Money issues

No, you're not wrong, but I think you need to approach this differently. Just make write down how much he, our husband makes monthly, and deduct all your bills. Then, see if there any left over. I doubt there will be enough to cover someone else's rent and in doing this your husband will see that. Good luck.

I think logically your husband should see that it's much better for them to move in with you for say a couple of weeks while they try to find new a job(s) and a new cheaper place to live. They will probably be willing to contribute towards bills and you can split doing the groceries.

If you think that helping his friend will put you in dire trouble, then you can always deny and apologize for it. Helping is good I know, but what if something goes wrong on your end and you are pushed out? But if you think you can't help him by giving him money, then you can let him stay for a while, which would greatly reduce the stress. bourne

Well! I think your husband is a very kind hearted man, cause in current time it is very hard to find people like him. But then I don't say that you are wrong here as you are trying to protect your family. Please make sure if you are able to help him out why not go ahead. A good act of kindness could go a long way. The famous scholar Vivekananda once said "That money is worthless that does not come in use to help others".

Not at all, your family comes first then your friends, and your husband should know this. Good things do come those who help others but sometimes it can takes months or years for those good things to come and mean while you and your family are homeless and hungry. It would be cheaper to have him move for a month or two then to pay his rent for a month. I mean after all, all you have to do is feed him, and food is cheaper then rent. So I would so No absolutely NOT on paying his rent versus him moving in.

I don't think you are wrong or selfish.Of course you should think your family first. Friends should help each other but not in financial way. if your husband's friend is really cares your husband and you, he should not request or accept the offer. I understand your feeling. It happens with my parents too. They don't have enough money for themself, but some friends borrowed money from my father and never return. My mother was upset too. Take easy. you can't resolve the problem in one night.

You are right in putting you foot down but is your husband being able to provide for all of you as usual and then for his friend? If he is, then I think you should not push it too far, at least see the first month. You are not being selfish and worrying for your family and I know how tight money can be with only one earning member but its his call for his friend and I do believe he is matured enough to anticipate what he is getting into. Be sweet for this one month and then see if this continues and what your hubby has to say then.

Maybe he owes a lot of gratitude to this friend in the past, and he is trying to pay back? It may help if you try to know the reason of your husband's desire to help him in this way. Or maybe he thinks that bringing in his friend home will be awkward/inappropriate for you and your kids, so he doesn't like him staying with you? If your husband is bent in lending him the 1 month rent money I don't think it's worth fighting over, after all it is he who is earning. Make compromises,like instead of 1 full month rent, lend half only. Perhaps there are expenses you could forego or delay? Your husband may have a way to make both ends meet, why don't you ask him? We don't know when we may be in the other shoe, it sure would be good to have a friend like your husband who is willing to help a friend in need.

I would support your husbands desire to help a friend, but make it very clear that some sacrifices will have to be made... get rid of cable TV, or downgrade your internet account, or sell off an extra vehicle, or take out a short term loan to do it... or tell him you will have to start working!

No I don't think you are wrong. I do and always have believed that you need to take care of your family first. How can you help someone else out if you can't take care of yourself first? Why would you risk not being able to provide and take care of your own family. I would do as much as I could for my friend, but not put myself in the same situation as them.

Your husband no doubt is a good person. But he has to plan ahead for his family also. If his friend can find a temporary to hang around for another month, why not ask him to work? If he is been able to. Man needs to work, and no matter how hard it is. We all gotta make money to pay bills.

hi,i think first of all you need to know how close is that friend to your husband,try to keep yourself in the same situation if your close friend need you in the same situation,if you would help her then.if not then try to find out how long would he be staying with you,if it is amatter of a few days or a month or so,i think you should manage it for your husband at least but if it is a matter of staying for a long time then ofcourse it will affect your financial life adversely. you should talk to your husband about this,you can ask him clearly about how long will he stay with you people.then tell him how long can you avoid this.even if you have an argument you should finally solve this issue.your husband must also understand you.

i think ure not wrong ure trying to do wat is rght fr the familyy but u need to make it known to ur husband the current financial situation u are in if he doesnt listen make him understand in a polite manner .......if he is wise he will listen to wat u say and act accordingly....