Things that kill a loving relationship.

I disagree with you. Of course you should share any major problems that are upsetting you. But I think that if you have a problem with something minor, it is ok to share that too. I will use your example of a paper cut. If you have to count money all day because you work at a bank and get a paper cut on your finger, it can make the day long and painful! The papercut is something minor, but even just the acknowledgement of it by your significant other can make you feel much better!

I think your advice is sound for certain types of committed relationships. However, if two people are best friends, then lovers second, this advice would be null and void. Relationships of that nature are too close to dance around the deceit of withholding information.

Secrecy. I think keeping secret will ruin a good and loving relationship. Every couple should have an open relationship so that they will have a lasting one. I think that most couples have secrets to themselves but then they should tell those things to their partners when it affects their relationships. I and my husband always talk everyday but sometimes I feel not talking to him when the problem has been told to him but still results are far from reality. I mean there are some problems that we both want to be solved or some dreams we both want to happen but we can't due to some reasons. But still it is important to have an open communication in a relationship. One of us gets affected when the other has problems or is worrying too much. I am the most who worries everyday but what can I do? I am just at home and still not getting any job. So I guess I just feel a bit frustrated and sad because I want to earn my own money and to buy things for our baby. But then again I want a strong relationship and so I open up everything to my husband. He knows when I feel sad and he has strong sense of what I am feeling.

Always communicate. No matter how big or how small you may think the problem is. Lack of communication will kill a relationship really quickly.

Hi, everyone goes through obstacles throughtout their day cause sterss.

i agree with you shubhosarker. i do what i say.so i keep we'll with my girl.and she do the same.some things we do need to tell each other.but not everything.like what you say as small as paper cut.especially some complains.do as little as you can.thats help full.

Doubt. People doubt each other so much no a days that they just cant seem to gt enough. One late night phone call from a colleague, one late home coming and poof raises all the doubts in the world. Couples should trust each other and they should have complete faith on their partner. bourne

I can definitely see where you are coming from however I also think that communication in any relationship is key. Sometimes if we don't discuss things going on in our lives that can create a barrier. I can also see where burdening your partner can be stressful but as long as you can talk things out if something is really weighing on your shoulders then that is very important. There are always going to be some obstacles however if you have a very loving relationship then you can work through anything. There is also a lot of baggage from some people going into different relationships and some of those past relationships have to remain in the past so it won't interfere in the next partnership.