Why being "good"is bad?

Hi neelianoscet, I am that person. I alwasy think about all the others, never for my self. I know that is stupid. But I feel that is who I am, if I did not it would not be me. But of course...I am thinking more and more about it and try to change it a little bit...if I do not feel for doing something then I do not do it. There is a point when you have to change your way and start rewarding your self for who you are.

being good is bad when extreme goodness is abuse and the giver is often the victim of his goodness. it then becomes bad when you let other tolerate your kindness abusing you every now and then.

yeh many a times and i feel bad that inspite of the fact that i am being good its not just being appreciated as its not noticeable maybe bcz ppl feel that i am made like tht to be good to evryone always. i also feel being good makes ppl take advantage of you and also take you granted so that hurts me to very great extent and cant really digest that than at tht moment i decide to stop being good but tht somehow doesnt really works and i always end up being the way i am....btw good discusson and welcome to mylot...

I have always been good to my friends. But sometimes you have to watch who your true friends are. Your true friends will be thankful for what you do for them and they will return the favor back even if you don,t ask for it.

It happens to me all the time. But I can say no and pretend I am not aware. By nature some of us are giving but other are just parasites. I go on doing my duty and will look to God for my reward.

Some times, be bad is be good ^^ It is the tao, no one can be only one thing all the time

I do not think goodness becomes bad, how other people react to one's good actions can be bad, how one feels about it can become bad. We all have been there sometimes.

this happens to a lot of women. we are always taking care of everyone elses needs and put ourselves last. you become resentful (silently) and allow neglect of yourself. For me, I had to learn that being selfish is not a bad thing and I had to learn how to say no to people. I am still working on it. You need to be good to yourself and then it is easier to do for others because you are satisfied.

yeah,being too good is being bad,I am certain about that.

Those type of people are called fair weather friends.They are only around when you're doing well (good weather).When you are not doing well they are not around(bad weather).

Yes i felt the same thing, when i do good to my friend or family memeber some time that turne bad or some time it will turn bad for me and they will be in good.

I used to be, but not anymore... I learned a lot from all my experience that there are user friends and there are really those who will drain you dry and suck your strength until you have nothing to give anymore. Until all that you have left is to feel sorry for yourself that you have fallen into that kind of trap. I don't know why some people are like that, maybe because at some part of our lives we let them use us as well. We've given them the opportunity to take advantage of us at some point. Which is why we must not let happen again once we learned. I choose to say yes when i only mean it, coz if you say yes to something when you really mean no, you're needlessly making an enemy. I say "yes" only when i mean yes and a firm "no" when i really don't want it.

Yes :(,reading it makes me feel sad really. When you're being too good, most people abuse and disregard it at the end. It's really sad that you're probably trying your best and nobody seems to appreciate it. But maybe, God alone appreciates it but when living in this World socially, it's a bit frustrating. I've come to this realization quite a number of times already but still continue to live normally and act out like nothing seems to happen. Being too good is "bad" not because you don't get appreciated but you attract people to abuse your kindness and in the end, it's you who failed.

being good always is not very good .so we should alwas not be so good that even get bluffed.as thos world is full of the evil things only so try to jolly and move on there is a lot of bad deeds increasing tha t ione could not cope up with that being good.

i think being too good to others mostly comes out to be bad, becoz being good i this world is counted in the terms of material things, like money comforts etc and when u stop giving that it will turn to badness, so better when you do good ten times, stop for a moment and think and think for yourself and take a look at your life where it is taking you to.

Sometimes it does! sometimes it also crosses my mind that being too good to a friend has some negative repercussions. However, helping a friend who is in need doesn't require a reward or even a thank you if you truly and honestly lend the helping hand without conditions. A THANK YOU is only a bonus to your good effort. If you help unconditionally, you will not feel bad when your efforts are not recognized nor will you feel left behind....however, this is the real world and I agree we sometimes feel bad when we give all our self to helping others and yet we only receive little or even no gratitude or recognition at all.

I totally understand what you are saying here. I feel like this sometimes. Being good rarely is 'good' for you. But anyway most of the times doing something good makes you feel better despite the thanks or the hypothetical consequencies. Good has to be done for good's sake not for having something back. Sure one doesn't have to be exploited for this. If people take advantage on you for your goodness then they don't deserve it, so you stop helping those people, but it doesnt mean for me that you have to be selfish.

Being "Good" I guess you never should expect anybody to return the favor in any shape or form. That in itself if selfish. ...That is a totally cynical way of viewing things

That is so cynical infact that I can´t see how you could live you day-to-day applying this "rule" to everything.