitled. I know this and I'm only 5 years older than your niece. I suggest the next time your mother tell you to do something like this for her, say you're willing to help but if she wants to do something like this for someone she has to do all the leg work and pay for it. I also think you should talk to her about when to help and when not to. Some people you just can't help. Thankfully, your neice is not getting married to such a loser, but she seems like the type who holds herself back and will not get far in life. I am sorry for her bad and disrespectful behavior.