be a cheater?
By josephjota
@josephjota (109)
China
May 3, 2009 9:34pm CST
should i tell my wife that i am falling in love with another woman now since i do not want to become a cheater ,also i do not want to hurt both of them.
9 responses
@tinonzo (67)
• Philippines
4 May 09
Think long and hard before you decide what to do. Have you tried avoiding this other woman, so you wouldn't continue to fall in love with her? Have you tried hard enough to appreciate your wife and what she has done for you? Are you sure that you don't just want something different temporarily? Are you ready to throw away the relationship/marriage that you have vowed to keep?
@Starfishurricane (20)
• United States
4 May 09
I think that you should tell her. Sooner rather than later.
@angelbelle578 (1635)
• Philippines
4 May 09
Why do you fall in love with other woman? Dont you life your wife anymore? Has the feeling really gone? Maybe you have to think first about the circumstances if you tell her? Are you willing to loss her for the other woman. Are you sure that the feeling for this woman is forever. If you dont want to loss your wife just try to stop your feeling for this woman. I know its hard but if you really cant resist your feelings you have to choose whether your wife or that woman. If you choose the other woman, better tell your wife but be ready to loss her forever. You dont know how your wife will accept this fact.
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
4 May 09
well, you don't want to become a cheater? are you in love with another woman? and does she know about it?
First, if you are in love with another woman and she know about it. You are already a Cheater. Sorry to say that but it is true and nothing can change it. If you don't want to hurt your wife, then you should end it up quickly and nicely. Make sure another woman won't go and talk to your wife about it. If everything end nicely, then you don't need to tell her. If you tell her about it, I am sure she will be so mad and feel bad about you. I mean no longer trusting you.
Second, If you are in love with another woman but that woman never know about it. You should not have to do anything. Just forget about it and move on. No need to tell your wife and no need to let another woman know.
Hiding thing between each other is not good but as I am a woman, I could feel really hurt if my husband tells me about this matter. So think about it and do the right thing
@smileonstar (4007)
• United States
4 May 09
P.S. I just want to add. My point is choosing your wife rather than your other woman. Why? because your wife will be a lot better than that woman. So think what you have been through with and who is the best for you.
@sonusd (1547)
• India
4 May 09
I think you should not tell your wife because she will definitely get hurted its better for you that fro today just be honest for your wife and try to avoid that second lay immediately and as per your quesion I am suggesting you that you have to hurt your new girl friend
@sandal13 (142)
• India
4 May 09
First of all you'll have to figure out yourself if the feeling you have for the other woman is LOVE and not just attraction, and if you r really sure of spending the rest of your life with that woman and not with your wife than it would be better to be honest and confess this with your wife ,tell her about all the possible reasons why you think this relationship will not work anymore , be mature,patient and mentally strong becaus eonce you decide to confess everything you are going to face a troublesome,angry,hurt and depressed wife....
more over i think it would be better for her also to move away from your life if love does not exist anymore between you two, hopefully she will also get someone who will love her truelly and she'll love in return.
and i also think that you are right in your place by thinking that you dont wanna be a cheater ,thats a good decision .give her some respect and tell her about this yourself rather then letting her know from another source cos that would be the worst dcenario for you.
dont worry we are humans and we make mistakes its okay to accept it and make sure you dont hurt people . go ahead ! all the best !
@mitchii (154)
• United States
4 May 09
you should absolutely not be a cheater!!! you should tell your wife. it hurts worse in the end if you don't tell her.. supposed you don't tell her and she finds out? how would you think that would make her feel? that hurts!!!! so be a man and tell her i always say.. id rather you break up with me first than cheat on me any day!! so please, please, please!! do not make that mistake if you care about her feelings!
@rzrback (107)
• United States
4 May 09
I think you should stick with your wife since you've already agreed to that kind of dedication. If you just can't stay with her than I would be darn sure I like the other person enough before you told your wife. Better later than sooner as someone already said.
Prayers for you and I hope you get it worked out!
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