Are you friendly?

Philippines
May 3, 2009 12:39pm CST
Or are you a snob? How do you make friends? People always say that I'm a snob, but the truth is, I'm just too shy. When people get to know me, that's when they realize that I'm not totally shy. In fact, I'm the opposite of it. I get to make new friends when a friend of mine introduces him / her to me. Then I'd say "hi" and that's it.
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13 responses
@larish (2234)
• Philippines
9 May 09
I am super friendly. I can get along well with new acquaintances. I can create topic to start of a discussion with a new friend. I am very talkative and inquisitive about another person's thoughts and opinions. I also think that this is my secret for having so much friends and acquaintances.
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• Philippines
9 May 09
Wow that's great. I bet you have lots of friends and you are easy to get along with. Cheers!
• United States
3 May 09
I am friendly, I think but some think I can be a snob at times. I tend to focus on my family and don't go out a lot- I do but its rare and I have a very set group of close friends that are of the same thinking as I am and my husband is. We are family minded people and tend to surround ourselves with other family minded people. It works for us and our children and I guess if that makes me a snob- then I am. Happy mylotting!!
• United States
4 May 09
I know friends are important too. My only point is that my family coms first and because I don't accept every invite- that leaves some thingking I am a bit of s snob. Good topic. Thanks and happy mylotting, again!
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• Philippines
4 May 09
Oh ok. I see nothing wrong with that. It is really nice to spend some time with family. But remember that friends will care for you too in times of troubles. Cheers!
• United States
3 May 09
I use be be a very shy person when I was a school girl. Always very shy to make friends.But I broke that shell or shield when I came to college. I think it all started with people teasing me. After a while when I could not take it any further I started teasing them back and making fun of them. This way I developed a lot of confidence. Then when it was my time to pass out from college, all my friends would come and tell me 'remember guys this girl use to be such a shy person and look at her now!'.Hey! hey!. But Redhornet I'm not telling you to go and start teasing every one. That's not good. I'm very sure that you will open out one day. So all the best!
• Philippines
4 May 09
Wow. You're amazing. You teased them back, LOL. Gave them a doze of their own medicine huh? Cool. Don't worry, I won't tease anybody. I think you're a cool friend to have. Cheers prettyeasy!
@rzrback (107)
• United States
3 May 09
Very friendly. Just sometimes I have problems where I can come across as a shy person since I don't just blabber about stuff out in public. If your one of my friends you would know that I talk a lot and I'm extremely nice.
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• Philippines
4 May 09
Well, you could be the life of the party then! It's nice to have a friend who can talk a lot. Conversations can get dull sometimes and people like you are always nice to have around to kill those moments. You're definitely a good friend to have. Keep cool buddy!
@SuzanaD (126)
• United States
22 May 09
I make friends easily sometimes, other times I am in a shy mood. I can be talkative and more outgoing when I know someone well.
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• Philippines
30 May 09
Hi SuzanaD. Yeah, sometimes we can get in a shy mood. Talkative and outgoing huh? I bet it is nice to hang out with you. Cheers!
• United States
2 Jun 09
I used to be really friendly and outgoing all the time, but I got a long term boyfriend, and now I am a lot less friendly. Its not because I am unhappy, but I just am unsatisfied with other relationships because him and I connect so well, so other people pale in comparison. It makes me really lonely. Has anyone else ever had this problem? I think I am the only one!
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• Philippines
4 Jun 09
Hmm. I think I get what you mean. You've set your boyfriend as your standard for your relationship with others. And when you are with other people, you compare them with what you and your boyfriend have in terms of being happy. That's Ok I guess. As long as you're happy.
@arcidy (5005)
• United States
3 May 09
Im a pretty good person most of the time. Sure sometimes I can act like a snob but I dont try to I just get carried away bragging sometimes wich I guess happens to a lot of people. But most of the time im a good person at least thats what everyone says to me.
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• Philippines
4 May 09
I believe you are a good person. I think you are right. Being a snob sometimes do happen to a lot of people. Have a nice day buddy!
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
People think of me as a snob because the truth is I observe people first before I make friends with them. So to others it will seem like I'm a snob but the truth is I just choose my friends wisely. I've been betrayed once and I really don't want it to happen again. I can be friendly when I think I can be secured with this person because trust is really a big deal to me. Once I've given that trust, that person should really take good care of it. Once it's broken, it will be hard for me to trust that person again or not at all. So yeah I'm not-so-friendly because I choose my friends.
• Philippines
2 Jun 09
I agree, trust can be easily broken but very hard to regain. Betrayal is such a terrible thing to do to a person. Better keep your guard up. Thanks for responding. Have a great day.
• United States
3 May 09
I am pretty friendly, though I only have a few close friends because that is all I really need. Close friends are better than having a bunch of friends I think. I used to be very shy a few years ago, but I have opened up a lot more and can initiate conversations, though sometimes my shyness comes back in certain situations. I don't think anyone has thought of me as a snob though, but I know of others who are shy and are thought of as snobs around other people, when they are really good people. The truth about someone comes out with time.
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• Philippines
4 May 09
I know what you mean. It's like the saying that, old and close friends are better than gold. I agree that having your close friends are all that we need. This is so true. They have known you and you've known them for some time and you have learned how to trust them and be comfortable with them.
@Bloggership (1104)
• Indonesia
8 May 09
The old man said "it is easy to get an enemy than a friend". But i think both of them very easy. It all depend from our self. If we doing good to somebody, than i believe that somebody will doing good to us too and they will be accepted as a friend.
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@jheLaichie (4438)
• Philippines
21 May 09
some says im friendly and others who just look at me and dont totally know me says im a snob. but really im not. i may be shy and so quite at first but when you get to know me, im as wacky as anyone could be. im even talkative and easy to be with. i love hanging out with friends and having fun with them. going out and participating on aything that may be productive for everyone of us.
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@AudraF (25)
• United States
3 May 09
I'm pretty friendly, but I guard my heart.
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• Philippines
4 May 09
This is good. You really have to guard your heart, someone might steal them unexpectedly. It's not easy being in a relationship just like that. It's sad if you get hurt.
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
People always say that I look like a snob. But really I'm not, I'm just really shy, and I'm not the kind of person to say hi or approach someone to start a conversation. That doesn't mean that I'm a snob though. =)
• Philippines
1 Jun 09
Yeah, I understand. It's hard to be too friendly, otherwise some will think you're a flirt. And it's hard to be too shy, otherwise you'll be thought of being a snob.