She is jealous over a card!
@ScarletAlston (2693)
United States
May 4, 2009 1:07pm CST
My stepmother has been pretty much all I had as far as a mother figure since my mother passed in 2006. We hang out, we laugh, we talk on the phone for hours everyday, and she will help me through anything I am going through. However, my boyfriend and soon to be fiance's mother doesn't know me at all. He and I just started talking about why it is his mother always made me nervous. She has the same personality as my boyfriend and I felt like one crazy person was enough. The thing is, I decided to start to get to know her and as a good gesture, I am going to send her a card for Mother's Day since she was complaining that her kids aren't getting her anything. I told my stepmother about this and she is actually jealous! I mean, she actually got quiet and claimed out of nowhere on the phone that she had to go take a nap. For Mother's Day, not only did I organize a barbecue for all the mothers that we know and made her the 'Mother of Honor' for all that she does for me, but I even got her a white gold pendant that reads her name and has little birthstones for me, my two sisters, and even my new son that dangle from it..but she is salty about a 2.99 card! What should I do about this? She even said today that she might not be able to make it to the cookout. It's at her house!!
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@kitty42 (3923)
• United States
15 Sep 09
Hello 
Well although I am late I hope she has gotten over this by now 
sometimes people do not like to share thats it, you said the two of you are really close you speak on the phone for hours, she feels wow, now what? if you and your boyfriends mother connect where does that leave her, its really great that you have her , sorry for the lost of your mom,you are really blessed to have a step-mom that seems to care so much for you, that is beautiful, like I said I am late so how is things now? did she come out the house for the barbeque? please say yes lol
Well although I am late I hope she has gotten over this by now sometimes people do not like to share thats it, you said the two of you are really close you speak on the phone for hours, she feels wow, now what? if you and your boyfriends mother connect where does that leave her, its really great that you have her , sorry for the lost of your mom,you are really blessed to have a step-mom that seems to care so much for you, that is beautiful, like I said I am late so how is things now? did she come out the house for the barbeque? please say yes lol@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
22 Feb 10
It's been a while but she did come and get drunk and got all emotional and basically ruined the whole thing for everybody...
@cream97 (29087)
• United States
22 Feb 10
Hi, ScarletAlston. Your stepmother should feel ashamed of herself. That is nothing to get jealous of. This woman that you are giving this card to will soon be your future mother-in-law. And, I guess your stepmother is thinking that this woman will take her place in being your mom. You should try to talk to her and tell her how you feel. If she really loves you, she will accept another woman that may very well soon be in your life. This is nothing to get mad about at all. It is silly.. I hope that your stepmother will realize that she is being very petty about something as small as this.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
23 Feb 10
Thanks for responding! She already had issues since my mother (her best friend) passed away. Since I had my baby, she thinks she can run my life and its not even going to work that way. She is still to this day angry at my son's father's mother and every chance she gets she behaves like a 5 year old..it's sad..
@mrbranan (1012)
• United States
4 May 09
I was wondering if you went to her sat down and explained it to her the way you told the story to us. Maybe if you tell her how much she means to you and that this other person could never replace her in your life that it is just a gesture of good will she would understand. It sounds to me like she in not secure in her relationship with you and you may just need to help her feel secure.
@ScarletAlston (2693)
• United States
4 May 09
I really told her that I was doing this because I am going to marry this guy and it takes her a while to accept any girlfriend that her two sons have. It took my boyfriend's younger brother's girlfriend five years to be accepted and I've been here for a little over ten. My stepmother's response was something like "I don't see why you have to do all that. She is not the queen of egypt or anything." Now, keep in mind, her gifts the cookout and the necklace took me way into a thousand dollars that was being saved for my wedding and my boyfriend's mother's card was only three bucks...I speak to this woman everyday. I tell her the most personal things about me, and I look over the fact that her family never liked me or my own mother and she still wants to act like a baby about this..
@kprofgames (3091)
• United States
15 Sep 09
This is an older discussion and obviously the time has passed for this barbecue, I was curious as to how it all turned out.
I understand the jealousy thing - that coming from my own mother and in-laws. I don't understand it, but I'm walking lightly around it.
I was wondering how it all turned out for you.
