my heart is broken

While this will be of little help to you at the moment I can tell you from experience that we all, sooner or later, will experience loss. How we handle loss is the true refection of our character and can be and indicator as to how we survive them. I was married to my first wife for 37 years. Somewhere around the 30th year I discovered that she had had multiple affairs early in our marriage. I had suspected one but chose not to ask at the time but had no idea there were so many. It liked to kill me and I felt much like you do now. I went to a crises councilor and after several sessions I came to understand that we had been together all those years and were pretty good friends so I did not leave her. However in the end because of life circumstance at the time, it happened again. I divorced her this time. Once I got my feet under me again however I decided that I would get on some dating sites as I was not in the city I planned to move to following the contract I was working on. I had no intention of anything permanent...just finding someone to date. I did within a fairly short time and soon found myself married. I was lucky I think because it was a good marriage. However because she had never taken care of her diabetes she had many things wrong with her and within only about four years she passed away. In many ways this was much more difficult for me as she did not leave because she wanted to. However in time I found that I had two choices. I could sit there and live my life out alone or I could begin looking again. I knew that if I chose to be alone I would more than likely not live a very long life. Getting there was not easy by any means but with the help of a very good friend from church and my family I soon found my way again and again got back on some dating sites. I am happy to say that I am married again to a wonderful woman. Now I know this will be hard for you to relate to right now but please find someone you can talk to. I had a man from church that helped me greatly. Perhaps you can find the same. He was part of a ministry that did this for people. It was designed to just let you talk it out with a caring person and I can tell you it works wonders. You need that right now. This is an okay forum for discussion but for heart to heart it is not so good. If you would like to talk more of this with someone who really knows where you are right now I would be happy to give you my email address and we can talk that way. If not I wish you the very best and if you choose to respond here I will talk back. Remember this however...it will get better with time. IT WILL I promise.

Hi, sorry to hear that. well, what kind of heart broken are you? love? or get lost in this site? well, it is a good way to express yourself by write down what you feel here and let us know what is going on. We will respond back to you as soon as possible. Dont feel lonely, many of us here are the same and we will be there for you. I know one of those day could happen, but dont feel hopeless... thing will get better soon and think positive

Hello Baretrees. Welcome to myLot and it's great to meet you here. From someone who has experienced a lot of hurt, let me tell you this - at the moment the pain would be so severe that you may feel that it would never go away. Well, wounds never heal completely, but the pain does lessen in time. Try to have a hobby (even if it's blogging on myLot - it pays you anyway :-).... )or, join a gym and work out. Tire yourself out physically each day so that at the end of the day you are so tired that you would just like to hit the bed. When you wake up the next morning, you will find that the pain has lessened by atleast 0.000000000000001%. True, it takes very long for the pain to go down to the extent that it doesnt haunt you each moment. But you can make a start here. It has worked with me. All the best, and happy mylotting :-)

I've gone through alot of losses in the past couple of years and hang in there...I've been away from Mylot for awhile and have finally come back to it..All I can suggest it write out discussions if you need to talk there are some wonderful people on here that are supportive and give great advice...And go searching and see if there are any discussions you would like to respond too...That is what I do! join the groups that the discussion are in if it's something you are interested in!

Hello Baretrees! Welcome to mylot.com, hopefully this site helps you make friends. i have been a memeber for almost a year, so I love extending my hand for a freidnship offer. If an event you ever need to talk or get any advice feel free to write my inbox and add me as a friend if you would like. Well hopefully you do find people to talk to and discussions to respond to so that you don't feel like you are alone on this site but until next time baretrees NakitaLikely3617 is out. Hope you enjoy the site!

My heart is broken.......... Hello Baretrees, sorry to hear that you are experiencing a loss. Please feel free to share with me, I am experiencing a loss too. Please add me as a friend and we can pm each other. Let me warn you that this site might just start to get addicting. I will be glad to help you out all that I can but you should at least start out by reading some of the mylot guidelines. Hope to hear from you soon.....Thanks for posting.